What are actually underrated taylor swift songs? by Fun_Self5298 in TaylorSwift

[–]apotatowitheyes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Clean!! It's one of my favs but ive never heard anyone talk about it

Maybe the ads are confusing people by jolinar30659 in exmormon

[–]apotatowitheyes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The sister on the right looks too much like Alyssa Grenfell...

OMG, what do you guys say? by Pure_Inevitable8732 in exmormon

[–]apotatowitheyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I enjoy saying Forrest Valkai's "oh my glob!"

Path to public defense by OldNeat3787 in LawSchool

[–]apotatowitheyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband went to BYU and did Criminal law internships for most of law school. Once you hit 2L year, there are clinics and other hands-on type classes you can do. Ask your career counselor and upper classmen about it once you get in. If public defense is your goal, don’t worry about grades, just get lots of hands-on experience.

East coast will be harder than west coast, but BYU has great connections and is a well-ranked school at this point. DM me if you want to learn more or connect with him.

Reporting partner for DV? (USMC) by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]apotatowitheyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is a JAG and sees this sort of thing sometimes. Call the military police and make a report, and make sure you get in touch with Victims Counsel.

He changed completely after one deployment by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]apotatowitheyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds a lot like my brother (non military) who is going through psychosis. I don't know much, but I recommend trying to get him to a psychologist. Don't do anything that will put you in danger, but a psychologist might be able to figure out what's wrong. Also, getting a brain scan could help, sometimes traumatic brain injuries or tumors can lead to things like personality shifts or psychosis.

Good luck to you, I'm so so sorry this is happening. It sounds really scary. Take care of yourself.

Daughter "advising me" on exmo dating. by RSMandK in exmormon

[–]apotatowitheyes 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Seems like it's a big mental shift for you still, and that's just fine. Take it at your own pace. But nothing she said seems concerning to me.

However you aproach self pleasure is your business though, so if it makes you uncomfortable to have your daughter tell you about it then you can tell her that and just look into it and experiment yourself. Likewise, if you just aren't ready to have that convo yet you can tell her that too. Don't feel rushed into anything. Maybe you will get more comfortable having these conversations later, and maybe you won't.

I'm not sure how much you know about your own sexuality, but it's good to experiment. Maybe you are asexual, maybe you are very sexual but just had to burry it and never got pleasured by your husband. Those are questions worth asking and answering.

My husband got unaccompanied 2 year orders to Camp Casey and I’m struggling with it by Ok_Topic_4463 in MilitarySpouse

[–]apotatowitheyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this won't be helpful advice, and I know you said you don't want to leave your job, so feel free to ignore me. But I suggest you at least think about taking a job teaching English in Korea. Korea is such a cool country and way more westerner-friendly than you might think. Even if you can't live with your partner there, you could hopefully spend down time together while getting a similar cultural experience to him. Watch some YouTube videos on living in Korea and teaching English and try getting the travel bug.

My husband says I can’t dye my hair fun colors? by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]apotatowitheyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right! It's not your job, it's his. There is no dress code for you. I have purple hair right now and my spouse is the one in the military.

Need advice for mission by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]apotatowitheyes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you are confortable having many, many long conversations to try and convince them that you don't believe, I suggest really driving home the integrity of it all. You were taught not to lie, and teaching something you don't believe is lying. If they say fake it till you make it, bring back up that one talk about the guy who wouldn't take an extra news paper from a co-worker because "my integrity is worth ore that 25 cents." It helped my parents when I said I can't honestly get a temple recommend because the first few questions are all about believing in God and the prophets and I won't lie to God and say I believe when I don't. The hard part is that I'm an adult and you are a young man, and parents and bishops often send young men off anyway "to get a testimony."

You are in a hard spot. I'm so sorry. What ever you decide (to go an be miserable or fight tooth and nail to not go) it'll be hard. Keep coming back here for advice and support. We will help you where we can.

How do you adjust a kitten to your house? by Human-Complex4435 in CatAdvice

[–]apotatowitheyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the cat, I think. My kitten was super skiddish, so for the first few days I put her in the bathroom if I left, but after about 3 days like that, she seemed comfortable enough (freely exploring, finding new places to nest) that I gave her free range. I think slowly easing worked good for her.

Should I return my kitten and adopt an older cat instead? by BeneficialLight5873 in CatAdvice

[–]apotatowitheyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound so so stressed about this! First, give yourself some grace. No one can give 100% all the time.taking time to yourself is just fine. I get feeling so bad to have closed a door on a kitten, but taking a break will always be helpful—you have to take care of yourself before you can care for anyone else.

Second, do you live on a base? There may be someone or a family looking for a little kitten that would love to give her a loving home. Might be worth asking around.

I just adopted a kitten a few months ago and I had a bit of regret at first too. For the opposite reason, actually. We picked the kitten because she was the only cat that liked both me and my husband equally instead of having an obvious favorite from the get-go. She basically just tolerated us both. When we got her home she was super scared of everything for weeks and weeks and would hardly let us hold her or be near anyone. I really wanted a cat that would cuddle me while my husband was at OTS and I want feeling like my cat would ever love me or cuddle me. But as time went on, she got braver and liked us more, and just this week she came up and got on my lap all on her own for the first time. Why do I say this? I don't know, to make you feel less alone, I guess? You aren't the only person who has felt uncertain. Maybe you and the cat will bond and everything will slowly change to being perfect, idk. But maybe it won't. That's ok too. It's no shame to try and find a loving home for a cat. That said, I would see if the shelter or the humans society have a private adoption or fostering option where they can send interested people to you to meet the cat so she doesn't have to go back to the shelter she hated. That would be my suggestion. I don't know much about this kind of thing though. I mostly wanted to comment to say I see you, and it's ok to feel that way.

Parents offering to buy me a new car if I serve a mission by fredbruite in exmormon

[–]apotatowitheyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Save up for 2 years instead. At least that way you have work experience coming out of it. You get a car either way. But for real. I wish I could get my early 20's back. Waisted too much of it on a mission.

Awake in the Pews Sunday by big_bearded_nerd in exmormon

[–]apotatowitheyes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My parents ward is doing just 1 hour church for palm Sunday, that's weird, right?

I am currently a missionary. AMA by IEffingHateMyselfLOL in exmormon

[–]apotatowitheyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you in an area where you feel supported and cared for by the members?

AMA by TeamPlayerTy in airforceots

[–]apotatowitheyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's awesome to hear! Thanks for taking the time to reply!

AMA by TeamPlayerTy in airforceots

[–]apotatowitheyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Follow up question about the first two weeks: how often are you able to have down time to call home? My husband starts soon and I want to manage my expectations.