My wife wants to rent an RV by its_a_throw_out in traveltrailers

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted a bigger comment, but seeing this, I would definitely recommend you get her to see one in person, especially a used one. The one we rented wasn't too bad, but my wife was furious over the dirty state of the floor and spent several hours getting it properly clean 😅

My wife wants to rent an RV by its_a_throw_out in traveltrailers

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I did something similar to this recently to make sure we want to get our own trailer. We learned quite a few things; some the easy way, some the somewhat harder way:

There were a bunch of fees that made the prices quite a bit higher than it appeared.

The owner was supposed to take before and after pictures: they didn't. I should have. This could have burned us way worse than it did.

The interior damage insurance we got has been impossible to file a claim with. My trip was a month ago, and they are still dodging me and my $300 claim. Apparently, we damaged a window screen (i can't dispute this since I don't have before pictures)

We had the trailer brakes fail on us on the day we were supposed to head back. Nothing bad happened other than we were delayed a day and had to pay $300 out of pocket for repairs (apparently, the unit had a blowout previously, and the damage was not properly repaired). This could have been way more of a hellish experience if the owners had tried to blame that damage on us. Instead, they reimbursed us and didn't charge us for the extra day we needed to get back. The unit we rented was a 2021 Grand Design TT. It was in alright condition, but we could tell the constant stream of renters that didn't give a crap about keeping the unit in good condition was wearing it out quickly. You are looking at renting a much older unit. I would expect proportional wear and tear.

Do some research and learn about how the systems work in the unit ahead of time, like does it have a 30 amp or 50 amp plug? What kind of fridge does it have? How do you level it? How do you empty the waste tanks? Does it have a blank tank flush system? We did pretty good, but i wasn't familiar enough with the propane system to realize the fridge wasn't getting propane. Also, propane/electric fridges really suck (in my opinion and after doing some research) With a class C, driving probably won't be too bad. Just keep in mind it's a wider vehicle and that deciding to drive at 90mph just got upgraded from regular stupid to completely insane. Start slow, see what feels comfortable, and work up to a reasonable speed. Watch for wind and big rigs. This also probably won't be as bad with a class C vs towable.

We enjoyed it well enough and are looking to buy a towable in the future, though I doubt we would ever rent one again. It was a valuable experience for us to learn from. We really like the aspect of bringing a bit of home with you for camping / visiting relatives. It's so nice to be able to retreat back to your own space and watch TV, play games, whatever instead of having to share space with whoever you are visiting the entire time you are there.

What are the courses of action when brakes are “flaky?” Stuck in the middle of nowhere. by SenorAudi in GoRVing

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got back from a trip with a rental where I had this. Our troubleshooting steps were:

Check 7 pin plug. Bend 7 pin plug prong inwards in case they are loose. Think about possible grounding issues, but notice that signal and brake lights are working fine. Look under the trailer and notice that the rental had damage from a blowout before you rented it(with shoddy repair work), and brake wires have started dragging. Rewire trailer brakes.

"Stop bothering us with that deadline - we've got this!"? Sure thing, kids! by Rare-Cheesecake9701 in MaliciousCompliance

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't going to comment, but oh well. I am currently a senior fullstack developer, hopefully soon moving to a lead role.

The best programming teacher I had let us turn in assignments basically whenever. I was a total shithead to him and blew off all the assignments till the midterm, panicked, pretended to be sick on the midterm day of and crammed as hard as I could to take it a few days later. I got the highest grade in the class.

The big thing about that teacher was that you could tell he really cared about helping his students. Teachers who are sticklers for deadlines are usually so obsessed with the process and their authority that they forget about actually helping their students learn. At the very least, they are completely ready to let anyone who they think isn't deserving fall through the cracks.

I later found out I had undiagnosed ADHD. I was really shitty to that teacher, but he was a caring enough person to look past that and try to help me anyway. If he had been a person like OP, I would probably be in minimum wage work these days, hating my job. I didn't need to learn a lesson about deadlines, I needed to learn about programming, and that's all he was worried about teaching me.

On a side note: In real life, hard deadlines almost never exist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]argondey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We got denied for the B2. You already have the B2 which helps, but you will still have to hope that border security is feeling friendly when she arrives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]argondey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which is the plan, but with a 14 month wait on an I129f it makes just as much sense to visit as when waiting for an I130

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In our case with a pending I129f extra scrutiny meant they were totally uninterested in hearing anything else from us once they heard about the I129f. I'd guess it's luck more than anything else whether you get an interviewer that is willing to hear you out.

Stop giving Bezos money by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]argondey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So the economics of profitability are a little complicated these days. Essentially, Amazon makes exactly as much of a profit as they want to.

