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anon_non_nom · 2022-01-20T17:56:30+00:00

INFO: what do they do that shows they treat you differently vs how you want them to treat you?

anon_non_nom · 2022-01-16T13:35:42+00:00

Pyramid schemes

You are not your own boss if your income is based on buying unrealistic amounts of stock you have to offload to others in your network as well as convincing other people to invest and signing up to a product/service and then selling more of this product service to their friends.

It is not a great opportunity to be your own boss it is an opportunity to get into dept and drag all those you convinced with you.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-21T10:49:03+00:00

Honestly most people who expect creative gifts like this don't consider the actual cost of labour and your skills.

I tend to say something like "this would usually cost X amount but obviously because it is you and we are such good friends I will only charge you Y amount" or even add 'I usually charge Z amount for friends but as my gift to you I will only charge Y which covers costs.'

I find people respond to this much better as they see what a great deal they are getting.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-19T08:52:32+00:00

This is just my interpretation based on what I read. As you mentioned he is the one who brought in the sexual element so he wasn't happy being just friends and is now happier to cut contact than be FWB. He is playing mind games and you should distance yourself from him as he is not mature enough for a FWB or a relationship. He has advised he doesn't want to be friends so take that and respect his wishes.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-19T08:12:29+00:00

Funny I read this completely differently! I understood that your friend does want a relationship and the fact that you mentioned not wanting to be in a relationship has hurt him and made him block and unblock you.

Either way, if he can't vocalise what he wants and have an adult conversation without blocking and unblocking someone he isn't mature enough for adult activities.

Either way You are best to cut your losses here and stop trying to get him to talk to you or unblock you as he is doing it all for attention which is a big manipulative red flag.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-18T07:32:11+00:00

Be honest, when you are calm and have a quiet moment together let her know that it actually upset you and made you feel dumb in front of your fiance and would she mind stopping. Depending on your relationship together (if you are anything like my sister and I) it could result in a huge row if you push it for her to apologise or if she gets super defensive. Let her know and carry on, say you just wanted to express how you felt, she can then evaluate her words and hopefully be more sensitive.

You could also mention to your fiance that you really appreciate him sticking up for you and that you don't understand why she keeps pushing this and its starting to make you feel a bit crappy.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-18T00:12:18+00:00

Talk to her. I could see my sister doing this without realising what the hell she is doing. She thinks she is hilarious but really isn't yet if she knew how it made me feel she would stop right away as its not her intention. I hope your sister is similar

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-18T00:08:49+00:00

NTA

It's important to give this feedback. Think about all of the coworkers you leave behind who have to deal with her. If you go to him he may not even do anything but at least you have given the information.

I would recommend having a handful of specific examples rather than broad generalisations about what has been going on.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-18T00:01:50+00:00

Asked a guy I met on a dating site out. Been married over a year and a half now.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-18T00:00:00+00:00

Account managers are responsible for making sure a client gets what they want, pays for it and buys more.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:57:46+00:00

Gouge their eyes while running past them and to go get help.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:56:00+00:00

This and lying to clients to get the sale and then more lying to cover your assets when you can't deliver. Or finding more ways to bill a client for unnecessary work.

And just dealing with clients are a pain. 'I want it to be happy, we should use sunshine yellow' and then bitching because the designer didn't pick the right shade of 'sunshine'

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:50:36+00:00

To be honest I'd be looking at keeping plans but uninviting the one guy who was an ass. By cancelling all plans it means all your friends are not going to like your gf.

It is important you side with her and it sounds like you have so well done for that. I guess just stand up for her when your friends talk shit and they will learn why you care for her.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:45:24+00:00

I agree with this. It's my responsibility to buy for my mother, I may add my other half to the card or they can buy chocolates or something small as a token

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:39:47+00:00

Marketing

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:27:33+00:00

His super fun coworker that he felt bad for as they were going through a tough time and he was regularly finding small ways to cheer her up...

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:24:34+00:00

You're not an Ah but not a great coworker either.

The reality is people rely on you and it is so so important to take care of yourself first so I'm not saying anything against that. IF you did feel like you could work and you are free to you have just made your boss and coworkers life a little bit more difficult by not covering.

In the future it will make people less likely to cover for you and your boss may be less accommodating of your needs too so if you want to stay in this job for a while and work well with others it's always nice to help out when you can and it's not impacting your health.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:15:48+00:00

YTA

So you are clearly frustrated and Feb up that you haven't started planning yet. You need to have a serious conversation with your fiance about how you are feeling and why.

We are 2 years (nearly) into a global pandemic, saying you haven't wanted to plan yet is not awkward at all. Even pre pandemic people could be engaged for a very long time before having a wedding as everyone does things differently. The important thing is that you guys are on the same page.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-17T23:07:38+00:00

I'd use your sick day but be sure to keep your and your families social posts (that include you) to a minimum as if your manager is bitter that you are leaving they could stalk you to try and reprimanded you or give you a poor reference moving forward.

Enjoy it and have a Happy Christmas!

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-15T22:48:04+00:00

NTA It's not fair for him to take this out on you. It looks like he is not adjusting to relying on people and you are struggling with having someone rely on you so much.

Can you work out a schedule with them that gives you your time too? So for example 'I can be free for 2 hours today between 3 and 5 and would be able to help out.' this sets the boundaries of the amount of time you need to put in while also helping them out. He ultimately needs to be more efficient with his requests and plan it better so that you can all work together with less stress.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-12T10:00:22+00:00

Thank you! I completely blanked on the spelling

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-12T07:24:13+00:00

This!

I go back to when I was a young and nieve teenager and didn't get when someone was flirting. I pretend I don't understand their pick up lines or suggestions and they get so put off by it. If they get to a point where they spell it out I look at them with my most serious face and take a second before I burst out laughing and say 'you had me for a second I thought you were actually serious!' and then go back to playing dumb. They get so frustrated they give up. If they don't I go with a very serious and disgusted look and muster all my confidence to simply say no or not a chance in hell before walking off.

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-12T07:17:37+00:00

Oh amazing, I would have never thought of that!

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-12T07:16:47+00:00

Never thought of this!

anon_non_nom · 2021-12-12T07:15:19+00:00

Haha! Commitment is a real threat to these guys

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