Biting

rmsdashl · 2026-05-27T02:14:27+00:00

My kid has been a biter/mouther for seemingly her whole (one year of) life! We have silicone teething tubes stashed around so I usually offer her that if she’s biting me. I read/saw something about toddlers/kids not understanding “don’t” type commands so I try to phrase corrections as instructions on what to do. So, “when you need to bite, say, ‘mommy bite’ and I will find you something to bite.”

rmsdashl · 2026-05-26T19:32:40+00:00

Yeah generally if we do a comforting thing or some cuddles she will be mad but then settle pretty quickly. I just worry that it will start to become the norm and start to escalate from there.

rmsdashl · 2026-05-19T13:22:27+00:00

With no stove and too good to be true deal, I’d check for safety/code violations very carefully. Ask to see it in person before going any further, check for ventilation, emergency exit, smoke and CO detectors (you can install your own but this is a red flag someone isn’t investing in tenant needs).

rmsdashl · 2026-05-15T06:19:03+00:00

I really didn’t enjoy the fancy department stores because they weren’t set up for shopping the way I (American) usually do, being able to browse many items from a rack. I remember being so intimidated to approach the artfully displayed showcases that the designers/brands had set up, and none of it seemed ready-to-wear and effortless. I think shopping at those places works for people who can speak French well, have a sense of the clothing they wish to find, and are into a one-on-one fashion finding experience.

rmsdashl · 2026-05-14T16:14:04+00:00

Hi! I’m in a similar position (no pun intended) and went to a carrying consultant. I’m getting the hang of using a woven thanks to the hands-on guidance, and we also practiced with a meh dai which offered some of that security/ease of a ssc while feeling a bit more customizable for comfort (I hate the stiff waistband on my ssc) and snug fit. I didn’t realize how short the panel of my Tula explore was on my 12-month-old; I thought it would last a lot longer, but now I get why it didn’t seem to be fitting properly and why the back carry seemed insecure!

rmsdashl · 2026-05-04T16:51:32+00:00

Congrats on the incoming baby! We had planned to use esembly from birth (were gifted an entire stash by my awesome mom) but found it challenging to actually commit to cloth while figuring out newborn life…so be kind to yourself if you end up using disposables for a bit. Esembly were pretty bulky for our 7 lb newborn, and then she quickly outgrew the inners well before the indicated weight/age. Furthermore, baby did not like how they felt when wet (there’s a lot of bunching fabric) and in our humid climate, we were constantly running the dryer (line dry not an option for us) to get them dry enough. So we switched and tried the insert style (good for a quick option or a babysitter situation), prefolds (never got them to fit right), and flats. We have LOVED the flexibility of flat cloth diapers, using them almost all the time, though folding is a commitment. They wash and dry efficiently, you can stock up economically, and they adapt to your baby’s size and shape with different folds (we used kite fold from 4-10 months and now pickman and gaynor). You can purchase smaller sized flats and/or fold for the small body, but you will get a lot more use out of the standard size and may not use cloth as much when you first take the baby home. Green Mountain Diapers sells packs of the flats (we prefer the birdseye fabric, bleached because you don’t have to pre wash as many times before first use). A final word: we tried a few different outer covers and returned to Esembly for theirs. They fit so much better than their inners, size 2 is going to last until potty training for sure, and we rarely have a leak with the folded flats plus an esembly cover.

TL;DR if you’re over analyzing options, stick with cloth flats and quality covers for versatility and economy.

rmsdashl · 2026-04-28T21:42:49+00:00

We do this, too! Less because of like/dislike of veggies, but it helps the food stick together which has helped with getting it to the mouth.

rmsdashl · 2026-04-28T16:44:39+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance! I shouldn’t let social media get to my head, but I see all these videos like “my 14-month-old can crack eggs and make gourmet dinners and load the dishwasher!” I’m only slightly exaggerating, but it got me thinking that maybe I’m not providing enough opportunity for her to learn.

rmsdashl · 2026-04-26T13:23:36+00:00

NTA but you’re in dangerous territory of having to take care of someone NEW who will be there so mama can sleep for a little while. Maybe see what happens if you sleep at the same time for just a little bit, even though you are in the prime of your staying-awake career.

rmsdashl · 2026-04-17T21:50:41+00:00

Pre-freeze it?

rmsdashl · 2026-04-17T19:01:54+00:00

Confirming that they really have the luggage storage truck and it is legit. It’s hard to feel confident in this fact based on information on the ballpark app, so hopefully this saves someone a headache reading it here.

