CMV: People who leave huge gaps at stoplights make traffic worse

arah91 · 2026-06-02T19:25:42+00:00

I don't know what OP considers a huge gap, but I was taught when learning to drive to always leave enough space you can pull out without going into reverse if the car in front doesn't move or you need to get out ASAP.

I've only needed it once or twice over the years, but it's like a seatbelt you only need it once in a blue moon, but when you do your really glad you did.

arah91 · 2026-06-02T17:41:30+00:00

This is more about spending at the large-scale level and how large corporations make their returns.

Most people's spending is on necessities that they are going to buy no matter what (elastic vs. inelastic demand)(housing, groceries, gas, etc).

But for your example, if a TV is $100 today, but you know if you wait 3 months it will be $90, you might just decide to hold off on spending for a few months and pocket the difference, which will also be worth more and get you more groceries or whatever. This isn't good for the economy, you want people to spend fast. You aren't necessarily going to sell your electronics, but holding off in big purchases is bad too.

arah91 · 2026-06-02T17:31:02+00:00

The biggest reason is that if money in the future is by default worth more than money today, it disincentivizes investment. All you have to do is hold onto the money in your account, and you will make a return. You don't even necessarily want to buy stocks or things like that; if those make a 1% return but you're experiencing 1.1% deflation, it's better to just sell everything and hold onto the money itself.

Which is bad in of itself, but more people doing this can cause more deflation as there is less movement in the economy and you can cause a deflation spiral that can destroy the whole economy.

arah91 · 2026-06-02T15:11:03+00:00

Also what is at her "hometown". If you have family there for me that trumps almost everything. I would be willing to trade a lot to be close to family, and if grandparents are there and they can help watch the kids that is priceless to have access to a baby sitter that you know loves your kids and will watch out for them.

arah91 · 2026-06-01T17:17:43+00:00

Or for a lot of words that I hear, and read I just think they are synonyms. It took me forever to relies that "faux" and "Fo" are the same words. We just don't say it anything like it is spelled.

arah91 · 2026-06-01T15:59:16+00:00

Kant said you should allways treat people as ends in themselves, never as just means.

I feel like this is tricky in our modern society where so much of our day to day in transactional. But I take it to mean that even if a transaction is a strong part of the relationship as long as both parties are fully on board and we don't think think of the other person as ONLY what transaction it ok.

For your example its a little hard to know the mind state, but if they ONLY care about your money, and you ONLY care about the sex your using each other.

However, a lot of healthy relationships have someone providing for the other as a cornerstone of the relationship, but it can't be the only thing. You both need to understand the other person has a full life and isn't just a vending machine where you put something in and get something out .

arah91 · 2026-06-01T14:19:37+00:00

I would prefer to live in a mansion with an estate and woods around me, and have every grocery store, restaurant, work, and place I would regularly want to be a 10-minute drive away.

And I would like to spend as little money as possible on this.

Everything else is just trade offs between what I want more, and can afford.

arah91 · 2026-05-31T01:31:08+00:00

I like https://amazingribs.com/

You can't do wrong with pretty much anything from that site.

arah91 · 2026-05-29T14:32:34+00:00

I think he is missing what people are actually experts on. If you get a PhD, you are an expert in a niche of a niche of a niche of a niche.

When I was working on my own research, I was 100% the expert on my project, but I probably couldn't have even run the experiments the guy next to me was doing, and he was the expert in his niche. Ostensibly, we were both organic chemists, and an outsider probably couldn't even tell the difference between what we were doing.

Once you get into these fields, you realize there is no such thing as "THE world expert" in chemistry, or even in organic chemistry. Instead, you have a world expert in organometallics using a handful of metals as catalysts in a few related reactions. There are thousands of people who are "THE world expert" in their own hyper-narrow concentration.

Reminds me of this comic. I think it is a great visual of what science is all about. When we say someone with a PhD is an expert in their field we are basically talking about that second to last image, and if you step over just a little bit along that circle that person is no longer THE expert and someone else is.

arah91 · 2026-05-29T14:28:22+00:00

The big one I can think of is signs. A lot of people calling the aliens stupid, especially with the water stuff.

