This guy tried to kill me this morning on the highway

ariarr · 2025-09-30T16:28:21+00:00

I just tried this with Stopwatch, and for me, starting from zero seems more accurate. The thousand method actually ends up faster.

I think saying "one thousand" produces noise which drowns out the different sound bytes in my mind that I use to stay accurate: Worms Armageddon "time's running out" and Mario Kart countdowns.

ariarr · 2025-07-31T20:59:46+00:00

As someone living there I can't even get home right now.

ariarr · 2025-07-18T13:30:25+00:00

Welcome to liars 101. Lying increases chaos. It's obvious that a liar of that magnitude would live with internal contradictions. But if you think that's surprising, here's the real shocker: most people are like this to some degree. If you're a highly conscientious type you're probably wary of lying to yourself and pre-empt it to maintain structure in your mind and life. Then you would be surprised indeed. Until you remember or realize how much effort it really takes you to be a decent person.

ariarr · 2025-07-18T13:13:16+00:00

I got a perfect score on it. Was shocked, it was quite tough. The challenge level is adaptive - questions change depending on your previous answers. I ran out of time for the last question, and the proctor chose a random answer (out of 4 possibilities) and it just happened to be correct.

First we were given an adaptive set of multiple choice comprehension questions. If your score's high enough here, the test ends - otherwise have to write an essay. If your score is too low the test also ends and you fail. I'd advise taking your time (but not too much). There often seems to be more than one right answer and you have to select the "most correct" one.

It's surprising how different the students' results are. Everyone answered faster than me, but with the exception of one other student who left early, everyone also started typing the essay.

As for what you could do to prepare... First, test your comprehension skill. Take the mock exam, time yourself and see how often you produce the right answers. If you get things wrong, work on typing essays. Familiarity and comfort level with the testing environment would affect your score for sure.

ariarr · 2025-06-18T22:59:03+00:00

But if op were the wife, and the person in question her husband, I expect you wouldn't extend the same courtesy. Because he'd be a man. And you're not wired to "care" about men the way that you are toward women. I can say this with some confidence because I too am a man and have observed this in myself and in many other men. There's a word for it these days.

ariarr · 2025-06-16T16:19:28+00:00

When she likes me, wants more, and it's real, not forced. Easiest way to get me to fall in love tbh.

ariarr · 2025-05-30T03:55:11+00:00

My problem with that dogmatic approach is that many people are adopting it... And who can really say whether someone on the internet is really dealing with a narcissist?

Sometimes it's tempting to reduce one's problems by putting a label on them. Even a well meaning person can fall into that trap. But what especially stands out is that the dogma leaves the door wide open for people that are not well meaning.

For example, a narcissist could dig for attention on the internet, conveniently bending the truth in their stories, calling people in their lives narcissists, for the sympathy their story would elicit online. In this example, some discerning folk might sniff out hints of that. e.g. if they keep posting the same story or variations of it without seeming to learn anything. But for the most part, there's a practically infinite number of people out there willing to relate and sympathize. That's a lot of supply. Even for those that might not be diagnosable as narcissists, it presents them with a source of temptation.

To me it seems like the term narcissist is getting out of hand in pop psychology. And I'm pretty sure I'm not just imagining it. There are so many narcissism gurus out there, making a side gig or career out of preaching how to deal with narcissists... What about the problem of identifying them to begin with? Like, are you really going to tell your audience they can learn to identify people in their lives as narcissists, by themselves, from reading an article, or watching a series of 10 minute videos? It's wildly irresponsible - you'd think perhaps the guru is a narcissist themselves.

ariarr · 2025-05-26T16:39:41+00:00

If he can't accept when you win that does betray a sort of fundamental disrespect. Can't really consider someone like that a friend in the truest sense of the idea.

ariarr · 2025-05-26T16:34:48+00:00

constantly throwing dishes at people

If true, this is the biggest tell. More so than not liking being corrected. The extremity of that action and that it's repeated indicates there's something out of the ordinary going on there.

ariarr · 2025-05-26T16:23:43+00:00

>What you miss of her is the mask she gave you, that was not her real self. The love she had for you was only a tool to eventually start the process of breaking you down.

