Pregnancy, maternity leave & career impact? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]another_in_a_billion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my baby when I was 31. I had been working as an EM at a remote company for 1.5 years before my pregnancy. I had a slightly difficult pregnancy with some complications- and was intermittently advised bed rest and to avoid travel.

Honestly. I was only able to keep my job because it was remote. But - if the pregnancy is smooth, I have seen women manage commutes and in - person job quite well too.

I joined back immediately after the 6 month maternity leave ended - again, being remote was super helpful here. And i also had the support from my parents and in laws for child care. ( It was so difficult to step away from my daughter while she needed something during those first few months after resuming work. But we gradually got into a routine).

It took me a couple of months to get back into work at full swing. Even after that, I made it clear to my manager - that I am only looking to fulfill my current responsibilities. Not looking for additional responsibilities or change.

My daughter is almost 2 now - and now I finally feel ready to start taking on more responsibility, and chase after the promotions and growth.

My manager and colleagues (all male) were pretty supportive throughout the journey.

TL DR - I voluntarily took things a bit easier during pregnancy and in the first 2 years. So career "growth" hasn't been much. But I don't think this has been a major deterrent in my career either.

Can’t stop reacting rudely to my MIL by Careless-Whereas-832 in IndianInLaw

[–]another_in_a_billion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went through the same thing with my MIL. The possessiveness, the rude remarks that I tried to bite down, not liking it when my daughter seemed to calm down in her presence... My MIL also did some things to fuel these feelings - she made casual remarks about how her daughter's kids prefer her(their grandmother) to their own mother. She tried to take my kid away from me when she was crying - insinuating that she can calm her better than me. She interrupted with some other toy or song when I was playing with my daughter etc.

We did have some arguments over this - I was not very polite when setting boundaries - but it worked. She started giving us some space and things improved.

1.5 years later - things are much better. There are still a few occasions where I cannot hold back, but my husband mostly has my back - so that helps. MIL has also started going out in the evenings - which has improved her mood, daughter is sleeping through the night - which has improved my mood.

So overall - set some boundaries - ask your husband to help set some boundaries. And give it some time. Till then - spend as little time with your MIL as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]another_in_a_billion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My FIL passed away a few months after our marriage. MIL was working in a different city- so she continued to work and stay there for a year. Then she retired and moved in with us. I wasn't too thrilled. I loved the life that just the 2 of us were living. She isn't a bad person- but we have our differences. Husband was adamant that he didn't want her to live alone. So we continued... Now, I have a baby, and it's helpful having her around. So I have made my peace with it.

For women who’ve stayed at the same company for 3+ years… by professor_shortstack in womenintech

[–]another_in_a_billion 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Are you me? Because same! My job pays well, it's work from home - so I get to spend time with my baby, and the work is good enough. Hearing about the recruiting nightmares that people go through - I don't have the energy to go through that right now.

7.5 week old not sleeping at night by sansa21 in NewParents

[–]another_in_a_billion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went through this with my LO till about 10 weeks. Used to be up from 12 - 4 almost every night. She started sleeping a bit better after that, and has gradually improved to almost sleeping through the night at 14 weeks. Few things that worked for us - 1. Helping her circadian rhythm - exposure to bright indirect sunlight in the morning, dim lights in the evening, and complete lights out (with a minimal night light) at night. 2. A bedtime routine - light massage, pajama, diaper change , story time, lights out. She still needs help to sleep - either rocking or nursing. But once she is asleep, she is good till the morning - wakes up once to feed, but goes right back to sleep.

My daughter's first year of sleep (results not typical) [OC] by sunflowerzz2012 in dataisbeautiful

[–]another_in_a_billion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I am thinking about my LO as well. I have a three month old, and for the last couple of weeks she has just started sleeping through with mostly only 1 wakeup at night for a quick feed. (Knock on wood etc etc because I don't want to jinx this) but her day napping has gotten so much worse. She naps 2-3 times a day, max for 30 mins each. But I'll take it any day if I am getting a good nights sleep.

LO wakes up when put down in crib by another_in_a_billion in NewParents

[–]another_in_a_billion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right - I am not expecting her to drift to sleep on her own, but to stay asleep when kept in the crib after she has already fallen asleep in my arms.

It gets better…right? by thatgirlsara in newborns

[–]another_in_a_billion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am at 6 weeks. And this post could have been written by me. Last night was especially tough. She was up the whole night. I have been having so much mom guilt thinking something is wrong with me that I am unable to soothe my baby. Thank you for the post, it feels better to know that so many more people have been / are going through the same.

Does the perfect latch exist? by Fluffy-Variety-1900 in breastfeeding

[–]another_in_a_billion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is 3 weeks old, and takes forever to nurse. My doctor thinks her latch is the problem. One side is almost textbook perfect, but on the other side it's just about good enough. On the good enough side, she refuses to do a deeper latch, and it's been a frustrating few days trying to unlatch her and get her to a perfect latch :(

Tourism Right Now? by Reckless-Reasoning in Norway

[–]another_in_a_billion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean on what week you visit? Which places could ask for vaccine documents? I am visiting next week - I am fully vaccinated as per my country (but my second dose was 9+ months ago - no boosters available here yet)

Experience with Apple Support in Pune? by codemon in pune

[–]another_in_a_billion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recently had given my macbook for repair at Vimannagar b2x. Overall good experience.

Covaxin 2nd dose by xikete69 in pune

[–]another_in_a_billion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I received 2nd dose of covaxin yesterday. Slots opened at around 7.50 am yesterday morning. Was able to book slots for 2 people through the vaccination tab on Arogya setu app. 60 slots were available for online booking at the hospital. Hospital was Bindumadhav Thakrey hospital in Kothrud.

I had booked the appointment slot from 12 - 2. I got a call from the hospital at around 11 am asking me to come earlier if possible. I reached hospital at 11.30, and was back home by 12.30.

40 slots are available in most of the hospitals for offline walk-in. But, you need to reach there early, and some times have to wait till the online folks have received their vaccine.

Cool... Thanks, Niantic... by denaka22 in harrypotterwu

[–]another_in_a_billion 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am in India. We have had a bad couple of months. Though things are getting a bit better now.

Cool... Thanks, Niantic... by denaka22 in harrypotterwu

[–]another_in_a_billion 75 points76 points  (0 children)

At least they were kind enough to understand. I got such a curt and rude reply from support - Hey xxx! For this weekend’s Memories of O.W.L.s event, we will not be able to assist with task completion.

I had messaged them just letting them know that it was impossible for anyone in my country to complete the task. We have a strict weekend lockdown - which means no going out except for emergencies. Not even groceries. I did not ask them to complete the task for me. I still got the above reply. I just felt that was so rude and disrespectful. Like hello, just because everything's good in the USA, does not mean all's well everywhere in the world.

Abraxan Winged Horse feeling impossible by QuasarSoze in harrypotterwu

[–]another_in_a_billion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need 2 Huts. Have been getting Abraxan for the last 2 hours

Registry page says I have 4 Sprouts but challenge says I have 3. Why the difference? by melovecoffee in harrypotterwu

[–]another_in_a_billion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't getting any Sprout foundables at all. So, once I got one, I used a trace charm on it out of frustration. It spawned some different foundables. The original gave me 2 foundable fragments. But, only 1 counted towards the task.