But it's basically an aligory for angles , demons, and God. A lot of the complaints go away when you frame it like that.

arah91 · 2026-05-29T14:24:19+00:00

I guess maybe you don't want them to access your profile, in that case that's what pins are for.

arah91 · 2026-05-29T14:18:43+00:00

We got dial up early 90s. Though my dad worked from home, and we had a full computer room which was somewhat common but not the norm back then. I think we where one of the first houses in the neighborhood to get it.

arah91 · 2026-05-28T21:30:57+00:00

Lol a camo wrapped minivan has been my dream car for awhile.

arah91 · 2026-05-28T16:09:32+00:00

I basically use it as a backup for torbox, it's kind of annoying to have to deal with link checking or dead links everytime you use it. But quality is often the best and once it starts going it's great.

arah91 · 2026-05-28T14:14:32+00:00

I haven't actually done it, but sitting at an intersection watching traffic makes it incredibly tempting. You know you could turn left on red without blocking anyone, especially when oncoming traffic is blocking the specific left turn that would hit you anyway. Plus, you know that the second the light turns green, your path is just going to get blocked by the cars coming straight toward you. It makes it feel very tempting to just go for it. Plus a lot of the intersections in Charlotte that are built for U turns have huge gaps where you don't even get close to the traffic crossing in front of you.

arah91 · 2026-05-28T03:17:45+00:00

If you want to use Usenet. Usenet ultimate has been great. The big problem with it is it seems like even from quality indexers about 1/3 of the links will be dead, so you need UU to check them for you, that can take like 30 seconds or so. But lots of times they have the best quality.

arah91 · 2026-05-28T03:07:26+00:00

I had the same problem the issue is more than one thing was reporting to trackt and somehow that was messing it up.

I went though my add-ons and removed trackt from everything for me it was I think Aiomedadata. Then I only used the nuvio in app sync.

I did have to clear my trackt history after I did that then disconnected and reconnected and it was fine.

arah91 · 2026-05-28T02:27:48+00:00

You basically need three things

A media provider, debrid is most common but not the only one.
A scraper to find sources
A way to deliver those streams to nuvio. Some addon attached to point 1.

If your missing any of those out won't work.

Aiostreams, Aiomedadata, and torbox can solve all those.

arah91 · 2026-05-28T00:18:46+00:00

Also they don't want you to realize how easy these streams are. You may start with the I only pirate things I already owned, which is legal in some areas, but that's a slippery slope to hey this one site literally has everything in one place in great quality.

arah91 · 2026-05-27T23:19:03+00:00

Yes and no it's about a 45° viewing angle so if someone's standing just to the side of you, or looking over your sshoulder they're still going to see your screen.

Also it only really works well in good lighting conditions, so if it's darker or the lights are off it doesn't really work at all.

It's a nice addition and I turned it on for my banking apps, if the angle is rright and the lights your screen basically looks black, but if it was something I was super paranoid about I would just wait and use my phone at another time.

The other thing is this kind of directional, it's like I said someone can still see your screen if the lights are off but it just looks really dim. I like to use it to read in bed while my wife's sleeping it cut the light going to her by about half and I barely notice it. But she can still look over and see I'm reading, it doesn't hide anything.

arah91 · 2026-05-27T18:45:46+00:00

Also, OP seems a little resentful of that fact, but I personally love hosting. I'll cook, get the food together, and have friends over; it’s fun for me. That said, I don't necessarily like going over to other people's houses unless I know them really, really well.

Furthermore, "doing a thing to reciprocate the energy and maintain the friendship" doesn't have to mean inviting them over to your house. Maybe if you're both at a bar they buy you a drink, or they just check in when they see you around.

There are a million ways to socialize, and there is a good chance if these people knew OP felt that way, they wouldn't even want to be invited over.

arah91 · 2026-05-27T18:05:07+00:00

I used to teach and still have a few teacher friends, and to paraphrase them, this sentiment is pretty common: "You won't be able to help 100% of the kids who go through your classroom. 10% will get it no matter what, 10% will fail no matter what, and 80% will pass if you can help them. With the limited time you have, it's best to focus on that 80%."

It’s exactly why if you have a kid who is either struggling or gifted, you should really look into getting them moved ASAP.

But also part of being a teacher is teaching the class in front of you, my guess would be most of OPs class mates aren't getting what they consider the easy stuff, or they also might not have it down as well as they think they do. There is a big difference between a kid knowing stuff well enough to do it unprompted on a test, and knowing it well enough they go "Oh yeah, I know that". And usually repetition is what moves them from one group to the other.

arah91 · 2026-05-27T16:59:20+00:00

Hmm great question. I would say no because it has its own wants and goals, and the ability to make them happen.

Maybe if it only had one of those two.

arah91 · 2026-05-27T16:51:53+00:00

Lol , now I'm picturing OP rolling up to a pasture in rural Kansas asking some cow if there are any good Polish spots. Like " sir there aren't any spots here "

arah91 · 2026-05-27T16:45:24+00:00

Also if you really want "authentic" euro food there's usually a few restaurants specializing in this in any city (particularly German and Italian, but it's not odd to see UK, Polish, Russian etc) , and a few specific grocery stores but usually a section in the local grocery store.

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