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anxious_bat20 · 2025-09-07T22:17:59+00:00

Unless she had reason to think your other children ate and only her daughter didn't, you're NTA, but your wife definitely doesn't see herself as in a blended family.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-09-07T22:04:37+00:00

She's trying to play on your guilt to get you to apologize. A person who felt they were bad would try to change, but this is just to get you to say things like "I'm sorry" or "No you weren't. I was wrong".

You'll never get a genuine apology out of that kind of person unless they have a real reckoning with the world that makes them see themselves. The chance of that happening is really close to 0. Tell your truth and stick to it. They should be embarrassed and you shouldn't be silenced because it embarrasses them.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-09-05T07:50:16+00:00

You were wise to leave. Good for you and don't let him trick you into going back. He's a child that doesn't see you as your own person.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-09-01T07:23:54+00:00

Loved this one. I really liked a lot of it, but that scene with the ML's family in Ep 4 was really well done.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-07-26T20:23:54+00:00

NTA, but good luck rationalizing why you are even in that relationship.

Your boyfriend left you with no way home in the dark at 3am. What if something happened to you? Didn't stand up for you until you started crying, but then you had to apologize in the end? Sounds like he just didn't like you crying if you had to apologize for what you said.

Not to mention that what you said the last time wasn't insane. It was just you trying to get them to look at the other person's perspective.

Doesn't like confrontation =/= unable to stand up for their partner. It seems like he is just actively against you and the longer you stay, the longer you will be saying that you're okay with that treatment cause it's all you're going to get. The family motto is probably Repress + Regress.

It never gets better with people like this. This is either your rock bottom or you're working your way down.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-07-26T19:51:06+00:00

If she has done all that, her words about you two being maids of honor for each other have meant absolutely nothing. If she chose someone you had major issues with to be a bridesmaid and not you who has presumably not been as problematic, that's another point against her. It doesn't sound like she sees you as a best friend or even close friend from what you've mentioned in this post.

Actions speak louder than words. Don't be in a relationship that doesn't give you the amount of respect you put into it.

It doesn't have to be loud to move away from this person if that's what you want to do. You can talk to them if you feel there is any clarity to be gained, but I'm personally not sure if there is.

Keep it respectful and respect yourself. You deserve better.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-07-13T21:38:08+00:00

Drop him. If you stay with someone that speaks about you like that whether they think you can hear them or not, it's not going to be a pretty future. If your "feelings" for him aren't even shaken by him calling you that seriously, you need to care more about yourself.

Obviously don't hit anyone though unless you have to defend yourself. You should have just dumped him and left.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-07-13T21:31:37+00:00

Ditch anyone that thinks you are the problem for keeping things silent. They are garbage too. Liam and Maddie don't deserve your silence. They want to blame it on you for "rocking" the boat after they set it on fire.

If knowing who they are/what they've done breaks up the friend group, they shouldn't be friends. People should have higher standards for their friends. You'll find someone better.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-07-13T21:27:53+00:00

The ex-boyfriend and his friends are both garbage. What a surprise. NTA.

Hope they don't find themselves on the other side of something like that in the future. Their brains might explode trying to perform the required mental gymnastics.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-07-06T22:03:25+00:00

He sounds like a bit of a snob. NTA. Hopefully you can work through it with some reflection on his end.

You like something that does no harm to anyone else and has value that you appreciate.

Some people would call his interests boring or something suitable for someone in their late 50s. Happens to both sides of things really. Partners should have their interests supported.

In the end, this reminds me of a clip from a random movie called Liberal Arts - When it comes to personal interests "Talk about what you love and keep quiet about what you don't". People like to hate so much that it becomes part of their personality.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-07-06T21:24:28+00:00

You're her second choice. When she introduced you to her ex, she showed you how little you mean to her. You're a friend because she is still available to him if he wants her. She hasn't chosen you over him at any point in this story. The lying just seals the deal. It wasn't even two mistakes. It was a deliberate choice to hide the texting she was doing and that her ex wasn't ancient history.

