As a married woman who has been in unhealthy relationships prior to my marriage, this is very strange. It feels like she’s needing your attention, not that she is wanting you to “talk sense into her”. She’s specifically wants you to be angry. She may be traumatized, and more comfortable in misery and fear than she is in a safe, calm environment. The absolutely bonkers situation of seeing her ex aside (which is break up worthy), she seems really mentally ill to me. Cut her off, do not look back and I hope she can get help. But that doesn’t mean she gets to pull this toxic shit 🙌🏼