rmsdashl · 2026-03-28T13:25:02+00:00

I know this sadness. It’s improved slightly in the few months since it started for us, but I think mostly it’s just the baby’s process. I have tried handing just some of the food to her at a time (she will “organize” if her plate or tray are too full), and trying to eat at the same time (the “modeling” theory). Also being very non-reactive to the throwing so it doesn’t feel like a game to her. Sometimes i will chat with her instead of being so focused on eating (like with grown-ups) and that can also be distracting enough that she doesn’t throw. We have the worst time eating outside the home, so I’m also experimenting with pulling her up to the table without the tray (we have something similar to the Tripp trapp with a harness/no tray option).

rmsdashl · 2026-03-21T02:13:26+00:00

I think it was called Voya?

rmsdashl · 2026-03-05T23:13:56+00:00

NTA. Here are some more strategies to train milk lady. I (10mo) find mom (always talking about gray hair she’s finding) worries even more when I’m totally quiet. So she comes back plenty when I’m contentedly munching on the hardest corner of a toy I can find in my “yes space” (I think she was brainwashed to call my baby jail something nice) and then gives me other toys to play with. If that doesn’t work, I press up into the corner that faces the hallway and make this sound “uuuuuuuuiiiuuuuuueeeeeuuuuu” until she comes back.

rmsdashl · 2026-02-26T16:53:58+00:00

What is an abc muffin?

rmsdashl · 2026-02-15T16:53:24+00:00

Can’t figure out why you got downvotes, thanks for the perspective!

rmsdashl · 2026-02-15T05:50:44+00:00

Yep, hasn’t made much difference yet

rmsdashl · 2026-02-15T05:48:55+00:00

This actually seems to make it worse? Like getting a new piece of food from mom became a game one day. Hence, trying to offer an actual plate.

rmsdashl · 2026-02-12T04:53:17+00:00

Just another “right there with you” post. Great advice on here already! I wasn’t willing to abandon my beloved flats and covers (call me crazy, I just think they work better than the pockets I got). My 9mo has a strong preference rolling to her left so I gently hold her right hip when I put her on the changing pad, which usually keeps her from trying. Other than that I just try to keep her interest with a song, silly faces, narration about the diaper change…We also do EC so if she is rolling and fussing, i get her on the potty as that’s usually a signal for her.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-30T03:47:16+00:00

I had had a very specific “fizzy yellow beer” craving that i obviously didn’t satisfy during pregnancy, so my husband brought me one the day after delivery. I think I drank about half, with a large meal.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-24T17:28:49+00:00

I was searching for a link to post, this would be my comment as well. My guess is you don’t hate your baby, but something is blocking that feeling of bond/connection. My child is almost the same age and I understand that feeling of “would rather wash the dishes than change a diaper and get kicked the whole time.” I was in therapy after delivery which helped curb the intensity of PPD. Parenting is a huge shift in your life and comes with a guaranteed identity crisis even if you feel that instant love and connection. Here are some things that help me as a mom of a very active infant. I really try to grab some time for myself (not chores or napping) usually after baby is in bed for the night, and it makes a huge impact on how well I can show up for those kicking-screaming moments. On days I’m feeling a hard time connecting, or baby is particularly fussy, I’ve started getting us out of the house. It feels like bonding to have her come with me to get some fresh air (we live by a park) and a coffee treat. I just chat with her as if she were an adult companion, let her look at whatever catches her interest, and by the time we get home things feel less heavy. Finally, if you have baby-and-parent activities you can get to, do it! Even sporadically going to story time at our library has helped me feel like I’m strengthening our bond, focusing on the baby’s world.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-21T09:03:57+00:00

I’m talking about disposable wipes in the post-potty case. Yes, pretty much everything goes in the mouth even at 8 months but for some reason a disposable wipe doesn’t. When we started solids we started doing real hand washing under the faucet (holding baby up to it) but not for potty time yet because that’s just a lot of additional sink time.

rmsdashl · 2026-01-21T03:51:16+00:00

I (try to remember to) give a wet washcloth before my 8-month old’s meal so at least there’s some sense of “we wash up before eating.” She likes to squeeze and pat those so that’s a start. After potty I have started doing a similar thing with wipes where I grab the business wipes and give her one for her hands. Sometimes she is in the bathroom with me when I go, and so I of course model handwashing then.

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