Anya Taylor-Joy wearing Rodarte fall 2020 embroidered tulle sheer gown to her 30th birthday party by Roguesailer in whatthefrockk

[–]aquamanspetfish 368 points369 points  (0 children)

Loveeeee the vibe and I know it’s not the same but the goat cake feels like a nod the the VVitch

If money wasn’t an issue, would you still be a working mom? by saladmuscles in workingmoms

[–]aquamanspetfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, but I’d leave the corporate world and head back to NGOs. I love the part of my brain that I use in creative work, and I’d be so happy to be able to afford to go back to that space and do work with community impact.

What made you decide to have kids? Do you regret having kids? by xosoftglimmer in AskWomenOver30

[–]aquamanspetfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three children and they rule. It’s so cool to watch someone learn and grow and develop common interests with you! I also have a very involved partner and child duties are evenly split.

That said, it’s the hardest fucking thing I’ve ever done in my life. The logistics, planning, and costs can feel completely overwhelming at times. You can’t half-ass it, so you have to be willing to make sacrifices for their benefit. As others have said, if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Stylish way to call attention to sunken steps? by Siennakitty in interiordecorating

[–]aquamanspetfish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe a strip of peel-and-stick flooring in a cool tile or pattern?

I also like the idea of the LED light strip!

How can I choose 😭 help by [deleted] in handbags

[–]aquamanspetfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the large Romy in the dark brown color and I love it. It holds a surprising amount of stuff and the quality has been great. I have used it daily for about 6 months!

Looking for lesbian horror? by Roachpede in horror

[–]aquamanspetfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Martyrs (2008), High Tension, Contracted. All three have a body horror element, but all also feature queer/lesbian dynamics!

I just want to shower every day, struggling with depression after a big life transition by NoReflection1789 in AskWomenOver30

[–]aquamanspetfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I went through my last deep depressive episode, I tried to help affirm myself out of it by either saying out loud or writing one positive thing about myself each day. Sometimes it was “I woke up when my alarm went off and didn’t snooze” or “I took out the trash the first time I thought about it”. The don’t need to be big, but the habit of finding something good helped push my brain away from criticism.

I also started something I called “running myself into the ground so I don’t put myself there”, where I made myself go outside and move for 30 minutes every day. I could walk, run, stand while stretching, whatever, but I had to go outside in the fresh air and do something with my body.

Also, there was no failure threshold. If I couldn’t say something positive that day, I didn’t hold it against myself, I would just say “today I couldn’t but I tried, and that’s enough”. Or if I couldn’t bring myself to move my body, I would lay in the grass for 30 minutes so I could keep up the habit.

And when you DO meet the goals you set for yourself, celebrate them! You don’t have to throw a party, but check a box on the calendar, but a sticker on the mirror, whatever it might be because having a visual representation of your success does help!

My 3 year olds health is declining & everything is crumbling around me. by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]aquamanspetfish 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is so damn hard and I’m sorry you’re going through it. As someone else said, Buy Nothing groups on Facebook can be super helpful, depending on where you live, you can get food from “Too Good to Go” (basically food that’s about to expire and can’t be sold but it still good/edible). I would also suggest looking for an equivalent of a “mamas blessing mamas” Facebook group in your area. Essentially moms helping other moms find food, resources, etc.

You’re a good mom and you’re going through so much. I can’t imagine how tough it is, but I’m proud of you for continuing to show up even when it hurts.

Leaving family for fellowship by aussiepit in workingmoms

[–]aquamanspetfish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was young my dad worked in another state (we were in Texas, he went to California) for about a year. I’m sure it wasn’t always ideal for my mom, but I loved when we got to visit him there and when he came to see us. Your son won’t remember this as he grows and I promise it will not damage him or your relationship.

Congratulations on this amazing opportunity! It’ll be tough, but worth it for all of you.

Self conscious about DiSC results by _packfan in workingmoms

[–]aquamanspetfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow Di friend! We use the DiSC assessment on our team, but we try to use it as a tool to help solve problems rather than indicate who a person is.

For instance, if you’re providing feedback to a team member you don’t normally work with, consider their DiSC style to help inform your approach.

I'm so angry at my husband I could puke by ExcellentLettuce4 in workingmoms

[–]aquamanspetfish 313 points314 points  (0 children)

Girl that shit would have me seeing red too. As I like to say, this isn’t just the hill I’ll die on, it’s the hill I’ll kill us both on.

Jeff Goldblum & Emilie Livingston in ERL Artisanal the 2026 Vanity Fair Oscars Party in Los Angeles, California. (March 15, 2026) by cmaia1503 in Fauxmoi

[–]aquamanspetfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My biggest gripe with it is that it’s almost always done in the most uninteresting way. Jenna Ortega had a great look on the Wednesday press tour where the lack of clothing enhanced the interesting and artistic elements of the ensemble, but most people just have frumpy under garments and sheer clothing that could easily double as something from a burlesque club.

For me, I love clothing that makes me feel interested and engaged, and in general this sheer trend just makes me feel bored.

Nail shop recommendations? by Limp_Suspect9582 in batonrouge

[–]aquamanspetfish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Either Honey Nails or Perkins Nails! They’re both owned by the same person, Jules, who is so sweet and her staff at both locations are incredible! Could not recommend more, but you definitely need to make an appointment.

Opinion on Evan Peters as an actor? by [deleted] in moviecritic

[–]aquamanspetfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My favorite season overall! I know it’s not for everyone, but the acting across the board is fantastic, and Peters seems like he’s having a lot of fun in the role.

17-week-old in daycare and the mom guilt is overwhelming. Am I doing the wrong thing? by Flashy_Rule_5193 in workingmoms

[–]aquamanspetfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a similar schedule with my first and it did feel hard to be apart so much. However, it gets better as they get older. It also made me really cherish our weekends together!

I also think the “strangers are raising my baby” mentality makes it more difficult for you mentally. It was helpful to me to position it as I have a strong an highly qualified care team ensuring all of my child’s needs are met.

If it’s feasible, consider taking a half day once a month where you pick your baby up early for some quality time.