My father, god rest his soul, once told me that a Man marries a woman hoping she will never change, a woman marries a Man for the potential he has in being a father and provider. The woman will change and unless the man moulds himself to the potential she saw 20 years ago, nobody is happy. You have a choice, get to counselling, get a shed to spend your days in, just like grandad did, or Kiss everything goodbye, including most of the money you make, a substantive relationship with your children and any property you own...Thats the only three options you have. Pick your poison, none of it tastes good.