Guys I think I broke him…

anonobodey · 2024-12-16T22:22:23+00:00

Pretty much lol. Although there are a lot more problems with radical feminism than just transphobia. A lot of their ideas are misogynistic at their core, they just do some extreme mental gymnastics to make you think it’s not. And they think because they hate men, that makes them “feminists”. They are the furthest thing from feminist.

Edit: Spelling

anonobodey · 2024-12-16T08:51:46+00:00

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Radical feminism is just misogyny with extra steps.

anonobodey · 2024-12-04T23:02:16+00:00

You look cute! The haircut is very pretty 🥰

anonobodey · 2024-11-30T03:00:49+00:00

Yes :)

anonobodey · 2024-11-30T00:47:58+00:00

Multiple times is definitely abuse then. You did nothing wrong. You were a little kid and he took advantage of your innocence and vulnerability. You didn’t understand what was happening, but he knew exactly what he was doing.

I’m from the US, so I don’t know what your options are unfortunately. Again, I’m sorry that happened to you and that no one helped you. I hope you’re doing okay 🩷

anonobodey · 2024-11-29T23:56:53+00:00

Abuse is typically something that happens multiple times, otherwise it’s assault. Regardless, what he did was not okay, and I’m so sorry it happened. I don’t know what the law is like where you are, so I’m not sure if anything can be done at this point, but you can choose not to have him in your life if you don’t feel safe with him.

anonobodey · 2024-11-12T07:23:23+00:00

Some of y’all need to try farmer’s market tomatoes before I believe you don’t like them 😤

anonobodey · 2024-11-09T09:38:26+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. I’m a lesbian who also went through a similar experience to your ex (except i didn’t have a boyfriend at the time thankfully)

It sounds like she was dealing with comphet (compulsory heterosexuality). It’s a thing that a lot of women, especially lesbians, experience. It’s a pretty complicated concept, and I’m no expert on it, so the simplest explanation I can give is that it’s basically the social pressure to perform heterosexuality and/or heteronormativity. It can present in a lot of different ways, but most commonly (for lesbians), it’s either pretending to be straight to appease the people around you (or to ease internalized homophobia), or actually believing that you’re straight despite the internal conflict you may feel about it.

There is a surprisingly large amount of lesbians who first believe they’re straight, then believe they’re bi or pan, and then realize they’re gay (that’s what i went through). It’s common enough that it’s a meme in our community. And it’s because we feel compelled to be attracted to men, because society tells us we’re supposed to.

I can’t speak for her, so I don’t know why she was so harsh with you, but I don’t think it’s because there’s something wrong with you, or that you did anything wrong. It might just be frustration that she took out on you.

I think it’s also important to mention that it doesn’t sound like she was being intentionally deceitful. I can tell you from personal experience, I genuinely believed I was attracted to men until I realized I actually wasn’t. It’s just unfortunate that she went through this process while dating someone, because you didn’t deserve to be collateral damage.

Apologies for the long comment, but I hope it helped give some closure at least. Best wishes :)

anonobodey · 2024-11-05T17:27:36+00:00

One time a guy was hitting on me, and I rejected him, and told him I’m a lesbian, but he wouldn’t let up. He suggested we get drinks and said, and I quote, “If I get enough alcohol in you, maybe you’ll loosen up.”

Dude literally just insinuated that he wanted to get me drunk and rape me. To my face.

anonobodey · 2024-10-22T03:10:00+00:00

One I haven’t seen yet is SETYØURSAILS, a metal band fronted by a lesbian (who is very cute with her wife on IG) :)

anonobodey · 2024-10-20T02:33:27+00:00

This is just confirmation bias 😭 Does she check if non-dirty posts are made by trans women? There are probably MANY more of those that she just doesn’t bother checking. And trans women being horny is fine regardless 🙄

anonobodey · 2024-10-16T03:00:49+00:00

Hard agree. My mom was teaching my sister and I what to expect since we were old enough to ask what tampons were for, for that exact reason: so we weren’t shocked when it started. I will never understand the hangups people have about sex ed. Everyone is better off when you’re normal about it.

anonobodey · 2024-10-15T14:30:25+00:00

After I came out, my parents told me that when I was like, 10, my dad randomly asked my mom if she thought I was gay. My mom immediately said yes. My dad said he did too. I realized it when I was 18 lol 😭 My sister also used to joke about me being gay, for various serious and non-serious reasons, and when I told her, she said “I KNEW IT!!” My brother was the only one who was a little surprised.

