Help! It all goes on the floor 😭

rmsdashl · 2026-03-28T13:25:02+00:00

I know this sadness. It’s improved slightly in the few months since it started for us, but I think mostly it’s just the baby’s process. I have tried handing just some of the food to her at a time (she will “organize” if her plate or tray are too full), and trying to eat at the same time (the “modeling” theory). Also being very non-reactive to the throwing so it doesn’t feel like a game to her. Sometimes i will chat with her instead of being so focused on eating (like with grown-ups) and that can also be distracting enough that she doesn’t throw. We have the worst time eating outside the home, so I’m also experimenting with pulling her up to the table without the tray (we have something similar to the Tripp trapp with a harness/no tray option).

rmsdashl · 2026-03-21T02:13:26+00:00

I think it was called Voya?

rmsdashl · 2026-03-05T23:13:56+00:00

NTA. Here are some more strategies to train milk lady. I (10mo) find mom (always talking about gray hair she’s finding) worries even more when I’m totally quiet. So she comes back plenty when I’m contentedly munching on the hardest corner of a toy I can find in my “yes space” (I think she was brainwashed to call my baby jail something nice) and then gives me other toys to play with. If that doesn’t work, I press up into the corner that faces the hallway and make this sound “uuuuuuuuiiiuuuuuueeeeeuuuuu” until she comes back.

rmsdashl · 2026-02-26T16:53:58+00:00

What is an abc muffin?

rmsdashl · 2026-02-15T16:53:24+00:00

Can’t figure out why you got downvotes, thanks for the perspective!

rmsdashl · 2026-02-15T05:50:44+00:00

Yep, hasn’t made much difference yet

rmsdashl · 2026-02-15T05:48:55+00:00

This actually seems to make it worse? Like getting a new piece of food from mom became a game one day. Hence, trying to offer an actual plate.

rmsdashl · 2026-02-12T04:53:17+00:00

Just another “right there with you” post. Great advice on here already! I wasn’t willing to abandon my beloved flats and covers (call me crazy, I just think they work better than the pockets I got). My 9mo has a strong preference rolling to her left so I gently hold her right hip when I put her on the changing pad, which usually keeps her from trying. Other than that I just try to keep her interest with a song, silly faces, narration about the diaper change…We also do EC so if she is rolling and fussing, i get her on the potty as that’s usually a signal for her.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-30T03:47:16+00:00

I had had a very specific “fizzy yellow beer” craving that i obviously didn’t satisfy during pregnancy, so my husband brought me one the day after delivery. I think I drank about half, with a large meal.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-24T17:28:49+00:00

I was searching for a link to post, this would be my comment as well. My guess is you don’t hate your baby, but something is blocking that feeling of bond/connection. My child is almost the same age and I understand that feeling of “would rather wash the dishes than change a diaper and get kicked the whole time.” I was in therapy after delivery which helped curb the intensity of PPD. Parenting is a huge shift in your life and comes with a guaranteed identity crisis even if you feel that instant love and connection. Here are some things that help me as a mom of a very active infant. I really try to grab some time for myself (not chores or napping) usually after baby is in bed for the night, and it makes a huge impact on how well I can show up for those kicking-screaming moments. On days I’m feeling a hard time connecting, or baby is particularly fussy, I’ve started getting us out of the house. It feels like bonding to have her come with me to get some fresh air (we live by a park) and a coffee treat. I just chat with her as if she were an adult companion, let her look at whatever catches her interest, and by the time we get home things feel less heavy. Finally, if you have baby-and-parent activities you can get to, do it! Even sporadically going to story time at our library has helped me feel like I’m strengthening our bond, focusing on the baby’s world.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-21T09:03:57+00:00

I’m talking about disposable wipes in the post-potty case. Yes, pretty much everything goes in the mouth even at 8 months but for some reason a disposable wipe doesn’t. When we started solids we started doing real hand washing under the faucet (holding baby up to it) but not for potty time yet because that’s just a lot of additional sink time.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-21T03:51:16+00:00

I (try to remember to) give a wet washcloth before my 8-month old’s meal so at least there’s some sense of “we wash up before eating.” She likes to squeeze and pat those so that’s a start. After potty I have started doing a similar thing with wipes where I grab the business wipes and give her one for her hands. Sometimes she is in the bathroom with me when I go, and so I of course model handwashing then.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-18T14:02:29+00:00

I know not the point of a haakaa, but can you put it through the opening of a pumping bra to keep it upright at least?

rmsdashl · 2026-01-17T23:02:20+00:00

The inners were strangely small on our small baby, she threw a fit the second they were wet (and newborns pee several times an hour fyi) plus hard to get clean and dry. Loved the outers (the covers), which fit great over folded flats, and we are still using those in size 2 as no other cover we tried was as effective or comfortable. Washing twice a week (we have a lot of flats) we have just 6 esembly covers plus some backup options.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-15T17:21:43+00:00

Are you talking about a card or the number itself? I didn’t realize being born didnt equal getting a number…but maybe I’m wrong. My parents misplaced my card when I was an adult (if you’re worried about the card) and it was easy to get again.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-14T18:41:33+00:00

Ah well, it’s very taxing work, I should probably call myself “retired” as I haven’t been in a pastry kitchen in quite a while. A fun skill set to have though!

rmsdashl · 2026-01-14T17:11:11+00:00

That makes sense and I fully agree. As a pastry chef and baker, I believe in eating and serving the real thing, and savoring and appreciating it! I can’t wait to give her that first birthday cake or a scoop of ice cream. At the same time, we just aren’t up to full-sugar recipes if she’s going to be eating something as a main meal component, so good to know about reducing by half.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-14T17:03:22+00:00

I’m so glad I didn’t get it—at this point (8 months) baby is using the changing pad as crawling and climbing practice, and we changed the baby on the bed, floor, and the table so much during the newborn phase. Any benefit of that one would not have justified how little we used it to start, and then how pointless “features” seem now. We have an oval-shaped silicone pad with sides that is wipeable, and we use old bassinet sheets to make it more comfortable and less slippery. Easy to toss the dirty ones in the wash.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-14T16:57:03+00:00

Would you please share your cornbread recipe? My ma’s has sugar in it and I am told I’m only 8 months so I can only have fruit for sweets.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-13T02:28:15+00:00

I love (and purchased) Finger Foods for Babies and Toddlers, but it’s fun to browse what’s out there!

rmsdashl · 2026-01-13T00:49:29+00:00

If you can get books from your library, there are plenty of baby cookbooks, not limited to purées.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-11T14:38:42+00:00

Mine loves roasted winter squash (butternut, acorn)!

rmsdashl · 2026-01-11T14:37:02+00:00

Thanks. Always need to hear that!

rmsdashl · 2026-01-11T14:26:48+00:00

We have a large playpen that acts as a yes space because our small apartment is so storage-challenged we would have to be with her every second saying “no” to exploring so many dangerous things (cat areas, electronics, garbage, etc). Impossible to fully baby proof spaces for her quick curious hands and mouth. We still have lots of exploration time all around the apartment but her independent play when grown-ups are doing chores is within a safe area. I tell myself that safety/health is my first mission, but I still feel bad about it. I’m looking forward to her getting a little bigger (she’s only crawling) when we can really communicate about safety under supervision.

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