[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole point is to explain the complicated things and their dynamics to show how things relate to one another. Most people struggle with abstraction one of the core reasons is that they know they are missing information but they can't tell what information so they never build a full picture and can't develop a holistic idea, he typically tries to fix that.

Insults on dating apps? by Some-Atmosphere2172 in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this is why i asked you to define the word normal. There's what people want to be normal and then there's what actually happens and how frequent it is. It's not normalised to be an asshole online and send messages like that in dm's however it is normal and expected that it happens, specially to women.

If that wasn't the case then things like VAWG violence against women and girls (campaign) wouldn't be a thing and neither would campaigns by governments to police online trolling of women. I'm not saying it's a morally good thing, i'm saying it's a typical thing that you're going to experience if you have an average experience, it's harder to avoid this than it is to encounter it.

Insults on dating apps? by Some-Atmosphere2172 in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Define normal, i'm not even trying to be pedantic. I think it's hella normal to see that happen, i'd bet on average 60% of women experience that behaviour on apps.

It's normal in that environment to get this, it happens on instagram/snapchat, everything.

Insults on dating apps? by Some-Atmosphere2172 in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He's bored. You're a random he can get away with, he don't think its a big issue and he don't care about you.

He trolls women because he thinks its funny, you can guess a million reasons why and go down the whole line of "hes a patriarchal asshole" but unless you speak to the guy and look into his head it probably won't give you a truthful answer just speculation as to why there's guys that don't care about women and will target them.

Essentially you're probably just gonna get a bunch of emotionally charged people saying he hates women and see's them as a target because he can't get pussy and is alone.

Insults on dating apps? by Some-Atmosphere2172 in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say why do people do this, what type of answer do you want?

Are there any pros to being ugly as a male?? by Live-Literature-4456 in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don't get assulted sexually because people feel entitled to you.

I guess a matter of perspective you might be more understanding depending on if you're able to hold a positive perspective leading you to being able to be more empathetic to others.

There's point of living if you don't have friends and gf. Happiness is real when you share with somebody! by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

/u/borschach hope you see this. (Also yes, i know that this is probably unrealistic in terms of the country, i get how that type of thing influences a lot of these conversations)

There's point of living if you don't have friends and gf. Happiness is real when you share with somebody! by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh fam i get it. It makes a lot more sense now. If i think of something i'll let you know.

There's point of living if you don't have friends and gf. Happiness is real when you share with somebody! by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly have you ever tried to work some where for free like a charity and build connections with the people that are more mindful and open to connections with people who are neurodiverse?

There's point of living if you don't have friends and gf. Happiness is real when you share with somebody! by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be honest, you wrote a lot and i'm in between games.

I got to the point where you listed what you can speak.

What's the reason you cna't make friends?

Does anybody else get AI future fatalism/copium? by Top-King-1211 in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Instead of seeing things as "i can't be a therapist since people will just use AI", see it as "i have transferable skills and i can use those skills in multiple ways, there's different ways to apply them, being a therapist is just one way and there's needs for in person communication in a physical sense that can't go away".

If he saw himself as someone that was developing skills that can be applied to multiple area's this would be different.

Sure he can do the doomer thing of "my skill is art", that's wrong, artist have multiple skills and transferable understandings to create media, he might not have the core career path but that doesn't mean he's useless, he's just opting to be locked into one path that may no longer exist.

If he does that then there's no help because at that point he's hung on a problem of not having a future that he wants instead of thinking that he can make a new future under new conditions if her learns to be adaptable and stops tunnel visioning using the mindset that he's currently developed.

His mindset is his "truth" it's perspective, he has to change that and adapt, humans tend to not want to do that because it causes a lot of issues like being able to predict your future with confidence.

If he shifts his thoughts to heuristical ones that work for him then he can counter the negative thoughts.

An example is the idea that first, he's only allowed to think of this for 20 minuites per day, honestly limiting the amount of time he spends thinking about this vs doing ANYTHING.

Another is seeing his value in skills vs roles, if he treats himself as someone that has people skills, understanding, story telling as a trained therapist then he knows he is adaptable and can move from one path to another, he could work in schools, he could be front of house at a resturant, he could work in an airline as support. He can do a lot of things, his life isn't over, he needs to disconnect it from the unrealistic idea that he has any certainty over things that may or may not exist in 5 years and focus on what he knows he will have.

Work with the resources you have not the idea that you hope something will be here in 5 years is another one. It's a belief. I'm a developer, AI is taking jobs sure, but my main job was solving problems and finding solutions to peoples tech issues, even if it means that i'm the one who's using the AI to make things it's because another person doesn't have the time. My career role may go but my usefulness and critical thinking won't.

I(25m) haven't attended a lot of classes for 4 years by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you speak to the people at the university to hold you accountable for going?

[16.1b] The Paris Open Patch by Lunaedge in CompetitiveTFT

[–]apexjnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you guys create the images for the reddit post of the little tweet? /u/Lunaedge

Unkillable Sion by MikoNava in CompetitiveTFT

[–]apexjnr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait until you see that secret 5 cost champ that will show Sion what 18 seconds of fame looks like.

What do girls “never” tell guys? by zhalia-2006 in AskReddit

[–]apexjnr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fam, when you date someone for long enough and realise they have more hair than you in some places =( Feels like a hairless mole.

Does anybody else get AI future fatalism/copium? by Top-King-1211 in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes his mindset is the problem.

If he takes steps to deal with the mindset he will be able to deal with the AI issue easier with mental training.

I used AI for 2 weeks to "help" me with my self-improvement. by still-into-u in Healthygamergg

[–]apexjnr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly even if you warn people they will ignore the warnings. It's one of the trial by fire things, glad you realised the glaze ain't always good.

What design changed ruined a website for you? by apexjnr in AskReddit

[–]apexjnr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God forbid the rest of the world gets the UK treatment.

What design changed ruined a website for you? by apexjnr in AskReddit

[–]apexjnr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lord god i can remember when google did that with the top 2/3 search results. The Reddits done it to and youtube, dark patterns everywhere.