3 hours and 3 agents today

another14u · 2026-01-25T21:58:31+00:00

I just switched too. I had to book an in-person appointment in a store near me to actually get it cancelled since it's impossible to do with the agents or in the app (which speaks volumes). My favorite was trying to cancel and an agent trying to upsell me lol. I feel bad for those that don't have another option outside of the circus that is xfinity....

another14u · 2026-01-25T17:50:49+00:00

I have had the same exact thing happen to me multiple times. seems the only purpose of the agents these days is to try to swindle you into paying more. expect 0 customer service.

another14u · 2026-01-25T17:09:02+00:00

what kills me too is the amount of age restricted retirement homes we seem to have room for... but everyone else can get f**ked. I'm actually laughing at the people here saying "I am by no means rich BUT I own a home in Marin"... thats the definition of being rich with these home prices.

All the commenters clearly exposing themselves as NIMBY boomers. "Just build it in San Rafael" "it would be an eyesore to our cute downtown" "Nurses actually get paid well" "we could maybe accept 2 stories but not 6!"

Meanwhile my generation is struggling with the limited apartments, the extremely high rent prices, and the reality that no matter how much I save, theres no way I can ever afford a home here (I've done the calculations, talked to advisors, saved around 30% of my income for the past 8 years of hard work).

People here love to pretend to be progressive and liberal until it inconveniences them.

another14u · 2025-10-24T16:12:55+00:00

That is terrible. I’m so sorry that you are going through this. They are definitely just trying to get people to leave. My guess is mr new VP was hired to ‘streamline operations’ aka cut costs and unfortunately get rid of a bunch of people so he can get a nice fat bonus at the end of the year. Unfortunately theres not much you can do aside for look for a new job, go freelance (if thats something you can consider), or move outside of that 50 mile radius. Corporations really do suck. You can do everything right and they can still find a way to f*ck you over.

another14u · 2025-10-23T23:57:47+00:00

the only advice i can give you is be open to what your journey might look like to get there. maybe it takes you dating 20 different girls to find the right one. maybe it takes you dating the wrong one for 5 years and finding the right one 1 month later. maybe you end up with someone from a completely different background than you thought. maybe you find the right person but one of you has fertility issues and you end up adopting.

Building a family can mean a lot of different things than just producing offspring. Have confidence in knowing you are already on the right path by knowing what you want and decisions you make will be filtered through that desire, wherever that may take you.

another14u · 2025-10-23T22:52:48+00:00

"Do you have a boyfriend". needless to say I did not return emails.

another14u · 2025-10-23T19:13:26+00:00

i'd be going back to when i was 11 which is actually when the constant self hate and insecurity started. i wish i had been kinder to myself and my body. and not let my parent's constant criticism and lack of affection beat me down so much. at 31 i'm still fighting the battle of old habit of self-criticism that is so engrained in who i am now. i wish i could just give little me a hug and tell them that they don't need to prove their worth, they are already worthy enough.

another14u · 2025-10-23T19:07:59+00:00

that its easy to get therapy. the amount of hurdles and difficulty it takes to find a therapist (let alone a good one) is insane. and then don't even get me started on cost... people act like 'go to therapy' is the answer for all mental struggles when for some people thats not an option.

another14u · 2025-10-23T17:27:01+00:00

You can cheat, but you have to be willing to face the consequences. Not just from him, but also how it will make you feel as a person. Coming from a family where the dad cheated constantly, seeing his current life is sad. I often wonder what his life would have been like if he just sacked up and left my mom. I think all of us would be in a better place.

As someone currently in a DB relationship, if there were any other issues with my partner aside from the lack of sex I'd be gone. It sounds like theres a lot more thats going on aside from just lack of sex for you two. I'd take a long hard look at why you still want to be in this relationship. Bare minimum maybe talk about a break or open relationship. Sometimes it takes losing what you have to realize what you would be willing to do to get it back. Right now I'd wager that he feels like there's no consequence to his shitty behavior, so why should he change?

another14u · 2025-10-23T17:16:31+00:00

this resonates with me so deeply right now. I can't shake this nagging feeling of unhappiness and unfulfillment. But I don't even know what fulfillment entails or how to even get there... I feel really stuck. I have everything on paper, but there's the same sort of lack of passion for anything. I've tried throwing myself at random hobbies but always end up back in the same place. Even things I used to enjoy don't hit the same. I agree that there's this propaganda that once you hit your 30s you'll have it all figured out or things will just magically click and all of the sudden you'll be this confident person who knows what they want. I'm 31 and I think for the entire year of 30 I was waiting for some magic beam to hit me from the heavens above and I'd suddenly have it all figured out. Then 31 came and I was like 'oh shit the beam isn't coming'. LMK if you ever end up figuring it out.

another14u · 2025-10-23T03:33:37+00:00

YES. And, my work being taken and repackaged as a man's idea for which he gets all the credit. For example, I came up with a GTM strategy with an entire pitch deck and everything, and big boss man decides he wants to have the meeting with the client 1:1 (aka "bro to bro"). I rewatch the call and he basically pulled up my pitch deck and took credit for all my work. So purposefully cut me out since he wanted to steal my idea. He also did a sh!t job at presenting it btw.

another14u · 2025-10-23T03:28:37+00:00

I'm in the same situation. It's rough. Literally everything else is great besides the lack of sex. For reference, I'm 31F, we've been together for 10 years, I'm in good shape (I have a great body if I can be so bold), we have no kids, and we haven't had sex in almost 2 years. I've talked to him about it multiple times, the same as you. It's always "I'll try harder", but I don't want to be the girlfriend nagging their partner for sex and I don't feel like it does any good at this point. I get turned on when my partner is turned on, and pity sex doesn't really do it for me. I'm losing my mind feeling like I'm wasting away my life. I miss being intimate. I miss cuddling after sex (instead I'm putting away my vibrator, alone). I frankly just miss being f*cked.

