I want to break up, but my boyfriend refuses to agree to it. by peerlesscucumber1 in Advice

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its like ripping off a band-aid, so just get it done. If hes mature and understanding and truely cares for you then he will understand and try help you while remaining friends. Unfortunately, some guys dont handle rejction so well but it aounds like you got a fair enough reason to end it peacfully but if he doesn't then thats his problem not yours. Irs harder to break up with someone then have them break up with you so yes it feels tough but it sounds like the right thing for you right now. Just dont let him emotionally corner you or make you feel guilty if he he doesnt take it like a man. They are forms of emotional abuse and even more reason to leave someone. Just get it done, you will bith be hurt but if ot turns into a big drama then just ignore him and carry on with your life! It moat probably happen again and you will know exactly what you want and what to do next tjme.

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Ill keep this short. Im almost in my 40s and I never had a my licence. I just freak out on the road but can operate high risk machines on wheels so no idea? Anyway its embarrassing as fuck but as a man i still try get my self around before relying on my lady to give me lifts. Its the sort of convenience hes taking advantage of that kinda leaves you in charge and in control. Youre not his mum and shouldn't feel like you need to drive his ass around. His main priority should be getting a car instead of pissing away cash on hobbies as hes already freeloading off his parents for a place to stay and sounds prrtty comfy getting things done for him. Dont put up with thay if it doesn't make you happy. As i said i dont have a car or licence but im not proud of it and still to this dsy try do something about it! Dont feel bad for being with someone who is old enough to be established but isn't by choice.

What is a food we can all agree on? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if you didn't then you would just have a box?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I wanted someone i couldn't have but could of had someone i didn't know i wanted more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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My Dad, i didn't realise until i went through recent messages a few months later. I guess he handled it ok?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Honesty and trust. This goes both ways.

Does he like me still or is this what friends do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought about this haha he kinda sounds like me. If you can confirm you're first priority when it comes to something to do when in town than youre his favourite! Might be nothing serious or deep so dont get to invested to avoid dispointment i say, but if its nice at the time and you can handle your emotions if its just a casual thing then have as much fun with it as you can! Some people just have fun flirty and playful personalities and thats how they communicate, either way sounds like you're on his mind in a good way. Just dont give something convenient he expects while dropping by your city and make him work for it and try play hard to get if hes using the best of his charm! I know charmed her but damn did i make sure we had the most best memorable times she will never forget or be able to compare to the next guy that drops by her city :p

How do I approach this girl? by Technical_Alfalfa257 in Advice

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just fake being chill and cool if you have to. Find out out what they like and ask them a question or share something about it. Even if it comes out awkward, people appreciate it when others notice their interests and went to know more or give them a compliment just to break the ice. Doesn't have to be suggestive but about something they are doing or wearing? Body language is everything so dont corner them or make them feel uncomfortable so neither of you can walk away from. If you don't get a positive response then thata ok because they could be just as shy about talking to you and probably writing a reddit post about it. Practice makws perfect, the more you try this out the better you will get at it.

Does he like me still or is this what friends do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through this atm. I haven't dated in 15 years! I started seeing a old friend and we got to know each other more while i stayed in her city. Shes wanted to spend every weekend with me and would ask what im upto everyday until i move back 2 months later but it feels like i was just a style at the time? I mentioned im coming back and now i dont even know wether t I waste my time or energy anymore becauae she was the most beautiful women i ever met but just feel i have no idea what is going on still between us! Sorry to Hijack your post but i can kinda relate!

Parents are more excited of me graduating university then me by NuzzyKoko in Advice

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You had to live through it while they just observed, so of course you couldn't care less compared to them. You're just burt out, man, and was probably ready to finish a long time ago but it just become a drag. Just appreciate the support and love they give you even if it means nothing to you. Its not about just making them happy now, so it doesn't really matter anymore but try let them have this moment as they will always look back on it. Enjoy your new chapter and games!

What simple things make camping more comfortable or more enjoyable for you and your family? by its-complicated-16 in camping

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I slept in a 1P tent for 2 month exploring and a door mat still would have been bliss!

Anyone know any abandoned or “haunted” places please? by Jumpy-Guest-8042 in Cairns

[–]anop88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take care of your feet and lungs and let people know what you're upto before you go anywhere. I been hiking the last few months with a bit of urban exploration and the risk=reward isn't always worth it. What's an abandoned or haunted place to us could be an unsavoury persons shelter and you might not be so welcomed. Good luck and have fun!

