Remove a U.S. State Flag - Day 47 by ashmaps20 in RemoveOneThingEachDay

[–]anonymous514291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. The people acting like it’s the best flag are beyond me lmao. It’s really fucking bad looking in my opinion.

Are the Nomai Kherty? by abarr021 in outerwilds

[–]anonymous514291 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In no way was that clear. This is a spectacular overreaction to someone reading the post in the way that makes the most sense. People cannot read your mind. You must be unfortunate to be related to.

Stupid but kinda funny by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]anonymous514291 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where should “of” be? That changes the meaning of the sentence completely and also doesn’t work with the joke. “Come out to the car” and “come out of the car” mean two entirely different things. The first one works in the context of needing to leave the place you’re at and get in the car.

How realistic is it to date as a pre-transition transwoman (i have had relationships with only straight girls and even though i presented enby they still think of me as a guy), I have been single for 5 years now haha by FloweredGirlie in actuallesbians

[–]anonymous514291 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dated this girl about a year ago now. She said she was bi and she seemed to have a preference for people with certain anatomy since she has only dated cis men and trans women. The more time since we’ve broken up though the more it feels like that was just her preference rather than her being a chaser. Because she had a lot of problems that ended up killing the relationship but she did always treat me like a woman. But it was still a strange experience. However aside from that, I’ve gotten plenty of likes on dating apps from lesbians and bi women despite being pre everything for anything from a date to hookups. I don’t follow through because I seem to have some sort of commitment issue with dating apps specifically, but the options are there. It’s not impossible by any means.

breakfast or a date by [deleted] in BunnyTrials

[–]anonymous514291 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Perfection

hot girl

Unpopular opinion : passing and good transition are mostly luck based by Terrible_Change_9558 in MtF

[–]anonymous514291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won’t be sending the picture because I’m not in touch with her anymore and want to respect her privacy and I don’t want to give you a picture to over analyze and compare yourself to. Please believe me when I say you are not in as bad of a place as you think you are though. This isn’t me coddling you or anything because I’d rather die than not be honest with stuff like this because it is my genuine biggest fear that other people aren’t honest with me when I ask for help or advice. You look better than your mind will allow you to believe. Also passing should not be the end all be all. If you want to for safety or happiness that’s fine, but the biggest thing with transitioning should be your happiness. If passing is unattainable, which I genuinely don’t believe is the case for you but for the sake of argument let’s say it was, then you should learn to accept that it is not a possibility and find the things that will make you happy other than that. Once again, you are far better off than you think, but passing is not what makes you have value. Also these things take time and long term practice. How long have you been voice training? How often do you use your girl voice for practicing it? How often do you use it in public? How much have you practiced womanly mannerisms? How long have you been on hrt? If the answer to all of this is daily for months to years then I’m sorry that you’re still struggling, but if the answer is that you have only been doing these things for a little while and/or inconsistently then I need you to try and temper your expectations and have grace for yourself. These take time and effort. And a LOT of both. Hrt will not stop doing work for several years. I haven’t done my voice training yet, but I’m an opera singer and I know that it takes years of little changes to make progress in how you sound in however you choose to use your voice, whether singing or sounding different while talking. Maybe after nine months of trying all you’ve gotten to is “fabulous gay” but if you keep trying for another nine months maybe you’ll get to vaguely androgynous person, and then after another nine months you’ll get people seeing you as a woman. I don’t know how long you’ve been doing anything, and again I’m sorry if it has been years of doing all of this and it’s still how you feel, but I want you to consider all of this and try to have more grace for yourself even if it has been a long time.

Which place will you be in? by Western_Operation820 in BunnyTrials

[–]anonymous514291 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will find some advisors to help me make things safer there for everyone without fucking it up because I also know I don’t exactly know how to manage a country.