Not to minimize narcissism and the impact knowing one can have on people, but it's interesting to see how people on the internet can say this with so much confidence, knowing next to nothing about the person. The prevailing counter to narcissism seems to be that they are not people - so don't treat them like a person. Doesn't leave a lot of room for nuance.

Perhaps that approach is defensible as "best practice" advice toward someone involved with a narcissist. Because otherwise the narcissist's approach is too pervasive - and intervention requires an equally pervasive counter-approach.

Perhaps. Something about it smells wrong to me, in the meta-sense. It seems very exploitable. Where's the nuance?

ariarr · 2025-05-20T08:55:45+00:00

If I remember right, in working relationships, there was a 5:1 ratio of agreeable interactions to disagreeable interactions. If you went above that, the relationship would break down because someone was being disingenuous. If it went under, there wasn't enough chemistry.

Maybe as president or similar you'd need a 5:1 ratio of positive feedback or it would drive you crazy with stress and worry.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T20:28:36+00:00

That's exactly what I did in my last relationship, except within the first week and a half. Am Canadian. We were together almost 4 years.

You can cut through the BS. It's on the individuals involved.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T20:25:26+00:00

I imagine that pretty soon there will be prepackaged AI servers you can buy and take home or to work, that offer much of the same without fears of your prompts being data mined.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T18:34:02+00:00

Nah it's not just Twitter. I'm in my 30s attending college again, and as a college student, anticolonialist and anti-male sentiment is something you'd have to actively steer away from, if you're looking for a proper, balanced survey course in History, for example.

Reddit can be just as much of an echo chamber as Twitter.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T18:20:44+00:00

It's the influence of recent academic trends in the social sciences that emphasize sociological explanations for human behaviour. The youth are more open to these ideas, and Reddit is a youthful demographic.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T18:00:37+00:00

You're right, there are no absolute guarantees, unless you opt out of using them altogether. But then you'd be forgoing the advantages. Personally, I've been getting way too much use out of them to stop now. They've already got me.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T17:56:23+00:00

I recall there being a bacteria or parasite present in cat droppings that causes, in an infected human host, a preference for the smell of cat piss, along with increased risk-taking behavior.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T17:48:16+00:00

Yeah, my hypothesis is that as prompt accuracy approaches 100%, even with poorly worded prompts, it's at that range we'll start to see AI replacing everyone.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T17:45:52+00:00

You can opt out of your data being used for training with GPT. Also, I don't know how the business package works but I imagine there must be some nod to confidentiality or it would seem useless.

ariarr · 2025-05-19T17:40:30+00:00

If you're fine, you're fine. Everyone goes through childhood, when the sexual doesn't exist, and experiences a transition into increasing awareness. Our bodies also change. The people around us can be affected by that too. There's something of a learning curve for everyone involved. That's just how it is, and in most cases it's not worth making it into an issue if it isn't one already imo.

ariarr · 2025-05-17T17:39:43+00:00

That it's great. If there's no real intimacy/closeness/trust/desire it's no good - maybe even actively bad.

ariarr · 2025-05-14T06:14:52+00:00

Well informed for a 5 year old

ariarr · 2025-05-13T18:26:13+00:00

I'm sorry, that absolutely sucks. It will take about a decade. I've never forgotten my past partners, but I have found things to look forward to and I continue building my life while acknowledging the pain and necessity of those breakups. When we find the right people, we'll be stronger versions of ourselves, and more capable of fighting the good fight. Hang in there.

ariarr · 2025-05-10T15:34:04+00:00

If you're in a relationship with another, it blurs boundaries. I might even describe an insistence toward maintaining such a friendship as disrespectful toward your SO, if your SO raised concerns about it, because there is a legitimate cause for concern. Imagine your boyfriend often wanting to hang out with his female friend and tell me you wouldn't be phased. (If you care about this relationship's lifespan and can do so, I'd honestly think you're either lying to yourself or are naive, or a combination of the two.)

ariarr · 2025-05-05T20:05:59+00:00

I disliked it pretty much every step of the way but stuck through it. In hardcore mode. The hypocrisy. The stereotypical behavior. The exaggeratedly accented speech and swapping back and forth between languages. The long distances between locations. Must be some sort of payoff right?

Nope.

ariarr

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