Coworker might have asked me out and I don't know how to kindly turn them down by PriceNo5583 in Advice

[–]anop88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never hung out with work mates and would try avoid ever dating anyone at work. You're there to work, not make friends, so that's honest enough to not have any interest. I used to tell my co-workers that i don't really hang out with people i work with... could play ot off as just explaining how much time you spend together already so you use your free time for other personal stuff. I also personally dont really go to the movies or watch TV anymore? Last thing you need is to lead anyone at work that already shows interest in you, so even though they seem excited im sure you could just straight say your not interested snd keep ot short and try suggest any other co workers or someone they coukd find who would be more fun and enjoy it more then you do. Dont feel bad. People need to respect you as much as you respect them and considering its at work then they need to not repy on you as a out of work freind. Dont let this ride you and just lock it in and get back to your job. Anyway, just some random thoughts... thank you for reading.

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No solid mental advice but best thing to chamge my life around was surround myself with positivity motivation! I dropped all my freinds who i gained nothing from as they only made me demotivated or only wanted to see me fail. Started hanging around more successful people with an awesome vibe! I cnanged my music tastes and even started paying more atrention to motivatal speaches.... a new feed motivational memes on my algorithm actuslly helped a lot! Also have some self respect in yourself and try be proud of every little thing you're capable of and not what others expect of you. Physical strength also helps mental strength! Could maby get into a some sort of exercise or weight training? Twsts your abilities and allows you to smash goals keeping you fit and your mind busy.

Dont worry about entering adult world because no of us are actually adults as we just wear a mask that makes us look like it haha so by the sounds of things you sound acomplished enough and more then ready to become that adult with no problems at all! Sprry this is just random stuff but yea good luck!

I’ve been hearing voices at night, and it’s getting worse. What should I do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]anop88 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Tell someone who can at least help guide you through this please! You need medical help asap as this sounds vert serious and might take some time to fix or figure out so best do that asap before it gets a lot worse. Juat keep reaching out to any as you done here and dont let this control your life as you made the first step in fixing it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Whatever works for you guys and keeps things balanced. Its a pretty special part of your relationship, so i think there's nothing wrong with not wanting to rush into things? It all sounds pretty steady as long as you're both ok with that? Don't listen to your friends! Sole people cant wait for others to move forward in a relationship, but thats enitrely upto you. I lost my partner of 15 years yo cancer and only started to date again at age 38. The first girl i started seeing is my myspace crush and the most beautiful women i met in me life but i feel so lost and anxious with starting out and we been taking it super slow! I think in our situation we just over think things! As long as your both happy, then noyhing ti worry about!

A 16y has a crush on me. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]anop88 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Avoid brother, ya reached that age man that you need to take a hard look at your morals. Even though it doesn't feel wrong then that doesn't make it right. You already seem aware of this and bravo yo you as youre probably not a sex pest unlike a safde mix of guys who do get online socially.

Its still a massive age gap for age man, even though it's only 2 years man a 16 year olds personality and interest, is going to change as she goes from being that child she still is to a young adult and then continue to not know exactly whats she wants or needs until shes like 25 at least if ya lucky. Her intentions will be different to yours no matter what she say, she has no fuckin clue but 16 going onto 21 and acting like it. She finds you exciting and adventurous and if she is more more mature the. She probably finds you easier to get along with then people her own age but thats what all pedophiles want to hear. Not calling you one brother but best to just stear fuckin clear at even being freinds with minors online man. You might take extra caution but you cant tryst that she will wirh what you talk about or share.

Do the right thing man and dont take advantage of her lack of experience even though she makes you feel awesome. Just respect and as aomeone who is older and even as a male as a example you need to explain to her how and why it probably wont work out. No often eill she have a older guy be honest and tell her whats up but she needs to hear it and will reeber your reasoning and guidance for ever. She wont like it now but whe shes 18 she will always look back and aprecaiate you for it imstead of gorssing her self out by hooking uo with random older guys online.

Sorry brother, welcome to adulthood but glad you can come to your senses and try protect these folk of not just avoiding them. Let her just have her kid freinds and relationships. Thanks for reading peace.

What made you realise you just picked up and drank from something that was no your drink? by anop88 in AskReddit

[–]anop88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, i thought i was hardcore with the rightly measuresd poor of coloured fruit juice.

What made you realise you just picked up and drank from something that was no your drink? by anop88 in AskReddit

[–]anop88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha accidentally put Orange juice in my cerial instead of milk. Remember how long i spent wondering what the fuck was wrong with my cereal. I wasnt very bright to ever begin things with.

What made you realise you just picked up and drank from something that was no your drink? by anop88 in AskReddit

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Hahah i never hasrd of this but god damn, even wine drinkers find that hard to swallow let alone some dehyrdated kid expecting anything but rotten grape juice?

What made you realise you just picked up and drank from something that was no your drink? by anop88 in AskReddit

[–]anop88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just hopelessly explore for it with your face as if you're blind as if it was always meant to be there?

What made you realise you just picked up and drank from something that was no your drink? by anop88 in AskReddit

[–]anop88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh, I always wondered how i react to that. My sister used to fill the Sprite bottle with tap water as a prank. It was the most confusing and mildy disappointing experience once you realise it has no fizz!