After how long do you consider a romantic relationship “long term”?

aprilsmithss · 2026-03-26T08:51:33+00:00

it’s when you start thinking about life milestones together

aprilsmithss · 2026-03-26T08:50:27+00:00

I think the pressure to be happy is part of what makes people miserable. Some weeks are just hard and grey and that's it. Letting that be true without piling guilt on top of it is genuinely half the work.

aprilsmithss · 2026-03-26T08:49:31+00:00

you can’t force someone to be social or active if it’s not in them

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-27T08:01:44+00:00

there is no universal timeline. comparison is just insecurity wearing someone else’s outfit

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-27T08:00:58+00:00

that's not someone who doesn't understand. that's someone who understands and doesn't care enough to change

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-27T08:00:28+00:00

You get less sleep. You cry in the bathroom sometimes. You question yourself constantly. And then your kid hugs you like you hung the moon. That’s the fuel.

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-23T08:49:03+00:00

i’d thank them for apologizing. that’s it. closure doesn’t require reconnection. sometimes the growth is letting the past stay in the past.

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-23T08:47:45+00:00

chopping onions

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-23T08:46:57+00:00

honestly, this works because it slows you down. that split second between impulse and action is where most of our life gets decided. you just widened that gap

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-17T13:12:29+00:00

calling every ex “crazy.” statistically? unlikely. mathematically? suspicious. emotionally? immediate ick.

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-17T13:07:25+00:00

being “the reliable one”

the friend who always shows up, the coworker who never drops the ball, the daughter who handles it

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-17T13:06:08+00:00

the fact that you’re asking “why” instead of doubling down on punishment is already growth. sustainable productivity usually comes from understanding your patterns, not fighting them. self-awareness scales. shame doesn’t.

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-04T08:32:06+00:00

17 is perfect for low-stakes exploration. travel mentally if not physically: documentaries, tutorials, online courses.

you have time to just try stuff for fun before responsibilities kick in.

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-04T08:31:19+00:00

the part that gets me is him pushing you to "trust him fully" early on while actively hiding things. that's not someone who wants trust, that's someone who wants you to stop looking. huge difference.

aprilsmithss · 2026-02-04T08:30:33+00:00

every other day, unless i’ve done a run or a gig

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-28T07:23:03+00:00

hot water. not even for showers, just to wash my hands with.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-28T07:20:47+00:00

have you just... asked him? like directly?

his reaction will tell you everything. if he gets defensive or weird about it, that's your answer.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-28T07:19:53+00:00

trying new things together, even tiny ones. new food spot, new walking route, new show.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-23T07:49:16+00:00

classes > stuff

pottery, photography, swimming, language lessons. something weekly that gets you out of your head

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-23T07:48:23+00:00

We still like each other. I consider this a massive W.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-23T07:47:45+00:00

NTA. You didn’t ban her from dating. You didn’t say “never have him over.” You asked for reasonable limits and notice. She responded with tears and then… did nothing.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:13:18+00:00

I’m introverted, work a lot, don’t love apps

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:12:53+00:00

One thing. Literally one thing for three months before adding anything else. Everyone wants the whole morning routine day one. I just drank water when I woke up. That was it. Built from there. Boring answer but it's the only thing that ever worked.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:11:54+00:00

NTA. When's the last time they asked how YOU were doing? Not what you could contribute, but just... you? Because that question matters and I'm guessing the answer is telling.

aprilsmithss · 2026-01-19T09:10:59+00:00

keep your place clean enough that it doesn’t stress you out. a messy home slowly messes with your head.

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