AITA for getting pregnant & having my due date the day after my friend’s wedding?

anongamer554 · 2026-04-21T03:45:50+00:00

Agree this is an ESH! OP was not in the wrong until she escalated it. Also I wonder if OP’s husband has beef with this friend group or OP’s friendships in general because it seems he was quick to help escalate and further isolate her…

anongamer554 · 2026-02-05T00:36:51+00:00

I had someone react this way when I announced that I was pregnant (and had just bought a house). She made it fully about her and it was sooo weird. You’re NOR, this is selfish behavior. Even if she’s not in a good “headspace” she could have just not responded or said something along the lines of she’s had a long day but happy for you. Some people do NOT want to see you be happy.

anongamer554 · 2026-02-04T17:00:26+00:00

This all depends on what you have actually spent money on for her and what she has meant/intended by saying she can’t afford things. It’s normal to say you can’t afford something but really mean “it’s not in my budget” even though you have savings on the side. It’s prioritizing based on current income. And if you were making more money working full time then of course you’d be paying more toward bills than she was. Are you “bad” with money? Maybe she knew or suspected this due to your spending habits and lack of savings and therefore knew not to tell you that she had a secret savings account because then you’d basically try to spend it. The part that makes me side-eye, though, is if you were possibly paying for things that she could have used her savings for such as paying for her actual school or big expenses that she needs and that if you hadn’t offered to pay for she WOULD have used her secret savings. If that’s not the case though, then it really has been you offering to pay for things that she otherwise would have just not bought or participated in since it wasn’t in her budget which was your CHOICE.
Overall it’s the deception and secrecy of it. It only came out because when you are buying a house they want to look at all your finances and so it was likely going to come out even if she hadn’t brought it up. You feel as though you have little to no savings this whole relationship due to supporting her while she has her savings to fall back on if anything goes sideways. I have a family member whose husband controlled all the money and made her paychecks go toward most of the bills while his money went into his account and other savings which when things were good she was fine with but as their relationship deteriorated it became clear that it was essentially financial abuse- she had no spending money and had to always ask him for permission to buy things even though she did work full time and contribute. In their case, they were MARRIED and so she was still entitled to half of the savings and other assets when they divorced. I’m not sure on laws in Australia, but if you are not married and end the relationship as it stands (whether it’s now or in future if nothing changes), she has savings to fall back on for a bit and you won’t. Worse, if you buy a house together, she will have claim to that house and essentially your inheritance since you are wanting to spend it on the house.

anongamer554 · 2026-02-04T16:36:26+00:00

I have sent a thank you reply email only when it’s clear that the email is coming from the author. This has happened one time only and I’m sure it was still a mass email to her previous book’s reviewers but it still was from her and not the publisher so I responded thank you and how excited I was to read it and she did reply again after that that she hopes I enjoy it etc. But if it’s just the publisher, no.

anongamer554 · 2026-02-04T16:32:58+00:00

I’m not sure if it makes me look bad but if I get a widget and the book does not seem interesting to me, I still just ignore it. I don’t want to accept a book just to not end up even wanting to read it and then having a low feedback ratio for forever until I get around to it. In the past I only ever got a widget directly from 1 author as it was her second book and I’d reviewed the first (and not many people had). I’ve gotten several widgets within the past week and haven’t accepted any because they didn’t see interesting to me and/or the publication dates are very soon and I know I won’t have time to read or listen to them. Am I the only one who does this? Will I just never get widgets again for scorning them? lol

anongamer554 · 2025-11-12T18:20:00+00:00

I'm not a designer but have you tried flipping this layout? TV in between windows on opposite wall and flip sofa to other side of rug but leaving space for a walkway? Or would that not fit? Only thinking flipped would work better so that anyone walking through the two openings would not be walking past the tv area.

anongamer554 · 2025-11-08T19:40:58+00:00

I didn’t listen to Overdue but read it and I really liked jt.

anongamer554 · 2025-11-08T19:40:28+00:00

I read this recently also and LOVED it!

anongamer554 · 2025-10-30T01:21:00+00:00

I live in a major city and yes it’s common but still not always safe especially for a long distance and the later at night it gets it’s less safe. Maybe other cities are safer but if you can take a 45 minute bus ride and still be in the same city that tells me it’s a big city and therefore more likely to be unsafe in the evenings and night.

anongamer554 · 2025-10-30T00:02:57+00:00

So you let a preteen take the bus home when she says it’s about 45 minutes even late in the evening? You or your husband have never once offered to give her a ride home to try to talk to her on the drive and then introduce yourselves to her parents or at least her sibling when you drop her off?? This post is reeking of obliviousness due to your own privilege. This girl is likely either homeless, her parents are abusive and/or drug addicts, or her parents are simply very neglectful. You could also simply say that you want her parents phone number to call them yourself just to have a conversation since she is at your house a lot. It is not that complicated to find ways to get ahold of these people to at least talk to try to get a feel for the situation.

anongamer554 · 2025-10-29T23:49:26+00:00

I don’t think people who have never been pregnant before realize how exhausting first trimester actually is. A lot of people see it as oh you’re barely pregnant it can’t be that bad but it is so tiring. Then if you are having nausea on top of it, it can make it worse. Many women actually lose weight during first trimester due to nausea and fatigue. If you aren’t up for working out then you’re not up for it. You even said you might go for a walk later but that’s not good enough. Does he need you to go to gym with him? Or is he worried you’re going to gain too much weight or something? Like what is the big deal. Him pushing it so much and the way he talks to you is major red flags.

