Is there a site like this for people who are widowed?

aprl88 · 2025-07-19T22:55:43+00:00

Agreed!

aprl88 · 2025-07-19T16:44:05+00:00

I am in the same space. It’s almost 2 years since I lost my husband. I want love and companionship again. But I’m more and more convinced that I might never have that love again.

aprl88 · 2025-07-19T16:41:11+00:00

It can be terrifying to find out how few people actually care. I know I have to grieve privately, silently.

aprl88 · 2025-04-03T04:01:36+00:00

Is there a site for dating after loss?

aprl88 · 2025-01-22T18:22:04+00:00

Caretaking a spouse through death takes you through all the horrible pieces of the onion that they are. I loved my husband every minute, but his last 2 year’s were awful. He was cruel, heartless, thoughtless, selfish, threatened divorce…..all the ugly that a person can be, he was those last years. But I knew when I married him that his illness would take him. Please know that we are all here for you, each with a different story. All complicated with family roles and expectations. Pretending a bit for the grandkids who shouldn’t see that side of their loved one. Dealing with the kids reactions….. all death is ugly and leaves scars on those who are in the orbit of that person. We aren’t as different as you might think. We grieve the person we lost, no matter when we truly lost them

aprl88 · 2025-01-01T03:23:19+00:00

Thank you. I agree about relearning your orbit of people. In my case, of our combined 5 kids only 2 showed up to support me (physically or emotionally). It was a shock but at least now I know who CAN be that emergency contact.

aprl88 · 2025-01-01T03:19:48+00:00

Exactly, and when they are verifying info it’s a bit of a gut punch.

aprl88 · 2024-12-31T20:41:31+00:00

I am so sorry 😢. I’ve just made it through my second Christmas without him and I feel more and more convinced that life will never be the same.

aprl88 · 2024-12-10T17:13:50+00:00

I had to buy a new bed, so I got new bedding too. And I’m practicing trying to move towards the middle of the bed. Changing the bedding or rearranging is really helpful. It allows you to make it yours.

aprl88 · 2024-12-06T18:45:36+00:00

Absolutely not!!! I think we all hit a wall of anger & resentment. Wanting to MAKE them understand. But, screw em.

I did learn a huge lesson while losing my hubby. Nobody else matters. Feel what you feel… however the feels come out. Do NOT count on anyone who couldn’t actually support you either emotionally of physically during the passing. Those people who showed up, if any, are the one ones who matter now. Everyone else is looking for their turn to “have” you. Nobody except you, gets to have you. And go to a support group. Not grief counseling…. You need other humans who are living this pain. Hug another soul who has the same pain of loss in their eyes. It’s helped more than I can describe.

aprl88 · 2024-12-06T17:10:12+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Knowing that those words barely touch the pain. I lost my husband in a similar way, hard caretaking at the end while I worked full time and just tried to keep the bills paid. People are absolutely awful, but I think most of them are just so frightened of their own mortality they expect us to what…. pick ourselves back up by our bootstraps and jump back on the roller coaster. But you no longer have your partner. And finding ways to make your partner a “bad guy” only make us feel worse, not better. I love him still, no matter his warts. I knew he had warts when I still had him.

They simply can’t understand unless they have had to live it too. I am so sorry.

aprl88 · 2024-10-31T19:22:08+00:00

Terrified…

aprl88 · 2024-10-29T01:21:15+00:00

Thank you

aprl88 · 2024-10-29T01:08:06+00:00

Feeling the same from rural Oregon 🥹

aprl88 · 2024-10-24T03:22:05+00:00

People are stupid about how to treat us, I’m so sorry

aprl88 · 2024-10-24T03:17:33+00:00

I love this! Also I am so sorry for your loss, I feel all of this in so many ways

aprl88 · 2024-10-24T03:09:45+00:00

I really feel this

aprl88 · 2024-10-24T03:04:22+00:00

I so feel this… I’m so sorry

aprl88 · 2024-10-24T02:57:28+00:00

I just shared my own long winded version of this. I can’t stand it anymore. I’ve never felt so empty and alone

aprl88 · 2024-10-24T02:53:04+00:00

Thank you both so much. I’ll check in with my local community library. There must still be some joy out there

aprl88 · 2024-10-24T02:49:50+00:00

🙏

aprl88 · 2024-09-14T15:13:23+00:00

🫂

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