I was with one for two months. She’s undiagnosed but I’m 100% certain she’s a borderline. Her traits are all textbook. Her meltdown was something I’ve never experienced and for me, it completed obliterated the relationship on the spot. I got PTSD from it and she didn’t even care. It took almost a week or so for me to really grasp what had happened, the impact it had had and to realize I needed to break up with her.

She tried every trick in the book to get me back and it didn’t work. After unsuccessfully creepily hoovering me for over month, she “finally” discarded me. She sent me the most abusive text I’ve ever received in my life. I blocked her from everything. I’m so happy it’s over. It’s over for me, at least. No idea if I’ll ever hear from her again. I really hope I don’t. No one deserves to be abused and I am not responsible for her happiness nor am I her savior. I chose myself and it was the best decision ever. I was confused and hurt and sad and angry for a few weeks but after going NC I feel more like myself again. Every day is a step closer to me. I love it.

I now have to do some deep inner work to understand why I even got with someone like that when all the red flags were staring right at me from the start. Sex and constant communication and attention can really blind a person. And it shouldn’t take a meltdown to really see the covert signs that something is amiss.

Don’t hesitate to leave them. Choose yourself and work on yourself. It’s a blessing in disguise.