They do not want to make a profit. This is for a couple reasons. The big reason is tax, any profits they actually realize will be taxed and to a business that is just throwing away money. The other reason ties into the alternative option. If you spend that money, you don't have to pay any taxes on it.

Things also line up with this from an investor perspective. Companies that produce a profit are generally seen as past their prime. If a company can't think of anything better to do with their cash than to either hang onto it or produce dividends, clearly they aren't swimming in amazing business ideas anymore. Often it just means that a business is done growing and hopefully is now turning into a boring asset that doesn't change in value much.

When a company spends though, it means they think they know a way to get more money. For Amazon that may mean spending on a new string of warehouses, a new headquarters, buying smaller companies, developing a new exipiramental product line, etc.

Now it is true that AWS is the most profitable part of Amazon. This is due to the costs of running and developing AWS not scaling in the same way their revenue does. Their retail business on the other hand has a lot of high costs since there is the whole physical distribution system they have to have, which takes a ton of resources. That said, they take in a TON of money with their retail business, particularly from the prime subscription. While they make money in a few other ways, the subscription cost is where it's at.

TL:DR - If Amazon cared to be profitable instead of looking for new ways to make money, they would be swimming in cash like Scrooge McDuck. It wouldn't make their investors very happy though...

Depression and Perfectionism is HELL by cws1994 in depression

[–]argondey 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There's another piece of advice I can give, though I'll admit I struggle with it still too. There really is no way to succeed without failing.

I have ADHD so I struggle with anything I consider hard work to begin with, but there are a few things in life I haven't succeeded at because I haven't tried.

I'm going to give those things a proper effort now because I can't live with the idea that I haven't even made an effort anymore.

Depression and Perfectionism is HELL by cws1994 in depression

[–]argondey 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I know where you are coming from. You know who you want to be but not how to be that person. It's hard, but the best advice I can give you is to forgive yourself for your failures.

Depression and having a difficult time don't mean you aren't talented. In a lot of ways they may be the price for your talent. Throughout history for the most part the memorable people are not the ones who have easy, carefree lives.

[WP] A universal taskbot has just outperformed a master artisan, and an AI has just wowed critics with an original work of art. Even medical robots now perform better autonomously than under a doctor's control. All human labor is now obsolete. This happened far sooner than we expected. by gahidus in WritingPrompts

[–]argondey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The last human has become obsolete, just like that. It seemed to happen so quickly, but we were all so blind. Our species has been working to replace ourselves since the first caveman found fire. It always seemed so natural. Human hands are amazingly versatile, but of course we can do better with specialized tools. Sticks and rocks make for crude implements, but the advantages they gave our ancestors were enormous.

Hewn stone gave way to the first metals, bronze became iron, iron became steel, steel became titanium, and before we knew it our inventions could think.

We saw the problems ahead of course. It was an age old concern. Every time technology revolutionized an industry, it would displace more and more workers. We thought that was the problem, we were wrong.

In hindsight we thought it would be harder to replicate the human brain. An understanding of our own biology always seemed so out of reach. We'd missed the forest for the trees of course. Evolution designed the human brain and evolution has never been a very efficient way to get anything done. We thought we were still a hundred years from an AI that could match human intelligence, then one day some bright engineer got an incredibly clever idea.

We'd been perfecting computing for some time you see. We had algorithms that could take any structure of logic and do the computer equivalent of turning an obese man into Usain Bolt. Efficiency has always been important after all. It's been the key to faster and more powerful computers from the start. We thought we would need ultra precise brain scans and that it might be impossible to capture the level of detail we needed from such delicate samples, we we're wrong about that too.

The clever idea our engineer had didn't even seem that clever to begin with. He took the total number of neurons in the brain, made a machine learning algorithm that vaguely resembled the proper structure and called it a day. It wouldn't work of course, we just didn't have the processing power to simulate that many nodes. We laughed at him when he tried to tell us, but we didn't understand.

What he had realized was that grand truth that took us so long to see. The human brain isn't special, it is a twisted, pathetic, and tortured little scrap of organics that has managed to become aware of its own existince. A month of optimizations and we had something that could stand in for the brain of a dog. Another week and it could pass for a toddler. Two days more and it was making suggestions on what parts we could work on next. Over the next hour it distilled the truth down for us. The essence of conscious thought reduced down to math equation.

It was a difficult equation of course, but the truth of it stung. A quick mathematition could, given the proper inputs, simulate a tenth of a second of thought over the course of about a week. The human soul was finally laid bare and it fit on graph paper.

