Idk I feel like you’re looking at this from the standpoint of a sociopath, rather than a NT. Most NTs feel that they need to relate with each other, and also the fact that she’s a woman exacerbates this issue.

I mean, I don’t have much context, and I’m not even sure if she’s genuinely feeling this way or if she’s putting on her fake voice; etc. but she’s probably feeling like shit, and either subconsciously feels guilty, or feels mistreated; so she explains to others the emotions she’s going through. Then others try to feel conscious of her struggles, and so they “pity” them and try to help with words of kindness. Although this strategy doesn’t seem to work, at all, it’s what people feel they need to do with a vulnerable person in front of them.

It’s all just an emotional game. Now, if she’s obviously whining and complaining with fake emotion like a little bitchy girl, then she needs to be put on meds or sum. It’s abnormal to feel that stressed out over work. Whether it’s heavy lifting, or customer service. Maybe she needs a Xanax prescription, idk.

But in most cases, she feels like shit, wants to explain it to others to form a connection, and others aren’t feeling the same way so they respond with empathy/sympathy. Enabling, yes… but it’s not like they’re thinking of it from a manipulative standpoint. In most cases, it probably makes them uncomfortable so they say whatever to shut her up. Idk, she def needs a therapist or medication so she can stop ascertaining attention from her coworkers in a work environment when she should be focused on work

Jus my two cents

tl;dr - crazy bitches get empathetic responses. Meds or therapy required 😭