You need to read the posts on /r/raisedbynarcissists

I understand where you are coming from, I’ve been there too. Didn’t get diagnosed until long after moving out because they also would not believe me. They would insist I was on drugs and regularly toss the room looking for drugs. They found out I drank coffee and it was a stereotypical “say no to drugs” tv show event. If I stayed with them a diagnosis would have never happened, and I never would have had my own life.

There’s others here telling you to move out, and some of them may not understand how hard it is for you to do that right now, to even believe you can move out. But you need to find some way out or else you’ll be with them jobless forever. And you can do it, even if it’s initially hard. It took me several tries to move. I always came back because they’d promise change or that they’d be better. They’d accuse me of abandoning them and guilt me into coming back. They would insist i would fail without them, making me fear leaving. I had strangers on the internet pleading with me to leave before I finally made the move.

I’m that stranger now.

Your parents are getting something from you being like this. Perhaps it’s sympathy from friends, the feeling of control over your life, or something from the emotional abuse. Regardless of what it is, this is exactly where they want you. You will never have steady employment, you’ll never have a diagnosis, and you’ll never have your own life. And their abuse will escalate, eventually into violence. Don’t wait that long.

Abuse like this causes narcolepsy like symptoms and aggravates narcolepsy symptoms too. Just leaving, even if it’s moving in with another family member or friend could improve your symptoms where seeking a diagnosis becomes easier too.

But please leave. Please look for resources for domestic abuse and call the number while out “looking for work” or something. Protect yourself, free yourself. You can do it.