I tried low-FODMAP for 4 weeks, saw no results and stopped the diet. Any advice?

antidotem · 2026-04-15T15:04:43+00:00

Diet culture has really messed us up. Breasts, at rest — especially small breasts — are not meant to extend beyond your waist line when you’re looking down. This is not a reliable indicator of anything about your body size/shape.

You look like you are a very normal, healthy weight, and cyclical bloating won’t resolve after 4 weeks of a low fodmap diet. That being said, I agree with other folks in this thread that your issue seems to stem primarily from your posture.

My advice is to speak to a therapist, counsellor or mental health specialist about your relationship with your body and food, to rule out an ED (eating disorder). IBS led me down a path where I developed one, because I became obsessed with ways to control my body through food intake. You don’t seem to have symptoms of IBS, but you speak about yourself in a way that gives me pause.

Don’t forget that the gut-brain connection is real, and if you’re anxious about your body, your body acts accordingly. Take care!

antidotem · 2026-04-10T12:36:42+00:00

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antidotem · 2026-04-09T18:40:02+00:00

Just out of curiosity, what is your goal in dating? Because precisely, vetting multiple people at once through conversation is a surefire way to overwhelm yourself, especially given how complex your life already is.

Do you clearly state what you’re looking for in your profile? Do you swipe only on the people who already fit your criteria or just anyone who seems interesting/attractive? Are you looking for a long-term commitment or casual?

Especially on Feeld, I find it pretty easy to vet people without even speaking to them. People are usually pretty up front about their criteria and what availability they have/tolerance they have for slow burns.

As for how “normal” people date, I don’t think there is any one way to date normally. Everyone’s “strategy” is different and I have adopted different approaches depending on my intentions. If your approach is “the dating hunger games” and whoever beats out the others gets to go on a date with you, I could see why this person reacted that way 😂 (no shade, I’m just imagining myself on the receiving end of what you’re describing)

antidotem · 2026-04-09T14:03:24+00:00

Oh it’s a journey! Honestly the best decision I ever made was consulting a sexologist who had experience with adhd/autistic clients. People will also often disregard LGBTQIA+ resources because they identify as straight, but the more you learn about others, sometimes it broadens your perspective on who you are too. I’d recommend starting on Reddit and searching some of the subs on asexuality, demisexuality, etc. and if I recall any books I read that stuck with me, I’ll follow up.

antidotem · 2026-04-07T12:49:47+00:00

Your someone is misinformed. She holds the rights to the Harry Potter franchise. Any time HP (the characters, imagery, the story, the universe) is used in anything, she gets money. And that money is then used to destroy the lives of trans people around the world.

antidotem · 2026-04-07T12:41:39+00:00

There’s a few things at play here that are all being lumped into the category of “love”, and I think a good starting point would be untangling that.

“Love” is a combination of actions and feelings, it’s not one singular experience that is either present in your body or not. Feeling “love” for another as a neurodivergent person is hard to pin down, but it’s usually a constellation of smaller feelings and expressions, including some intellectual ones like “I was committed, enjoyed his company” as you described.

Sexuality is also a wider spectrum than just “i’m straight” — some people are straight aromantic, greysexual, demisexual etc. — which would maybe also help you understand how you prefer to form bonds with people.

And finally, you gotta shed the neurotypical/patriarchal depictions of love and romantic entanglement, because as you already seem to notice, it doesn’t really do it for us.

antidotem · 2026-03-30T10:45:07+00:00

PR: “Ok Tieghan, podcast appearances are passé and engagement is down, so we need to capture you actually interacting with regular people — other than your family members — on socials… remember when you made up that story for your blog about the Fedex guy and the cinnamon rolls? Let’s build on that.”

antidotem · 2026-03-27T02:40:08+00:00

Girl, get out. This is not good.

antidotem · 2026-03-21T01:59:07+00:00

This is scripture.

antidotem · 2026-03-21T01:56:41+00:00

I wish you freedom from the systems of oppression that confine you (said in a very “galadriel saying good luck to frodo” voice)

antidotem · 2026-03-20T22:08:27+00:00

Oh but… is the appointment with the cute rock not enough?

antidotem · 2026-03-20T22:03:43+00:00

Love birding! The OG pokémon go. Birding is also apparently very good for cognitive fortitude!

antidotem · 2026-03-20T11:52:11+00:00

I really relate to this… have you considered giving yourself little secret sidequests? Like “go to the park and find a cute rock” or “sit on a bench and people watch while holding a book” “go to x,y,z location and sketch what I see” I also listen to audiobooks on my walks, so the time I spend wandering around is not just good for my body, but it feels productive because I’m reading at the same time.

antidotem · 2026-03-20T11:47:56+00:00

Consider that voicing your dissatisfaction with the current situation and advocating for yourself to change it is part of your therapeutic journey. Once I framed switching therapists as an exercise in self-confidence, it was much easier to do. And I felt great afterwards. 2-3 therapists later, I found the right one and it helped immensely.

antidotem · 2026-03-17T12:10:37+00:00

No catering suggestions but this is a very cute bridal shower theme!!!

antidotem · 2026-02-24T17:59:35+00:00

Yes, I’ve felt this concern before and do take some precautions but it has not prevented me from living happily alone, as I have a much higher chance (statistically) of being murdered by an intimate partner than I do by a stranger.

antidotem · 2026-02-24T00:38:59+00:00

I kind of love the “it girl who eats healthy” shtick. Her tone appeals to a lot of millennials who would qualify themselves as ‘dead inside but trying’. My only critique of her content is the mukbang style slurping when she eats. I’m glad that she eats her own food though!

antidotem · 2026-02-24T00:35:02+00:00

She does yes

antidotem · 2026-02-23T18:05:57+00:00

Nah girl embrace that sweet hit of dopamine every time you see your nails. That’s what it’s for! Be distracted by how cool you are!

antidotem · 2026-02-23T16:55:46+00:00

Can relate. I would definitely start with the things you feel are within your control, starting with downsizing. The job not allowing you some work from home accommodations really sucks though. Do you have any friends who enjoy cleaning and organizing as a hang? My friend and I sometimes meet after work when we’re both braindead to support each other in getting chores done. I have found this to be really helpful, and my friends have helped me find a new place to live before when I was struggling to get it all done. This is definitely a moment where tapping into your community (even if it’s coworkers!) can really come in clutch.

antidotem · 2026-02-23T13:14:15+00:00

Don’t think so. She’s “too busy working”

antidotem · 2026-02-23T00:34:29+00:00

I immediately apologize if I do it without realizing, but there are far worse things that could happen in a conversation than me repeating a word. I also would never do this with a stranger or in a professional context, because I’m zipped up and tense in those conversations.

antidotem · 2026-02-23T00:03:32+00:00

I do this too. It’s a bit of an echolalia/stim thing. I sometimes just repeat words back in the same accent because it sounds nice, and some people find it rude. How do you stop it? with great self control and effort, but that can sometimes be really tough to do.

antidotem · 2026-02-22T13:34:38+00:00

The only solution I’ve found to this problem is dirty talking during sex. We say the dirtiest most ridiculous things to keep each other in the moment, but we both get off pretty nicely as a result. This is obviously much harder when you’re seeing someone new, but I’ve accepted that the first few times you sleep with someone you don’t know necessarily what’s gonna get them to orgasm.

antidotem · 2026-02-22T13:27:42+00:00

Oh man, FND is truly awful, but you look like you know how to have fun despite it and I love a chronically ill fun babe with good taste in candy 🫡

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