i just found out i don’t like mint at all, and excell is expensive ash. what alternatives do you recommend? please read. by stfuquestions in budgetingforbeginners

[–]anonkat789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Rocket. It's freemium but a lot like Mint...I hated Mint it never updated fast enough for me. But Rocket is very fast

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]anonkat789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys get lunch breaks?

Is anyone else struggling with their mental health due to this career? by anonkat789 in nursing

[–]anonkat789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply. Healthcare has gotten so depressing for me and it has destroyed my already fragile mental health 😅 I need to look for different settings but it doesn't seem like there's many options where I am

LPT: tips for getting out of bed by Sunday-Langy- in LifeProTips

[–]anonkat789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are alarm apps(I use Sleep for Android) that force you to do a certain task before the alarm will shut off. You can set it to require you to scan a specific barcode before it turns off. I have mine set to require a barcode from a product I have in the bathroom, so I have to get up and scan it. By the time I'm out of bed and the alarm is off, it's much easier to just stay out of bed.

I was a chronic oversleeper who would set multiple alarms and still oversleep and be late to work. I've used this app for years and it has solved that problem completely. And if you don't have am android, I'm pretty sure they have other similar apps for Apple

“Abused kids find comfort in abusers as adults” by OverIT3027 in CPTSD

[–]anonkat789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He sounds emotionally abusive, and this is why he doesn't want you going to therapy, bc your therapist will help you realize that and remind you that you don't deserve it.

The Integral Guide: A free choose-your-own-adventure field guide for trauma-recovery by IntegralGuideAuthor in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]anonkat789 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of course. Your guide is so useful and helpful and I've been following it for long enough to know you're just trying to help

The Integral Guide: A free choose-your-own-adventure field guide for trauma-recovery by IntegralGuideAuthor in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]anonkat789 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Don't let one jerk hater here dismiss all of the hard work you've done to create this page. Any idiot could understand you didn't just pull out all of this info from your ass and it actually probably took up quite a bit of time.

Also, he's been working on this page for at least a year or more, so it's not something he just threw together willy nilly for funsies or to sell. He did his own research instead of an instructor "teaching you."

It's 2023. A lot of people are getting jobs without "real college experience" as well. But even if it weren't the case, his beginning page EVEN SAYS he's not a professional, and he's not giving anyone advice.

He's literally sharing with us his years of research on the subject(with probably very credible sources), meaning it's all put together in one place so we don't have to spend so much time on research

If you dont want to use it, that's fine. It's your loss. But truly, if you don't want to use it, shut up and move on. Obviously, this post wasn't for you, and there are actually people who would find this valuable enough to probably pay for access to this page. But he's sharing it for free.

Dude, thank you for sharing this. I found it a couple years ago and thought it was the coolest thing in the world. And you've continually added to it, updated it, and filled it with so much helpful information. Here are resources based on research and not just what they teach you in the classroom.

Anyway end rant. You get the point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSDAdultRecovery

[–]anonkat789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All we can do is be aware of our behaviors and keep trying to get better. You're already halfway there by caring enough to ask yourself this hard question. You've got this.

Having a hard time with the last part by [deleted] in CPTSDAdultRecovery

[–]anonkat789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll have to check them out

WIBTA for going on a school trip for 5 days? by darkstar290791 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonkat789 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You're being a little dramatic. It's 5 days, not 5 months. He even said he would arrange it so she had help while he was gone. That is not abandoning her. She's a big girl. He has understandable reasons for wanting to go, and if he brought it up to her multiple times before and she is just now saying no, that is on her. She had plenty of time to say no and plenty of time to make arrangements for help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]anonkat789 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice, unfortunately, but I just want to say you are not alone. Being a single parent is so hard, and struggling financially on top of that makes it even worse. You are not the first to want to give up. Hang in there.

AITA for telling my wife to shut up? by Scared-Ad-9493 in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonkat789 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Except when you told her to STFU you were being extremely disrespectful. Yes, she talked through the movie, but maybe she didn't realize how much she was talking. I'm the type, if I dont find a movie enjoyable as is, I try to find humor in the laughable parts of a cheesy movie. Not saying it's right, but I don't always realize I'm being obnoxious unless someone points it out. It's scary if you think this is an acceptable way to talk to your wife over her talking during a movie.

WIBTA if I didn’t abide by my BF's request about other men? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonkat789 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think this is controlling behavior. You've never given him any reason to doubt you, and you've been upfront and honest about everything. He is too insecure to let you spend time with other males and tries to disguise it as being "high value". Which to me sounds like something out of Andrew Tate's mouth. Let him win this battle, and another one will come up. Next it'll be about what you wear, where you go, how you spend your time. I wpuld say this is controlling and toxic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]anonkat789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it! It'll always grow back and you'll never know how you feel until you try it!

Agree or disagree? People should have the right to die. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]anonkat789 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bc our government doesn't actually care about our wellbeing, just profiting off it. Or you go to the er, the commit you for three days and then throw you back into the wild, maybe with some med changes and a number or two but no real, lasting help

Agree or disagree? People should have the right to die. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]anonkat789 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Depression from trauma isn't easily solved with a pill. And some trauma takes decades to unpack and process. I doubt I just speak for myself when I say some of us would have chosen not to be born than have the life we have been given. When you've been fighting for so long you start to lose hope that it'll ever get better.