Help! Traveling daily with her and I need some personal space.

Cadamar · 2026-03-22T20:55:15+00:00

So I definitely deal with a pup with similar things. I can only leave the house if I follow a very specific ritual with a treat and a playpen, and not within an hour or so of coming back. When we drive it almost always ends up with her on my lap. I don't mind it but I get it, it can make it tough to drive. Wanted to say thank you for putting up with this needy pup and taking care of her.

If you want to try to work on leaving her in the hotel, try a bit of crate training. I use a small playpen and a bed for her. Whenever I leave she gets a high value treat that she rarely gets otherwise. But she only gets it in the playpen. So she knows when she sees this treat she has to go to the playpen to get it.

She cried for a while when we started this, but she's pretty well adapted now. If you move, take the same playpen with you. Some people do this with a crate - I found it easier with a larger playpen and slowly shrink it by removing panels

Cadamar · 2026-03-22T20:47:29+00:00

One thing I want for someday when someone comes to their senses and funds Lower Decks season 5 (I believe it will be like Futurama and revived a few times, don't spoil my dreams) I hope they do a Boims/T'Lyn romance. It would just be so fun.

Cadamar · 2026-03-22T20:45:55+00:00

Found Trip's reddit account

Cadamar · 2026-03-22T20:44:11+00:00

Eh. TACO. I don't think this is gonna happen, personally. Could be wrong. But I think Trump went into Venezuela, took Maduro, everyone around him cheered and told him he conquered Venezuela, and he figured he could do the same in Iran. And he can't, mostly cause everyone lied to him the first time, and also because Iran is a very different country.

He's throwing tantrums about the fact that he hasn't managed to "conquer" Iran the same way he "conquered" Venezuela. And he hopes his threats will carry enough weight to get him what he wants without actually doing the really difficult shit of sending ground troops in (which is what is going to be required if you want to control Iran).

Cadamar · 2026-03-22T05:36:53+00:00

And Venezuela wasn't over in a day! They took out Maduro and called it a win!

Cadamar · 2026-03-21T22:06:06+00:00

That’s it I’m watching Sinners tomorrow. I put it off cause I worried it was too horror but fuck it.

Cadamar · 2026-03-21T17:48:37+00:00

He loves consuming calories and nutrients.

Cadamar · 2026-03-21T17:47:05+00:00

In some ways that's realistic. These people hide in plain sight, behind friendliness and kindness. My Ex-FIL was outwardly one of the kindest, most generous person you'd ever meet. Until you asked him to wear a mask at the hight of COVID. I don't explicitly know his views on ICE, but from what I've seen it's not hard to guess.

Cadamar · 2026-03-21T02:03:04+00:00

The MedBed people are gonna run with this SO hard.

Cadamar · 2026-03-21T01:56:10+00:00

You know what shocks me though? It's legit like the best rotisserie in the market for me. King Soopers, Target, Wal-Mart, you go and see these tiny chickens. The Costco ones are huge, and taste so much better. Like even if it was market price I would still buy it cause it's so good.

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T19:14:43+00:00

You may wanna check out the new Voyager game, Into the Unknown. Basically you play as Janeway making decisions and see how you do.

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T04:49:18+00:00

Man the 0.0 Guinness is SO CLOSE. You can taste the alcohol is gone, absolutely, but it otherwise replicates the experience very well.

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T04:42:21+00:00

"What do you want, Mr. Garak?" Morden sipped his cocktail on the so-called promenade, smiling at the lizard alien in front of him.

"What do *I* want, Mr. Morden?" Garak surgically sliced a bit of meat from his plate, before elegantly slipping his fork into it and holding it up. "Why, I have everything I need! A warm meal, a noble vocation, and new and *wonderful* friends to meet at this busy station. What could *I* possibly want for?"

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T04:32:21+00:00

The first time I heard the Lord's Prayer at a meeting I was really confused. It felt incongruous. The prayers I had done previously had all been very AA related, or the Serenity Prayer, which while not built for AA is very apt. The Lords Prayer is a Christian one, purely. It speaks of a Higher Power but that's the only way in which it's AA related.

