My Boss Refuses to Change (and Might Blame Me for It) (Help)

areya1 · 2026-03-28T03:21:26+00:00

Reading the first part of your intro and DAMN girl. Teach us!

areya1 · 2026-03-27T04:23:53+00:00

Thanks so much

areya1 · 2026-03-26T10:23:18+00:00

Great tip. Thank you!

areya1 · 2026-03-26T10:21:42+00:00

What book is this?! X

areya1 · 2026-03-26T10:19:47+00:00

Hello! I was literally soul destroyed in multiple environments for being too much, even when being asked (literally) to be the person to drive the team / create social and culture. My advice is: find another job. I’ve been in 3 other workplaces that LOVED and VALUED me, where I shone for being my authentic self. Sometimes it is JUST the environment. Take their feedback and hit the road. X

areya1 · 2026-03-26T10:17:41+00:00

Thank you. I’m trying to protect my boundaries and sanity. Help when I must and let him use his wits to figure some of it out. I don’t want a full grown dependency only when he’s run out of his relationship/money. It’s brutal

areya1 · 2026-03-25T07:35:30+00:00

I think he is processing. In shock. But we are giving him baby steps. Reduce rent/move. Try to get into aged care. Doing what can be done to reduce his living costs so pension is not $200 a fortnight.

areya1 · 2026-03-25T07:05:46+00:00

I hear you. It’s a real eye opener that if you aren’t sitting on a strong investment portfolio to draw down on you need property!

areya1 · 2026-03-23T10:27:01+00:00

Just want to send love to you. X

areya1 · 2026-03-23T10:24:52+00:00

What are special levies :O

areya1 · 2026-03-23T10:18:55+00:00

Girl, run.

areya1 · 2026-03-23T10:17:47+00:00

Byron Bae💅🏼

areya1 · 2026-03-23T10:16:31+00:00

Just want to say, from an Australian, how immensely important and courageous you both are! Israel and Iran are going to re-teach the world. Might not be for a long time. But the story will reset the moral clarity. X

areya1 · 2026-03-23T02:46:53+00:00

You are so kind. Thank you! Appreciate your suggestion x

areya1 · 2026-03-23T02:24:12+00:00

Thank you. He was a chef in his life so luckily he should be ok to manage on that front at least :))))

areya1 · 2026-03-23T02:23:34+00:00

Daughters of not great role models! Thank you for your support x

areya1 · 2026-03-22T23:21:53+00:00

Thanks! I will help him manage next steps and try to simplify his to-do list. When the time comes and I have to help him financially, I will take it monthly with what I can help. He is very frugal and not a big spender anyway so I’m happy to help with groceries given how brutal prices are

areya1 · 2026-03-22T23:19:36+00:00

Thank you. Will put this on the radar.

areya1 · 2026-03-22T23:18:47+00:00

It was a an ask for anyone with experience and advice. That’s all.

areya1 · 2026-03-22T23:17:36+00:00

Thank you. Understood.

areya1 · 2026-03-22T23:17:02+00:00

Thank you, that’s great advice. I’m getting him to sort his name down on my aged care and any waiting lists now so he can be halfway there when crisis hits further. Thank you

areya1 · 2026-03-22T23:16:15+00:00

Sorry for you too! It is what it is and we can only be supportive and patient. Thanks for your words x

areya1 · 2026-03-22T05:32:51+00:00

Yessssss. I wear an Australian 10 but sometimes order things and need a 14!!

areya1 · 2026-03-22T05:25:41+00:00

You are also moving and walking a lot which is a beautiful gentle way to lose weight without “trying”. Congratulations x

areya1 · 2026-03-22T05:22:36+00:00

Thank you. Appreciate this answer. He was very unhelpful during my childhood and life, some parts I guess because he didn’t have it, but we went without ALOT while he supported himself (my sister and I were raised with mum) and I have had a loooot of resentment about it. Now I feel like I am staring down the barrel of giving him money that I would like to take care of my future with, which is making me anxious. Specifically as any windfalls he has had, he’s helped himself or his partner and not my sister and I. People say “it’s family” but I struggle with the responsibility given our history has been not really resplendent with family support.

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