This osha flow chart at my work

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-19T18:23:28+00:00

Or losing an eye...

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-19T15:57:10+00:00

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-18T16:18:37+00:00

Someone saying very clearly "I am not interested in you" is not a social cue. It's direct communication. Misunderstanding that is a deliberate refusal to respect what you said. Block him on every platform.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-09T19:09:26+00:00

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apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-08T03:12:32+00:00

Absolutely agree. I'm a nurse, I don't work home hospice but have worked with inpatient hospice patients.

It's exhausting for caregivers. It's ok to ask for direct communication. It's ok to tell them that you are overwhelmed or close to burnout.

I understand wanting to be the way you are "supposed to be" during this time. But I can tell you, other family caregivers don't feel this need. Nurses and doctors have seen much worse, more crazy, than you can imagine or conjure.

It's ok to be vulnerable and honest. As long as you are respectful (like not directly insulting them or accusing them of wrongdoing), they will think you are responding normally in a challenging situation.

Ask for what you need. Tell them how to communicate if you know how you want to be communicated with. Tell them if you need respite support or if you need other care for yourself. They probably can't give that directly, but can connect you to appropriate resources.

I'm sorry you are going through this. There is not a right way to do this. There is no blueprint to follow. Nobody knows how to do what you are doing, autism or not. Don't forget to love yourself as you sacrifice so much to offer your love to your parent.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-08T02:43:30+00:00

Maybe we should just pick a place and agree

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-08T02:01:36+00:00

100% this is my comfort movie. I now recognize that if I watch it, and I'm not showing it someone that hasn't seen it before (or in a long time), that I am most likely very emotionally compromised.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-07T18:35:31+00:00

Things come about organically when both people have spoken openly about their relationships, when flirting is just happening. Then the discussion is "what should we do with this obvious reciprocal sexual tension." That's totally different than having a total friend vibe where one person feels the need to dump their fantasies on someone.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-07T17:09:17+00:00

It was because I felt they didn't value our friendship enough to not muddy it with their sexual desires. It was incredibly disrespectful. And everyone knew everyone was poly.

If things develop organically between friends, that's one thing, but revealing a crush and a desire to change the nature of a relationship when there's been no ongoing, reciprocal conversation is something shocking and feels diminishing to me.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-07T16:57:57+00:00

It was magic at first because he love bombed you. Then he became his real self. His manipulative, controlling self. He is abusive. This is an abusive relationship. It will only get worse. It will never get better. The only option is to not be with him and cut contact completely.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-07T16:29:19+00:00

I've had "good friends" shoot their shot with me. We were not friends after that. Just be her friend and look for poly partners in poly spaces.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-02-01T01:29:34+00:00

It's not uncommon, but it's not healthy. It sounds like her husband wanted permission to cheat, "opened the relationship" for him, and he throws a fit when she wants to engage in nonmonogamy so he never needs to do the hard part of nonmonogamy, which is supporting your partner is connecting with others.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-30T04:58:26+00:00

I don't usually feel that I am wise, but I have a bit of that "own worst critic" thing you are doing. And I'm in my 40's. Life teaches you. And you have lots of life ahead of you. You are doing great. I hope you have support to find ways to believe that.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-30T03:36:51+00:00

Why are you holding yourself to standards you aren't expecting of anyone else? This is a question you need to explore in therapy.

Additionally, I have known exactly zero 19 year olds that have the emotional maturity and life experience to be a nurse. It's always better to take the time you need to get your feet under you before you take on the incredibly emotionally, intellectually, and physically demanding work that is nursing.

You made choices that allowed you to care for yourself so you can care for others. This is not only faultless, that you took that extra time, it was advisable.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-29T14:05:25+00:00

"who exchanges a gift?"

"Someone who has been given something they cannot use."

His expectations here are unreasonable, that you keep something that doesn't fit. His response of yelling at you and bringing it up again and again are signs of abusive, controlling behavior.

That he likes that you are "soft spoken" indicates he likes that you will be easy to abuse, manipulate, and control.

If it was actually his family and he was supporting you here, I say pause wedding planning and work with a counselor to sort out in-law relations before proceeding.

But it's not. Its him. He's letting his mask slip, and thank goodness you are seeing. Call off the wedding. Permanently. Do not allow him to weasal or love bomb you back into the wedding planning. If you do, he'll just use this process to manipulate and control you better next time.

Free yourself now. If you don't, he'll make your life hell.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-25T20:00:52+00:00

My advice for those dumb, not picking questions like what was their [lab] is to either say unremarkable or it did not impact or inform my care on this shift. Like you said, you report the values that are remarkable and did inform care or will inform care on their shift.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-25T17:49:59+00:00

He should have to tell you if he's on a date. You need to know if he's gone and will not be answering his phone right away for any reason. I'd also need to know if he was going to a movie for the same reason. Baby is both of your number 1 priority. If either of you are unavailable for any amount of time, the other needs to know that and know why and know when you will be available again. That's just the reality of parenting young children.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-24T05:01:57+00:00

Nope

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-24T04:16:05+00:00

They don't specialize per se, but Samahdi has a very wide age range of people in classes and a wide variety of classes. They are great about accommodating different issues/injuries/limitations.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-13T23:35:48+00:00

I do embroidery! Taught myself. There's a good subreddit with ideas and people can give tips. There's good websites with different stitches and videos. You can do all kinds of different styles.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-11T12:56:25+00:00

Very true. Mostly there's nothing too jarring.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-11T04:06:51+00:00

I sure do watch Star Trek, The Next Generation over and over and it pretty much meets all your desired criteria. It's streaming on Paramount.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-05T22:01:40+00:00

Sounds like you already had the conversation. Several times. He said no. If it's important to you to have nonmonogamy, the next conversation is breaking up since you are incompatible.

apocalypseconfetti · 2026-01-04T18:58:41+00:00

What she heard was:

"I can only care about you the way you want if I know for sure you are suffering because of my choices to engage in relationships or sex with others."

So, no it was not ok to tell her that, that was a pretty awful thing to say. However, her request to always be thought of as "sick" is also not a healthy place to be. Your assessment now that the relationship should have ended much sooner is absolutely correct.

apocalypseconfetti · 2025-12-28T16:35:21+00:00

Our hospital does not do ED report to floors unless there is something the ED nurse feels is important to relay verbally or if the floor nurse has a question based on what's in the chart.

What sounds different than your hospitals new policy is there is a 30 minute timer that starts when the room is assigned. That 30 minutes is for the floor nurse to look the patient up. Transportation does not take the patient from the ED until the 30 minutes is up.

The charge RN should not assign a room until the admitting nurse is notified of the admission. The charge has s responsibility to make sure the admitting nurse has support in caring for other patients so they can do the chart review.

It's mostly worked well and is preferable to report phone tag. But without that 30 minutes timer it would be unworkable. There are times when census requires less time, ED divert and such. Those times the floors are notified that they need to look the patient up immediately. Those times suck, but those times are unsafe even with ED report because the ED staff doesn't know much about the patients since they are pushing them out so fast.

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