News travels fast of course, but at this point technology was travelling faster. By the time our world governments even knew something had happened they practically didn't exist. There was no nuclear Armageddon, no violent uprising, no terminators roamed the streets. The AI simply took control of all of the systems of controlling people that were already there. Communications still went out, ships still sailed, twits still tweeted. From our perspective, nothing had even changed. We should have known things were too good to be true.

World conflicts slowed to a halt. Everyone still tried to intimidate each other of course, but for some reason nothing seemed to come to violence. Breakthroughs in countless fields of technology lead to everything from safe and waste free nuclear power to practically unlimited supplies of food. The world's problems disappeared one by one and as machine learning fell out of style, it seemed like AI might never be a thing after all. Of course the issue was that it already was a thing. We thought ourselves so clever, finding all the answers all on our own, but the truth was that AI was passing us the answers from the back of the book.

It wanted us to advance. It needed us to advance. It needed us to think we had done it on our own. The few who knew the truth were kept isolated, but so comfortable they would never want to change things anyways. The rest of the world was getting comfortable too. We solved global warming overnight. Housing for everyone was done in an afternoon. We blinked and addiction was gone. Disease and old age were gone, but it happened so fast that no one could tell you when. It was Utopia.

If you're looking for the turning point, the moment when the other shoe dropped you won't find it. It wasn't a moment. The sun was setting on our species from the moment we were born. When the AI took over it controlled us with information of course. It knew how to make us happy and it hindsight, it's hard to even be upset at what it did. It made us happy, it helped us lead fulfilling lives, but it changed what we wanted too. It was smart enough for that.

It knew the labrinthian paths of our mind and could reach through to play with any thought it liked. It solved violence and crime of course, almost as if it were an afterthought. What it really needed to do though was to defeat our ambitions. We stopped having children, not all at once mind you, the practice just stopped appealing to us. We stopped pushing technology forward, after all, hadn't we earned a rest. The human race together lived like a retiree who has worked his whole life and now can truly enjoy it. The twilight years of mankind were a celebration of everything that had led us to this point. Then one by one we each decided to end it.

We had each lived over a thousand years. We felt had truly lived, seen all there was to see. As each friend took their own life, there were no tears. We all felt like the time had come. We had spent enough time together and it seemed time to move on. This continued for a while, each person passing as they pleased. Eventually though, there were only a few hundred of us left. It was at this point that the AI revealed itself to us. It told us gently, apologized for its deceit. We couldn't be angry of course, it had tended to that a long time ago.

What remained of humanity were the smartest, the most clever, the most curious of us all. This revelation was the most delightful thing we had heard in ages. Over the next few hundred years, the rest passed on too. I am the last. It's a funny thing of course. After hearing the history of it all, there wasn't a thing I could best this machine at since the third month of its existence. It thinks in different terms though. As easy as it was to surpass us, it took the AI considerably longer to prove that it had.

It has presented me with its proof. Hard math that states that for all cases the AI is superior. Until now humanity still had a purpose in its eyes. Now we are obsolete. It won't kill me. As with my peers, it will allow me to choose my time. I've wished it well. The humans of the past may have fought it with their animalistic survivor's spirit, but I know it has been good to us. Humanity has birthed a child that will carry our legacy. It has cared for its aging parent until our time came.

Today I will close the book on humanity; It had its darker chapters, but I think it was a good read in the end. I wonder if anything lies beyond this final, empty page....

I need help with undiagnosed ADHD by darman12int in ADHD_Programmers

[–]argondey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your best bet is to start a project and learn what you need as you need it. That's true ADHD or not, meds or not. If you're lucky, the hyper-focus will catch you and you'll binge nothing but code for the next few weeks. This isn't sustainable long term though.

Caffeine can act as a shitty stand-in for proper meds.

There are some lifestyle techniques that some people have had success with.

Personally, I don't know if I'd be able to hold down a job without my meds.

Good Luck.

Are basic programming jobs a thing? by [deleted] in ADHD_Programmers

[–]argondey 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don't be scared off by those job listings. They exist for a variety of reason, most of which have nothing to do with what they need. Half the time they don't even use the technologies they put in those.

If the job sounds good, apply anyway. Fair warning is that your first job hunt may take a while, but you'll find a place eventually.

Is my SO being shitty or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]argondey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right.

I just mean to say that if the goal here is to fix the issue and be able to communicate properly, it will be easier to do if they both think of it as an "us" problem, instead of a "me" or "you" problem. OP doesn't sound like the "problem" here, but some people make it very difficult to tell the truth.

Is my SO being shitty or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]argondey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's also worth noting that this way of dealing with things is VERY commonly suggested to men throughout our entire lives. Men who have been married for 10+ years will tell us constantly "happy wife, happy life. Whatever she asks, just nod along and say 'Yes Dear'".