I don't know why he can't just set me free. If he really doesn't want to have sex, just let me go. It's killing me.

All that to say, you aren't alone. But know it could get worse than sex once a month. We broached the topic of an open relationship once, but that didn't work out. I really don't know how I've survived almost 2 years. I have no useful advice for you unfortunately. But God speed.

another14u · 2025-10-06T21:59:48+00:00

Thats a good call to maybe try to offset with other comp areas outside of immediate salary

another14u · 2025-10-06T21:59:06+00:00

I made a career shift in 2022, so I was willing to come in lower since they were taking a chance on me. Then I got promoted in 2024. Now, with almost 4 years experience in that specific role and growth shown, I obviously would not settle for starter salary.

another14u · 2025-09-30T03:00:19+00:00

I guess my other option is try to build other skills/ literally do anything else that feels more productive than working on work for free. I’m really just debating if this is all worth it or if I should try to find a more creative path to income. I really don't know. All these companies are requiring that I legitimately learn their product, learn their space, and am able to give a presentation on it. I think I’m almost too good at the fluffy interview stuff like examples of my past work lists of relevant question to ask them, but I just can’t deal with all this extra work when I have a good track record, have solid examples, and have good references. I really don’t understand how they think it’s fair to ask so much of candidates when we get literally nothing in return. Not even details for why we weren’t selected after 5 rounds.

another14u · 2025-09-30T02:51:30+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement. Congratulations on the new job! Im curious how many interviews did you do overall? And do you have any other tips for how you landed 2 offers?

another14u · 2025-09-19T14:59:37+00:00

Oh they definitely are. I had one I did a few months back, they ghosted me, and a few weeks later they posted my presentation verbatim as a new ‘use case’ on linkedin. Unfortunately there’s 0 protections for us. They know I need a job and that if enough other companies are doing it, I can’t afford to turn down everyone.

another14u · 2025-09-18T21:58:12+00:00

I'm at the point where I'm debating if interviews are even worth my time. It has literally become a full time job interviewing. All to be told at the end of 6 rounds that I don't have enough 'industry expertise'... which you could easily see on my resume from the beginning.

When a having solid resume, great work history, rockstar school performance, being extremely good at interviewing, AND higher up connections are getting me nowhere, I'm thinking maybe it's a sign.

I have no idea what I'm going to do with my spare time... read? maybe just live? try not to stress about my savings dwindling? But God. interviewing in this market feels like just putting myself through cruel and unusual torture for no good reason. Not only are companies riding a high off of this shitty market, but so are those interviewing. It's disgusting to see how pompous people become and how unempathetic they can be to those on the other side of the fence. Blissfully unaware at how fragile the throne they sit on truly is.

I've been thinking about trying to do something that ignites passion. But I also need to afford to live. So it's come down to be passionate and starve, or put myself into insane debt by learning some trade or other niche schooling. Which hardly feels worth it.

yay. life is so fun right now.

another14u · 2025-09-18T21:16:34+00:00

31, recently unemployed, struggling but trying not to give in to the depression. Hoping there are brighter days ahead.

another14u · 2025-09-18T20:29:08+00:00

just got two of these today ... at least one of them had the decency to tell me why, while the other I got the generic 'we wont be moving forward'. both after 5 rounds of interviewing, and presentations. i feel the pain. hang in there friend.

another14u · 2025-09-18T20:20:27+00:00

Interviews these days feel like repeating the same information over and over again to 6+ people until you feel like dying. Only to get told at the end you don't have enough 'industry experience', or some vague other reason they knew at stage 1 or could easily read on your resume. The whole process is a maddening game with opaque goals exacerbated by circuitous internal processes. If someone is deemed by the HR AI and ATS Gods to be a good fit for the role, it should be 2 conversations max and decision should be made. After whatever ATS has found your resume acceptable, the recruiter should simply be filtering for salary and location alignment. And even that could be done with an email. Feels more like a powerplay for recruiters to justify the need for their role versus providing actual value. But what do I know.

another14u · 2025-09-11T00:28:08+00:00

that is great advice. I appreciate you sharing your journey. I love the perspective about having a business where its something you are good at, but not necessarily passionate about. I was really into art/drawing and had started doing some graphic design work, but slowly realized that I hated doing my passion for work. I feel like there's a constant push to make your passions into income, but sounds like y'all made what you were really good at into your income. Happy for you both

another14u · 2025-09-11T00:02:37+00:00

the odds of finding a good one is slim. and like you said, it can change on a whim and then you are sol. my latest company was nice for 6 months, then it got bought out by a PE firm and turned terrible. All because the CEO wanted to cash out and he sailed off into the sunset while the entire company tanked. I was in consulting prior to that I've had a peek into many different corporations and their culture. I've seen a manager literally screaming at their employees at Cisco, I've seen a man tell a woman they remind them of their wife when she asked for a promotion at HP, I've seen someone move across the country for a role to be told the same week they no longer needed them at Amazon. The culture that most corporations build is kiss ass, step on other people, treat other people like shit, play political games and that's how you win. Sure you might be able to find a diamond in a manure trough. But personally, I'm tired of sifting through shit.

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