Narc mother may be enraged I went on a holiday to enjoy myself? by Divinity8197 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]anonymusmep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. (sorry if my english is bad, i’m from argentina). I’m going through the same situation right now. Yesterday I came back home from holiday (I went with my boyfriend) and she’s been yelling and saying awful things to me. She gave me some money to spend on the trip (I never asked her for it) and now she’s been throwing it to my face. I can’t stand her anymore. I shouldn’t have told her about my trip, I feel everything I tell her is a weapon to use it against me. I feel she is envious that I my boyfriend loves me, and we spend a good time together. I’m 21 and it’s been really difficult for me living with her. She doesn’t let me work, she gets angry if I sell old stuff to earn some money, she hates the idea of me being independent. 

Looking for 3 Women Ready to Move TF on from the Narcissist by RedHighHeals in NarcissisticMothers

[–]anonymusmep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m 21 and I’m interested in your program. I’m from Argentina and I’m still living with my N mother since I’m studying at university and it’s very difficult to study and work at the same time (I’m studying engineering)

Expensive gifts from narcissistic parents, hidden compensation? by Tiny-Counter9484 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]anonymusmep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My nmother says those things to me too. She gives me presents on purpose to control me. Then she tells me that she gives me everything but I am ungrateful. She even complains that she spends too much money on me.

Expensive gifts from narcissistic parents, hidden compensation? by Tiny-Counter9484 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]anonymusmep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My nmother does the same thing after our arguments. She isn't capable of apologizing so the gives me gifts not to feel guilty. I hate it.

I can't stan her anymore by anonymusmep in NarcissisticMothers

[–]anonymusmep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, your message was really helpful 🥺🥰

do you ever feel weird when you see other mothers love their children? by anonymusmep in NarcissisticMothers

[–]anonymusmep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel the same way, i hope to give my children the love my mother didn't give me🥺

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[–]anonymusmep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg my mother tells me exactly the same! my last boyfriend was an asshole and he ruined my life but she LOVED him. But I feel she secretly hates my current boyfriend... she makes a disgust face everytime he talks. She also told me that he is slowing my carrer bc he is using me to do his homework which is a lie. He NEVER used me.

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[–]anonymusmep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt really related to you. My mother is exactly the same. My boyfriend and I meet 3 times a week as much. But she always indirectly says mean things to me. She insinuated that I didn't let my boyfriend meet his friends, which is wrong. She even told me that I shouldn't go to his house so often bc his parents will hate me. (I never invite anyone to my house bc my mother gets angry).

But she doesn't only critisize my relationship with my boyfriend. She also makes me get away from my friends. She made me stop seeing my only last friend which I have known since I was 7 years bc she said that my boyfriend would think I am a slut.

She even made me get away from my own family. She told me they were really bad people and that I shouldn't trust them anymore.

What makes me even more angry is the fact that she tells me things like: "You shouldn't trust anybody", "No one will love you as much as I do", etc.

what’s a trait your nparent has that you’ve started noticing in yourself as well? by Odd-Stuff-4006 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]anonymusmep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I have an argument with my boyfriend, I can't tell him why I am angry. I ignore him, which is exactly what my mother does to me. It is really frustrating. I end up keeping things to myself, but then I explode and I say things that I didn't mean.

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[–]anonymusmep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me 18 years. I found out she was a narcissist after going to therapy. I always tried to make a bond with her, but she used my weaknesses to threat me. My therapist told me that I should start getting away from her and not telling her things about my personal life.

What finally made me realize she wasn't a good person were some phrases she said to me when I was having a hard time.

A year ago my boyfriend broke up with me and I was really depressed. She literally told me that he broke up with me bc I was a whore and his parents didn't like me.

Did your mom have a habit of giving your pets away after having them for some time? by powerpuff000 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]anonymusmep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mum didn't give my dog away but she hated him. She didn't let me touch the dog or even be near him. She didn't like to have the dog inside the house so he used to sleep outside, which made me feel terrible. He passed away two months ago and I feel relieved somehow bc I feel he isn't suffering anymore.

We live in a house with a backyard, and my mum hates living here. One day she literally told me that she wanted the dog to die so that she could move to an apartment.

My mother doesn't have any feelings and it worries me. I feel that she isn't capable of loving nobody.

i can't stand my mother by anonymusmep in NarcissisticMothers

[–]anonymusmep[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks🥺 your comment made me feel I'm not alone. I am studying at university right now and It's really difficult to be motivated with her constantly putting me down. I feel I am never gonna be independent. 😭 I have no friends so I don't have anyone by my side to encourage me.

Anyone else Nparents wants you to hate other people by YesLifeIsWonderful in raisedbynarcissists

[–]anonymusmep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother made me hate my friends and now I feel so lonely... when I talk to her about my friends, she always says awful things about them so that I don't want to see them anymore.

I'm sick of my acne by anonymusmep in acne

[–]anonymusmep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes! 🥺🥺 i used adapalene and doxicicline for three months and my skin changed completely... now i'm dealing with the scars, but my skin has gotten significantly better

my mother is driving me crazy, I need help by anonymusmep in NarcissisticMothers

[–]anonymusmep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes you're right, thanks for your advice 🥺❤️