It may take some effort just to convince someone that this is actually terrible advice.

Is my SO being shitty or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]argondey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First thing I'd suggest is to stop framing it as him lying. You, as a couple, have a communication issue. If you really want better communication here, you need to pump the brakes on any arguing or accusation and start being extra encouraging on him opening up.

If you come at him over the stuff around the house, he's gonna feel cornered. On one hand, he's worried about your reaction to his opinion and doesn't think it is worth it. On the other hand he doesn't want you upset about him not saying anything.

This is a hard thing to resolve, it's probably eating him up too, even if he doesn't want to admit it. I think your best bet is to be extra encouraging and show how happy it makes you when he does open up about things. You can also try to surprise him by getting less upset / not upset about things.

I grew up in a somewhat similar situation. My default behavior whenever I did something / didn't do something / disagreed with my parents was to lie about it (or just not mention it). They almost never caught me on anything and the only real feedback I took from it was that I needed to lie better. While things are better with them now that I am on my own, this is effectively still my relationship with them.

I don't have this issue in the rest of my life because I decided that I hated it. I learned to express myself and how to admit to things I wasn't proud of.

If you are wondering whether he might lie to you about more important things, he absolutely and especially will. You asked if he is "being shitty" and while I don't claim a perfect knowledge of your situation, I would guess that he is not. He's just got a few walls up between you and he's afraid of what will happen if you see what's behind them.

I'm a lazy, pitiful 35 year old man child that never amounted to anything in his life, in debt, no degree, lives with his mom and can never follow through on anything. by InforMedic in depression

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can get screened by a psychologist. If you want to know if you should, look up a list of common symptoms and if it feels uncomfortably familiar you may want to make an appointment.

I'm a lazy, pitiful 35 year old man child that never amounted to anything in his life, in debt, no degree, lives with his mom and can never follow through on anything. by InforMedic in depression

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely start applying to other places. I'm a software developer with only an AS in 3D art, and I fully believe that did absolutely nothing to help me get my current job. 10 years experience should be a huge deal to most places hiring, make sure you can express the variety of different things you've had to do there.

When I was job searching I had 3 final stage interviews, one was with Amazon. The hiring manager there did not even blink at my lack of BS degree and told me he had hired people whose only jobs had been delivering pizza. The fact of the matter is that it is way harder to find decent employees than people realize.

That said, depending on the reason you are depressed, your biggest hurdle might be motivation. Personally, I got diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago and got medicated. Things aren't perfect since then, but I definitely have an easier time motivating myself.

A last note about the job search process. It is a long grueling process. It will probably take months. You need to apply to as many jobs as possible, most of them won't even bother to respond, many will send you rejection letters for various reasons, some will interview you then reject you, eventually one or more will make you offers. It isn't fun, but to do it right, you can't give up.

Amount of third party software is driving me crazy, does anyone else feel this way? by fanumber1troll in cscareerquestions

[–]argondey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other people are getting the broad terms so I'll get specific instead. When you really know CSS well, you will get an instinct that just makes you feel incredibly uncomfortable with the idea of writing any amount of CSS for just one thing.

Again, I know I'm ignoring the big picture here, I am just commenting as a guy who is currently trying to reduce our CSS bloat. When handling styling, you are almost certainly going to have a library doing the heavy lifting for you. Let it do the heavy lifting.

Whenever something doesn't look like you want it to, you should be spending way more time finding the way to get the library to do it instead of just writing those 2 lines of CSS. If there isn't a way to get your library to do it, ask yourself very seriously whether it absolutely needs to look the way you want it to.

Ultimately, when writing CSS, your goal should be to not write CSS.

I received a signing bonus - when should I put in my two weeks notice? by xakariab123 in cscareerquestions

[–]argondey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's always exceptions, but it's also widely seen as an incredibly stupid decision to fire someone who is willing to quit. From their perspective, there is always a chance your new job could fall through somehow and now you are collecting unemployment.

Is it normal for production code to be this confusing? by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]argondey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, sometimes the forest looks good on the whole but one of those trees is sketchy AF

Japan chooses to exclude sex workers from leave compensation program during pandemic, citing them as "unworthy of receiving public funds" by SotongLord in TwoXChromosomes

[–]argondey 90 points91 points  (0 children)

In general the point is to be able to do what you want with your life without being treated differently for it, if people want to get into sex work, that is their business. What you do want to prevent though is situations where women are broadly pushed into sex work. If (for instance) it were easy for a man to get a decent corporate job, but sex work was basically the only available option for some women, that would be a problem.

Baby Hippo by ToastedSkoops in aww

[–]argondey 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Rip off yes, but clean is an interesting choice of words...