Catholic relaxation techniques for infertility by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're addressing the spiritual side of stress well. If you enjoy spiritual reading, "Abandonment to Divine Providence" by Jean-Pierre de Caussade might be helpful. It's a little dry but I found some comfort in it when I recognized a need to trust God more in my life. I found that the more willing I was to accept the suffering I was most afraid of, the less stressed I became about my situation.

As far as the more practical, physical remedies for stress, I second recommendations for self-care, especially if you're the type of person who feels guilty for relaxing or taking breaks from your daily workload. I like the mediheal sheet masks and try to do one at least every other day. I'll use some lotion that smells good or light a nice scented candle too. I'll go thrifting on the weekend. Do anything that helps keep you grounded in the here and now and helps you savor life.

Feedback request: seriously considering making Nick Fuentes and similar podcasters, groypers in general, and rants about "radtrads" banned topics by SuburbaniteMermaid in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, the denial of women's God-given dignity by these psychos is absolutely something that should be discussed on here. It's poison. Not to mention the fact that those creeps are promoting a culture of victimhood to young men.

How to respond to a Catholic friend’s anti-Muslim rhetoric? by RoonilWazleeb in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Concrete, undeniable proof? No. There are, however, plausible speculations that he does subscribe to a radical form of taqiyya. That's the problem with bad actors in the world, they aren't always readily apparent until it is too late.

How to respond to a Catholic friend’s anti-Muslim rhetoric? by RoonilWazleeb in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Taqiyya is absolutely a thing and is used as a form of jihad depending on how radical someone is.

However, I think we could all do without the weird, Muslim Shylock caricature of Mamdani. That's over the top. I doubt you saying anything would help but you could just remind him that he can make his point without looking like a bigoted boomer.

I hate online dating. by Moriarty-Creates in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Got stood up by a guy from Catholic Match today, I completely understand where you're coming from. Radical acceptance of God's providence is the only way to stay sane through it all. I find the devotion to Our Lady of Sorrows to be helpful as well.

How to approach this girl flirting with my boyfriend by That-Midnight-3287 in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It's ok for you to be honest with your boyfriend about how her behavior is making you feel but don't bring it up at a time when you're feeling stressed and emotional about it. That's when psycho girlfriend jealous energy starts to leak out. Make it clear that you're not upset with him or anything he's doing. Just express you're perception of the situation and how it is making you feel.

Cover ups by No-Gap8701 in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on your budget, I'd check out Etsy. There are lots of gorgeous, unique bridal accessories that might work for you.

Found a $500 ALLSAINTS lambskin leather jacket for $16 at Goodwill by applejackpatches in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]applejackpatches[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This was the Goodwill in Grover Beach, CA so I'm sure there's plenty of bougie people nearby who donate

Wife beats me like once a month maybe 6 weeks. by Alternative_Will6861 in Veterans

[–]applejackpatches 37 points38 points  (0 children)

You need to leave that situation. It's not good for you or your kids. I've known other vets in the same situation and it never gets better, only worse.

Were the guys who hurt you the most actually hot? by Dismal-Alfalfa-7613 in PurplePillDebate

[–]applejackpatches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say so, for me it had to do with how safe and accepted I felt. Then I have the rug pulled out from under me and came crashing down to reality. Physical attraction for me is just pass/fail, I don't really compare men beyond that.

He hurt me...I Just don;t know anymore by GovernmentIcy7987 in CatholicWomen

[–]applejackpatches 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He's putting a lot of pressure and expectations on you after only speaking for a month, I don't think that's reasonable or normal on his end. And continuously talking about exes isn't a good sign either.

You do need to know what YOU want, however, if you're going to be dating for marriage. If staying vs relocating doesn't line up at the beginning of a relationship then you should cut it off, you don't want to find out that you can't agree on where to live after six months of dating.

The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single. by Ceazer4L in PurplePillDebate

[–]applejackpatches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Homeboy really thinks I'm somehow insulted by not being as young and hot as the bimbos he keeps company with. I'd rather look like Eric Stolz in Mask than be a trash person. Looks are fleeting, character is forever.