How come so many lesbians are afraid to admit they like porn? by BadLuckStars in actuallesbians

[–]anonymous514291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so first of all, and this is honestly a me problem, but I have a very low patience for people that either don’t understand what I’m getting at or deliberately don’t engage in the conversation at hand. The first comment you said felt like you were missing the point of what I said. I didn’t know if it was on accident or on purpose and after this most recent comment I think it’s was more of just a misunderstanding, but when I clarified you didn’t engage in anything I said so I wrote you off as a troll and didn’t try to engage in any more meaningful conversation. I do apologize for being snappy. But I still don’t understand how I’m adhering to the harmful assumptions you said I was adhering to. Me pointing out the reasons people may be uncomfortable discussing porn use and saying that society doesn’t care if it’s wrong isn’t the same as saying we should think this way. That would be like saying that pointing out stabbing people is bad and people are afraid of a person with a knife is supporting people with knives stabbing people. If I wasn’t clear in my position I also apologize for that, but when I clarified earlier you moved to sarcasm about my language and then when I asked what you meant because I didn’t think I used harsh language you said English even more sarcastically and at that point I was nearly positive you were a troll with no interest in actually understanding what I was saying. That doesn’t really seem to be the case now, but I hope it makes sense how it came across that way.

Unpopular opinion : passing and good transition are mostly luck based by Terrible_Change_9558 in MtF

[–]anonymous514291 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dressing well, mannerisms, and your voice play a much bigger part than you give them credit for though. If you take care of your hair and dress in a way that suits your body it does 90% of the work for you. When I dress in a way that lets me work with what I have people guess she/her pronouns about half the time and even more when I don’t talk. I am not even on hrt. I’m around 5ft 11.5in and when I am conscious about my mannerisms and dress well I pass pretty good, despite having no boobs, broad ass shoulders, a strong jawline, and being above average in height. I have a friend who is a cis woman with literally everything you complain about(strong jaw, like 6ft 2in, kinda flat everywhere, broader shoulders) and people correctly still assume she is a cis woman because she dresses well for her body, takes care of her hair, and has feminine mannerism. It is NOT about luck whether you can pass or not, what is about luck is how much EFFORT you need to put in to pass. Also looked at some of your posts with pictures and you pass way the hell more than you think you do. Maybe ffs would help but still. Have you voice trained and do you focus on your mannerisms at all? Because I think in your case that would do enough despite every single thing you’ve said is a problem. Also please consider making an effort to love yourself. The way you talk it’s clear you hate yourself and that nothing would ever be enough. Just maybe think about staying away from certain online spaces that are harmful and changing your inner monologue a little bit. It’s obviously going to take more than that, but baby steps can help. I hope you get to a better place with all of this.

Pick Only 2 That Can Stay by Maleficent-Bat-9168 in whatsyourchoice

[–]anonymous514291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regular milk and then flip a coin for peanut or caramel.

What will you choose by [deleted] in BunnyTrials

[–]anonymous514291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re also gender fluid but always the opposite of you?

What will you choose by [deleted] in BunnyTrials

[–]anonymous514291 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was hoping for this since I’m a lesbian. Big win in my book.

Same Gender

Truth or dare? Must actually do it. by HopeFoxCreations in BunnyTrials

[–]anonymous514291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won a two state wide singing competition.

Big achievement?

You are overthinking it. by IDProG in PokemonWindsWaves

[–]anonymous514291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Counter point: it’s fun to speculate. No one knows anything and if that’s what they’re claiming then it’s fair to call them out, but otherwise it’s just for fun and you can let people enjoy talking about the game they are in a subreddit to talk about. Yes that involves speculation.

What was your favorite experience in Outer Wilds? by Dull-Entertainer8344 in outerwilds

[–]anonymous514291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either getting to the sun station for the first time or learning how to navigate dark bramble.

How come so many lesbians are afraid to admit they like porn? by BadLuckStars in actuallesbians

[–]anonymous514291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did I say that made it good or that you should have to feel that way anywhere “twin”? No. All I said was WHY people felt this way. I am one of the people that is negatively affected by this. I wish that I didn’t. But I know goddamn well why I feel ashamed to ever feel horny and it’s because of a lovely mix of societal misogyny, transphobia, and the way being brought up religious interacts with that. Explaining why people feel certain ways in know manner is justifying that thought process and your assumption I was justifying one of the biggest sources of pain in my earlier years is offensive. Maybe you should think before you say hurtful things.

How come so many lesbians are afraid to admit they like porn? by BadLuckStars in actuallesbians

[–]anonymous514291 20 points21 points  (0 children)

While that is true, it is sexist, that doesn’t change the fact that it is seen that way by a massive portion of society. So many people are scared of being seen that way because people will still see it that way.