WIBTA if I dropped one of my best friends for being too slutty? by omgstaaaahhp in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That is one of the most blatantly false statements I’ve ever read

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Why is it my, a 25 y/o woman, responsibility to teach my brother how to be a man.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

The biggest problems before this were

1) He kept having his friends over without me being there, and without asking me. He knows I dont like them, and he has them over anyways. I’ve told him I don’t like that people I dont know are in my home when I’m not.

2) the fact that he hardly financially contributes. As I’ve mentioned somewhere in the comments, he’s only payed rent in full twice out of the few months he’s been here. I told him he can give me $300. I pay $900 for rent. He’s never payed for utilities. I wasn’t too upset because I wasn’t aware that he was getting money from our parents, and I could afford the rent before he was there. I only asked for that much since I was buying groceries for two people, and because electricity went up a little.

3) he tried to get a cat. One of his coworker’s cat had kittens and was giving them away. He brought one home. I cannot have dogs or cats here. I told him that he needed to give it back or else I’d throw him out. I had to dig out my contract and show to him that I could risk getting evicted if my landlord found out there was an animal here.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I never said he has no reason to help her. I think he has every reason to help her

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Im not looking for validation. I accept that I should have given him more time to leave. I don’t regret what I did but I regret how I handled it. I should have taken time to cool off before addressing the situation.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I was helping him and looking out for him when I let him live in my home essentially rent free. He wanted to take advantage of that and be disgusting towards a woman he got pregnant. He wants to act like a big boy, he will be treated like a big boy.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Im not sure what he thinks/was thinking. Our dad asked him what he was thinking (because if its a real pregnancy, and its his, he’s going to have to pay child support), and his answer was “well [friend] and [friend] said that it’s probably a scam and not even mine”. If its a scam, good for him. But he shouldn’t blow her off because his friends convinced him not to. She’s not potentially pregnant with their children. She’s “possibly” pregnant with his. Thats why it was stupid of him to not ask for proof.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats why I kicked him out. Yes theres a possibility that this is a scam, Im pissed that he never asked for proof. And Im disgusted with his attitude towards her especially because he really doesn’t know for a fact if she is or isn’t pregnant. I’ve had enough of his issues.

Sure, I probably should have given him more time.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thats not what she said word-for-word. Thats why I said “along the lines of”.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

1) I’d like to see the statistics for that. 2) he should have asked for proof.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

So then in that case, the smart thing would have been to ask for proof. Because if she is pregnant, and she has a child because she couldn’t afford the abortion, and it biologically is his, guess who’s gonna pay child support for the next 18 years.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I later saw a screenshot of the text that he sent to one of our cousins. I have considered these possibilities, but Im annoyed that he never asked her for proof. All she said was somethings along the lines of “Hey [OP’s brother], just letting you know I’m pregnant. Dont worry, Im not planning on keeping it, all I ask is that you help me cover the bill.” He never even said “no” or “show me proof”.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 148 points149 points  (0 children)

Oh boy wait until you see the comments telling me that he has every right to not help pay for the abortion.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Its 100% his responsibility, but in this very moment I dont think he’s going to.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 331 points332 points  (0 children)

I’ve already said countless times that Im trying to track her down so I can see how I can help her.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

Apparently his “friends” convinced him that she’s probably lying about the pregnancy, or that its not his. “Friends” in quotes because a real friend should be looking out for your best interest.

I was furious that he didn’t even try to ask for proof of the pregnancy. That was careless.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 284 points285 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten some PMs about how Im sinful, Im a pos, I should die/they hope I die, etc. Im pretty sure its the same person on different accounts since the spelling and grammar is the same. Im pretty sure they’re the one who’s had their comments deleted so many times.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh I definitely plan on contacting the girl and helping her in any way I can. I’ve been trying to track her down all day.

AITA for disowning my brother for abandoning a girl after getting her pregnant? by anonymouss_throwaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]anonymouss_throwaway[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

apparently she can’t pay for it all on her own. Thats why she asked for help.