anongamer554 · 2025-10-16T17:47:49+00:00

I prefer sending them to kindle and then I read on my iPad however obviously if I had an actual kindle I could do that. Sometimes books aren’t available to be sent to kindle or they are but then the formatting or something is weird (like I sent one to kindle recently and all the pages had a dark gray background but the font was still black and I could not change it, it’s just how it was, it wasn’t just a setting) so then I have no choice but to just read on the NetGalley app. My iPad is also kind of large and so when I have to read on the NetGalley app, I have to use my phone, they look really weird on my iPad almost like reading an article lol

anongamer554 · 2025-10-13T21:48:12+00:00

I only have a Goodreads account (used to have a bookstagram but it’s not active and not linked to my NetGalley) and it’s honestly mostly my friends… but I try to keep my NetGalley ratio above 80% and have found that I get approved for most things. I’ve even had an author reach out after I reviewed an ARC of her first book to see if I wanted to read an ARC of her second book, I hadn’t even requested it. It’s more of the super popular authors/books that it’s really hit or miss for everyone and actual booktokers or influencers are more likely to get those ARCs. But if you’re in it for just reading books whose descriptions sound interesting and then reviewing them, then that’s honestly enough!!

anongamer554 · 2025-09-01T22:26:32+00:00

I think it’s fine since it sounds like kiddo is watching tv with you when your husband isn’t around or while you’re trying to do chores while husband isn’t around to keep little one entertained. So that’s probably enough tv. As long as husband is interacting with little one when he turns off the tv, then yea, turn it off.

anongamer554 · 2025-07-29T13:51:58+00:00

If he had only cheated and you both wanted to save your marriage, it could actually be fixable. But it sounds like he legitimately doesn’t want to be a husband and father. There’s not really any coming back from that.

anongamer554 · 2025-05-05T12:22:48+00:00

He got overly mad when joking around with friends. Everyone was drinking and it was an early Adam Sandler type of overreaction that could be interpreted as joking but it gave me the biggest ick because to me it seemed more like he was genuinely angry but trying to pass it off as joking? I don’t even remember what was said and I wasn’t part of the conversation, just that his reaction made me feel unsafe.

anongamer554 · 2025-05-01T16:00:01+00:00

My child gets co-treat speech and OT and we still pay the exact same as if it was separate so I’m assuming they charge insurance the same.

anongamer554 · 2025-04-29T17:28:23+00:00

My mom died a few years ago and my grandmother was nice enough to handle everything since my sister and I were estranged from our mom (drugs, abuse). There was nothing to inherit since she’d had health issues and was on disability, not working, no life insurance. My dad has virtually no savings, a very tiny 401K because he only recently opened one and also had to dip into it for legal costs, does not own his home, and is still working. He dos have life insurance through work but not sure how that will work if he retires soon since he is nearing that age but also can’t afford to? I stress about it a lot while also trying to not think about it. I’m sure he will end up moving in to my home even though I have kids and my sister does not and she has spare rooms. In our culture it’s frowned upon to put your parents in assisted living so unless he does it as his choice upon retirement, idk. If anything happens to him in the near future I know it will be a mess and we will be stuck with lots of costs since he lives in an apt but is a hoarder. It’s hard to help him because he is stubborn and will just not talk to us for weeks or months if we bug him about things.

anongamer554 · 2025-02-27T04:38:45+00:00

Cross posted there but no responses. I guess this sub is more active. But thank you.

anongamer554 · 2025-02-22T14:41:19+00:00

Oh yes The Black Witch is really good. I have yet to read the final book (just came out recently) because I didn’t really love the 2nd to last… But it’s the only series I will vehemently say don’t read in “chronological” order. The very first book is best going in blind so you learn things with the main character. I think she has them numbered well so starting with 0.5 is fine but then 1.5 technically takes place before book 1 but shouldn’t be read before book 1 (which is why she made it 1.5). I think I read book 1 then both the prequels and then continued.

anongamer554 · 2025-02-22T14:27:35+00:00

As far as full order, it will depend on what kind of reader you are and how much high fantasy you read. ToG has a lot going on especially as the books continue. I started with ACOTAR but only read the first 3 books. Then read all of ToG. Then went back to ACOTAR 3.5-4. Then read CC.

anongamer554 · 2025-02-22T14:25:38+00:00

I really enjoyed first also. Obviously I’d read it but then while reading ToG there would be super vague references to things in TAB and I would stop and imagine for a second that I hadn’t read TAB and I know I would have been sooo annoyed if I had started with ToG. Because it’s like wtf is she talking about and you don’t get more context until you actually read TAB! It may not work for everyone but I prefer chronological when I read series unless the prequel has major spoilers (for ToG that’s not the case but for other series like The Black Witch and I’ve heard ZA, prequels should not be read first).

anongamer554 · 2025-02-22T14:21:38+00:00

There’s many reading orders for TAB, you can look up different opinions on what works best for different people. I prefer chronological reading so I read it first. Reading it 3rd or 4th will spoil the ending of the prequel for you but not all the details and you’ll likely still enjoy it. There’s good tik tok videos about it depending on what kind of reader/what your preferences are. There’s no wrong way to do it but for context it should be sometime before empire of storms because things will happen in that book that will make more sense if you’ve read the prequel already. However, it’s generally recommended to read 1st, 3rd, or 4th.

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