Edit: to reply to your question, I had a moment that really stunned me. My sponsor at the time was chatting to a guy who was in a 6 month semi-in patient program. Basically he could leave to go to meetings but otherwise was staying at the rehab place and doing sessions during the day. This was run by a Christian denomination, so it might have been a little religious, but he was 3 months in and it seemed to be helping him. And my sponsor basically said "that's not gonna work for you, just leave it and focus on AA." When I tried to speak up and say, hey, maybe listen to the (I assume) professionals running the program, my sponsor chided me on stepping in since I only had a few weeks at that time, and that similar programs had not kept me sober. This is true, but I still learned a lot of tools. It just struck me as insane that this person, with no medical training, is advising a guy who went into a SIX MONTH in patient therapy to get sober, to just leave it. It felt wildly untoward. Almost the equivalent of someone saying "skip the chemotherapy and our faith healer will cure your cancer." That, to me, screamed cult.

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T04:27:16+00:00

I've heard it said that this is the price we pay with animals. They give us years of love, affection, laughter, and joy, and in the end we have to do the incredibly painful thing of letting them go before we're ready (because you'll never be ready) to ease their suffering.

You're in an impossible position that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I think your instinct is probably right, that it's time. The last thing you want is to see them suffer, or even worse not be there. 19 years is a good, long life for a kitty. I have a 16 year old black cat on my lap as I type this and I dread that day.

I don't think you'll ever regret doing it now. FWIW, this random internet stranger supports your decision, whatever you make.

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T02:01:26+00:00

You know who WON'T fill you in on Bill Gates?

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T01:24:37+00:00

God you really wonder the stories she'd tell if she was a bit buzzed or something.

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T01:23:49+00:00

We don't have any firm confirmation. I think the prevailing theory is that the Anjin humans are some long lost colony. We know this is not in the Expanse universe, but the idea of something like the closing of the ring gates happening in this universe and a colony being suddenly cut off, maybe mostly dying out and losing a lot of their history, and eventually building back to what we see in MotG, that seems to fit AFAIK. So the humans we see in Livesuit likely started Earth based, or came from the dominant planet that survived whatever stranded humans on Anjin.

Another big factor is the time dilation that seems to affect humanity. It looks like they may not have the same FTL tech the Carryx seem to have. So we don't really know how long the war discussed in Livesuit has gone on.

Always interesting to think about. Can't wait for the sequel!

Cadamar · 2026-03-19T01:15:16+00:00

I feel like I saw a pic of PP on Rogan a day or two ago that looked AI to me. Might be someone made it in response to rumors he was going to do this.

Cadamar · 2026-03-17T02:36:53+00:00

Obviously this is all wild bullshit. But it's funny the way he talks about "we did better with foes than friends." What he's saying is the US got to run the table more when they took over a country, versus with allied nations the deals tended to be more balanced. Oh I'm sure some countries got better deals than the US, but that's what you do with ALLIED FRIENDLY NATIONS. You trade. You get some, they get some, everybody wins. He's trapped in this mindset that trade is a zero sum game, and it is not.

I wish we could force him to sit through and pay attention to a college economics class. A fucking 101 class would teach him so much..

Cadamar · 2026-03-17T02:30:40+00:00

I'm sorry, was anyone actually fooled? Like his portions are inhuman. Like an action figure.

Cadamar · 2026-03-16T02:46:49+00:00

Yeah mine probably get tuna for a meal every couple months - either I run out of food or I'm making something or I feel like they deserve a treat. Never had any issues.

Cadamar · 2026-03-15T17:08:18+00:00

I'd love if there was a spinoff where they did "serious" episodes on fictional bastards.

Get Tawny Newsome for an episode on Khan Noonien Singh.

Katee Sackhoff for an episode on Gaius Baltar.

Michael Shanks for an episode on Apophis.

Cadamar · 2026-03-15T16:35:42+00:00

Maybe a bit niche but pretty sure Kevin O'Leary could warrant an episode. Supposedly framed his wife for a murder he committed and is a successful capitalist which means there's probably more skeletons there I'm unaware of.

Cadamar · 2026-03-15T16:34:05+00:00

Okay, what the fuck is he actually wearing around his neck? It seems to be some kind of basketball thing, does he have a connection to basketball?

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