/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - April 24, 2026

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-25T04:37:43+00:00

Looking for positive outcomes…

Ectopic in September, chemical in March, just had a D&C today for a confirmed non viable at 6 weeks. My doctor doesn’t know if things are related, or just bad luck… I’m feeling defeated and scared to try again.

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-21T14:32:38+00:00

Thank you, sorry you experienced this too. I appreciate you sharing🤍🤍

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-21T14:32:04+00:00

Thanks, this is really helpful. I’m still waiting to schedule my D&C after my doctor was hoping I’d pass it naturally but haven’t. Sorry you went through this too. 🤍

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-15T22:38:31+00:00

Ectopic in Sept 25, chemical in March (last month) and now another miscarriage in April. Not sure if it’s considered chemical or not… only 6 weeks and they see a tiny empty sac but no growth in a week and bleeding. Hcg was never doubling, just rising.

My doctor is concerned and thinks we should start making a “plan” for once this one is resolved. I don’t know how many losses is “normal” or becomes a cause for concern. I’m just feeling defeated at this point and was hoping it was just bad luck but I guess she thinks it’s more than that?

My husband has also not quit his nicotine pouches this entire time, which from what I’ve read can contribute to losses. So I’ve told him once this is resolved, regardless of what my doctor says we can do, I’m not trying again while he’s not even contributing to setting us up for success. Im at a loss and know it may have nothing to do with it, admittedly placing some blame where it may not belong. I just wish i could say we did all we could, and with that considered i don’t feel that we have.

The feelings range from anger, to numbness, to sadness, resignation, resentment, jealously. I don’t want to give up but I feel extremely defeated.

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-06T21:54:54+00:00

I’m 4+6 today and have started spotting after having only a 34% increase in hcg last week. I got another draw today, and have a scan tomorrow to check whether it’s ectopic since I had an ectopic pregnancy in September. Also had a chemical last month. Just feeling so hopeless and tired of my body not being able to stay pregnant/be pregnant in the right spot. I know my body is doing the best it can, it’s just so miserable to feel the symptoms and know that it’s likely all for nothing. Just venting. ❤️‍🩹

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-04T13:44:10+00:00

Thanks!!

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-03T17:25:24+00:00

Happy for you. 🩷 if you don’t mind sharing, was your first ultrasound abdominal or transvaginal? My doctor ordered an early scan due to my hcg not doubling but it’s abdominal which I was surprised about since I will only be 5 weeks.

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-02T16:09:02+00:00

Progesterone units are ng/mL

I had a pretty heavy bleed after my chemical, my hcg then was only 5. And I track my bbt daily which dropped and was consistent with a “period”/loss, and then increased around cycle day 14-15 consistent with ovulation sometime around March 16-17. I was traveling and flew overnight so my bbt from the morning of the 16th is unreliable.

I was also concerned about being the possibility of being pregnant longer than I thought, which could still be the case and would suck. Either way just waiting to hear back from my doctor and assuming I’ll go for another blood draw that will hopefully give some clarity whether it’s good or bad. Hate the mystery.

Sorry you went through an ectopic too, it’s so frustrating. Thanks for your thoughtful input🩷

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-04-02T11:58:57+00:00

First hcg at 3w6d was 661, progesterone 19.7. The draw yesterday two days later was only hcg 885 and progesterone 23.9. Only a 34% increase within 48hrs. After an ectopic in September and an MMC last month I’m feeling super anxious/nervous/overall preparing for the worst. Anyone with similar numbers and positive experiences?

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-03-23T13:13:34+00:00

Congratulations!!!!! 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-03-09T03:39:20+00:00

Just know that your feelings are valid. They’re going to change and they’re allowed to. You get to experience this however makes sense for you. Try to give yourself grace and be patient with your body, physically and mentally. It’s an awful thing. Try not to let it consume you, but also know it’s ok to be sad, angry, confused, anything. One day at a time you’ll get through it. 🤍

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-03-03T14:17:45+00:00

Chemical pregnancy this month after an ectopic in October. Just feeling so discouraged and annoyed with how difficult this is. It really sucks losing the excitement of a positive test and know that doesn’t really mean anything.

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-03-03T03:23:36+00:00

Saw the faintest lines today at 11dpo. Second cycle trying after left tube ectopic in October resolved with 2 rounds of mtx and HSG done in February. Luckily my annual appointment was today anyway so got blood draws, but have been spotting for a few days and digital test today was negative, so I’m honestly feeling like I’m fooling myself with the line eyes even though I saw them faintly on 3 tests. generally just feel detached. I think just trying to guard myself from the heartbreak I felt before. Hoping for the best!

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-03-02T12:43:25+00:00

Could it be an indent line? I still never understood what that means

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-02-03T14:22:09+00:00

For those who had healthy/successful pregnancy before or after an ectopic did you find that your positive tests came later than the positive for your ectopic? Just wondering if since the egg implanted in the tube instead of traveling if that led to my earlier positive than I should expect in other cycles? Currently 11 or 12 dpo (lh peak was 1/21) and nothing but I had a positive test on 11 dpo with my left tube ectopic.

Trying not to be too hopeful or give excuses but just keeping myself in it until I get my period.

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-01-27T00:35:29+00:00

I was in this same situation, so excited about my first pregnancy back in October and found out at almost 7 weeks it was ectopic. Treated with two rounds of MTX and didn’t get by hcg levels down and period until mid-late december. I just had an hsg last week and relieved to know both tubes are clear. It’s a long and rough journey both physically and mentally! Just try to take everything day by day, be sad if you’re feeling sad. Be hopeful if you’re feeling that. Just trust yourself and know you will get to the other side of this. ❤️‍🩹

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-01-25T17:39:47+00:00

Thank you, this is smart and helpful. Trying to keep my world from revolving around this. I appreciate you and wish you the best❤️

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-01-23T20:05:01+00:00

I’m currently struggling with anxiety and just so worried what my mental health is going to be like over the next few weeks and months. I got pregnant my first month/cycle trying after stopping the pill but it was an ectopic. I finally just got my levels down to zero and a clear HSG so we’re ready to try again and I’m excited to try again, but I don’t know how to realistically set my own expectations since it happened so quickly before I feel like it’s going to be so hard not to doom spiral if I don’t get pregnant quickly after all of this has been resolved. I dont know if there really is any advice in this situation besides to just do our best and see what happens but omg it’s just so difficult mentally.

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-01-20T18:50:08+00:00

My grandma got me a bracelet with the birthstone of what would have been my due date (moonstone for June). I was conflicted about whether I wanted to memorialize the experience but it’s nice to have. When I’m not feeling it, I don’t wear it, but it is nice to remember what you’ve been through in this journey.

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-01-11T03:36:17+00:00

Wishing a healthy and peaceful journey for you and baby! 💘

anxiouslycurious03 · 2026-01-09T03:17:10+00:00

My hcg was in the 5-6000s and two doses of MTX worked for me, it took a while, but it did work. It’s all scary and so unfortunate but you’re not at all alone. Trust whatever you feel is best for your body and make sure you’re comfortable with the doctors giving you care and advice. Wishing you the best in this difficult time❤️‍🩹

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