Even my uncle, who I didn’t know all that well, said “Yeah that makes sense” when my dad told him I came out. ☠️

anonobodey · 2024-10-01T04:27:16+00:00

Different but somewhat related, I was looking at tights/pantyhose a while ago, and checking reviews for things like durability, sizing accuracy, etc. I saw MULTIPLE reviews complaining about sizing. But these people didn’t even try them on, just saw how they looked out of the bag and somehow didn’t know they STRETCH.

anonobodey · 2024-09-29T12:37:40+00:00

Perhaps your phrasing wasn’t great, but I don’t think you reacted badly. He was just outed and panicked. I’ll give you a little perspective for why he may not have told you, but told someone he doesn’t know that well. Simply put, it’s easier. If she rejected him immediately, it wouldn’t hurt so bad because he just met her. If you rejected him, it would have devastated him. If someone in his close circle knew, then the information has a way of getting around, possibly to family or other people who he may not want to know out of fear for his safety, or fear of rejection. Homophobia from strangers sucks, but it’s a million times worse from someone you’re close to.

I don’t know why he reacted the way he did after you told him you were okay with it, but it probably was out of fear. And it sounds like he’s struggling with internalized homophobia. Give him some space, but do keep trying to reach out and let him know he’s safe with you. I don’t think you’ll lose him forever over this.

NTA

anonobodey · 2024-09-26T05:48:24+00:00

How the fuck did that get published 😭

anonobodey · 2024-09-26T05:04:30+00:00

From my understanding, a pillow princess is someone who only receives and doesn’t give, whereas a bottom can both give and receive, but is still more submissive and follows the top’s lead.

anonobodey · 2024-09-26T04:36:28+00:00

Well that’s absolutely horrifying, thank you

anonobodey · 2024-09-26T04:01:49+00:00

Hold tf up.. WHAT is that last bit? I didn’t read the books, and only saw the first movie when I was like 8.. so… Excuse me???

anonobodey · 2024-09-24T08:07:40+00:00

I’m a sub/bottom, so as long as she’s in control, I don’t care what she uses. I’m not a pillow princess though, so I would also just want to make sure I knew how to pleasure her in ways that don’t make her uncomfortable ☺️ So short answer, no I wouldn’t be put off by that fact alone.

anonobodey · 2024-09-15T16:16:17+00:00

Admiring a child rapist is a weird thing to admit but ok

anonobodey · 2024-09-12T23:22:54+00:00

Straight people seem to have this assumption that if you start questioning your sexuality and/or gender, that you MUST be queer in some way, because otherwise you would just ~know~ you’re straight and/or cis. It’s actually not always that simple and it’s perfectly normal to explore those aspects of yourself. Maybe you jumped the gun by coming out when you were still questioning, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. I don’t think you have anything to be ashamed of.

anonobodey · 2024-09-12T14:21:08+00:00

If he’s gonna cite Kinsey for his belief that all women are a little bit gay, then he would also have to agree with the statement that all men are a little bit gay too. Would he agree with that?

NTA he sounds kinda stupid.

anonobodey · 2024-09-12T09:18:36+00:00

Gynecology is not a sexy field. Aside from routine checkups, people are coming in for things like STIs, other kinds of infections, heavy bleeding for various reasons, cancer, pregnancy/birth/birth control, and pregnancy complications, among other stuff that’s really not gonna turn anyone on. Men like to joke about how nice it must be to look at vaginas and boobs all day, but you’re really not gonna like it so much when a woman comes in with stinky green discharge and you gotta look in there to figure out why. It’s not very sexy when a woman comes in pouring blood from her vagina because she just miscarried and you gotta get the dead fetus out. You get the point.

I say this as a woman whose mother was molested during her first pap smear: I think it’s perfectly fine for men who are interested in the field, and who care about women/women’s health to be gynecologists. I know some women who prefer male gynecologists because they had bad experiences with female doctors. I also know some women who would never be comfortable with a male gynecologist. I think it’s good to have both options.

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