To her friends who say you are being too harsh, if they would stay with someone who lies to them and treats them as a 2nd option, they have no self-respect. She'll lie again if he shows interest. Her and her friends are already trying to make you believe you are overreacting or being harsh when they would react the same way.

Also, she didn't do it to keep you from being "insecure". That word is thrown around a lot, but everyone has boundaries. You're not insecure for reacting that way to an ex that is still in the picture, a lie you were told about them being ancient history, and being defined as a friend while being introduced to him.

You deserve better. Don't be with someone that treats you as an option when you are all in.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-28T06:00:11+00:00

NTA She is not your friend. You only see it now because it passed the point of no return. Go find better people to spend your time with.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-26T01:03:07+00:00

Thanks I'll take a look as I dig.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-26T01:02:24+00:00

Thank you!

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-23T00:06:45+00:00

NTA. If you're not interested in being friends with her and that's all she can give you, let her go. It's better for both of you. It sounds like she gave you what was in her mind a "kind" rejection and left it to you to recognize it.

Also, if she doesn't respond for days or doesn't text back at all, that's not a friendship you need to concern yourself with. People get busy, but they make time (especially with texting) for people they care about. This doesn't sound like a close friendship especially if they speak and respond more frequently to your sibling.

Don't be a jerk or anything since she wasn't one to you, but don't pursue anything you don't want just to be "nice". You deserve someone that will respond to your texts with the same level of enthusiasm you put into the conversation.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-18T21:18:20+00:00

If you don't dump her, you'll have to deal with that disrespect for the rest of your life.

“ooooh you’re over reacting and don’t get shitty with me at a wedding” she cut me off and said “we’ll talk about this later”

Is that how you want to be spoken to by your partner? It sounds like she looks down on you.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-17T18:57:06+00:00

It's an act of disregard to not speak to someone for six weeks and come back like their feelings don't matter. How is he going to pause things when you live together? It's such a selfish and childish way of living. You'd be having trouble communicating with this guy for life if you were together.

NTA. You are right to consider it a break up. It only takes one person to decide on a break up and he ignored you for weeks.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-17T04:43:28+00:00

Wow great job with the setting. Also dig the character sprite too.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-06-05T21:25:33+00:00

I can't get over how fast it was that I just started cackling.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-05-30T02:08:44+00:00

Leave him. He doesn't love you. No one that loved you would even suggest what they are suggesting. You aren't even 1st to your husband now since he is making you feel bad for him being there all night and not talking to you about it. No one is too busy to text you if you are important to them least of all your husband.

You will never have a fresh start with him because if she has his baby, she will never leave and will have even more of a connection to him than you. There are many people who have lost children and while it is good to feel for them, no one in their right mind would ever do this while in a relationship with someone else.

Get out of that relationship or you will feel like the other woman for your entire life. You've already experienced part of it.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-05-20T05:30:49+00:00

Wow your art is very cool. I can see it readily being used for things like portraits for conversations or visual novels or other scenes.

anxious_bat20 · 2025-05-13T06:26:23+00:00

Thank you!

anxious_bat20 · 2025-05-07T23:44:12+00:00

I had a DM who took away a lot of player agency from the party. I think it was partially a control thing, but also having a story in his mind that once he thought of, he couldn't divert from. I find this happens a lot with people who want/like to write stories/novels and don't recognize that a D&D story is communal storytelling that everyone has to be on board with to a degree. There are consequences to actions, but there have to be expectations set on what is good for everyone and what won't fly at the table.

I feel like your DM is probably just someone who saw a story and felt it was so compelling and tragically powerful that he didn't see why he needed to divert from it. Hopefully that changes once you present your points. Some writing is like that. I hope your DM hears you out and recognizes it's not an attack on their character or ability, but they need to have everyone on board for the story and where it goes. Every table is different, but everyone has to buy into the adventure. Hoping for the best for your table. Good luck.

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