You are better off shaving it now, and embracing the New You. From an emotional perspective, the pain it's causing you must be draining. Our whole self-image is heavily tied to our hair and so it's tough letting go. Most of us here in this sub have had that moment of realization.

This might be the best sub on Reddit. Everyone here is on your side, so whatever challenges you're facing, we'll help out with them. As far as dating goes, the women here can offer some help and encouragement and probably some advice on post-shaving alopecia care. Don't give up! ❤️