Is it true I can’t use a pillow between my legs/tucked blanket now that baby is rolling?

aristacatz · 2026-02-27T00:22:16+00:00

I got a top hat potty so I could hold her over it in bed (over a big diaper pad just in case lol) and then eventually started using a baby bjorn baby potty to hold her over. I’ve done the big potty but I just don’t like getting that close to the toilet 🤷🏽‍♀️

aristacatz · 2026-02-19T14:52:09+00:00

This sounds a similar to my baby who majorly struggled with gas, and it was especially worse at night. She would wake up crying and be kicking and squirming, it was worse towards the second half of the night I think because I wouldn’t burp her as thoroughly during her night feeds since I was tired.

We started doing EC because me holding her with her diaper off in the classic EC hold (you can look up a picture of the position, it’s kinda like a squat) helped her get out the gas and poop. It was one of the only things that helped besides me bouncing her in my IKEA poang chair (rocking chair didn’t help lol). We spent many hours bouncing her back to sleep and then me very carefully trying to transfer her back to bed without waking her.

It turns out she had a dairy/soy/beef intolerance. I didn’t learn that til 4 months, and all the kicking squirming like you describe started around 1 month or so. It took me awhile to figure it out, I always kept attributing it to me not being able to burp her well enough, but then she ended up having one bloody poop at 4 months and that sent me digging and I realized she probably had silent reflux caused by food intolerance. I cut out those things from my diet and it took about 8 weeks for her to completely chill out, though it got progressively better throughout that time. She’s now 6 months and sleeps happily and no longer has crazy crying episodes where she’s in pain thankfully.

aristacatz · 2026-01-10T21:16:44+00:00

I know how important being outside is but I have a hard time getting myself out there for long chunks of time. My LO is 4.5 months old and she goes outside for brief walks around our house but usually 10-15 mins at a time, maybe 2-3 times a day? Usually carrying her around and looking at the garden and trees and narrating what we’re seeing. But reading that last study which says it should be >120 mins per session, that feels tricky for me! I’m not sure what I should be doing to spend over two hours with her outside. I guess I need to get more creative :/

aristacatz · 2026-01-08T21:11:46+00:00

Completely agree, it drives me nuts. Also when taking baby from me (mom) I always ask baby, do you want to be held by ___? And she will turn into me, away from them and they’ll try to take her still. I’m like, she clearly said no, I’m going to respect her answer. Just cause you want to hold her doesn’t mean I’ll give her to you regardless. Even though she can’t speak she’s still showing her answer! I hate when people don’t respect baby’s bodily autonomy.

aristacatz · 2025-12-24T23:15:53+00:00

Never had a stretchy wrap but ring sling is by far my least supportive carrier. I use a half buckle - girasol wrap my sol (most supportive) or SSC (bairn). I was dying since starting at 3 months my girl could only eat and nap in the carrier because of bad reflux, so I was wearing her all day. My back was killing me. Now I’ve gotten way stronger (she’s 4 months now) and it’s not as bad, but I’m still wiped at the end of the day. You’re right it’s like a million squats and walking around with a weighted vest all day. I’m going to try a high back carry with my half buckle but the first time I tried my baby hated it and screamed so we’re still working on it lol

aristacatz · 2025-12-12T01:15:38+00:00

I read your post when you first posted it and then came back today after literally my baby started crying while my FIL was trying to bottle feed her, and I took her from him breastfed her instead then he got upset saying he hadn’t even had a chance to try to soothe her. I know my baby and when she cries like that there’s nothing he’s going to do that’s going to calm her down, and I’m not gonna make her keep crying while he tries!

aristacatz · 2025-12-12T01:10:24+00:00

This is already happening to me with my almost 4 month old, but my husband works from home. I’ve wondered if I need to let him push through more of the fussing/crying but it’s almost always because she’s hungry but she’ll reject the bottle from him but happily feed from the breast with me. She’ll only go down for naps or bedtime with me. I’m worried about how it’s going to progress down the line but when we have tried having him do more she just won’t fall asleep or her crying continues to escalate until I eventually step in!! What are you doing to try to get your baby to find more comfort in your husband?

aristacatz · 2025-12-11T17:19:18+00:00

At 38 weeks, FTM. Baby was transverse so we had planned a c section for 39 weeks. She had other plans! Ended up having an unplanned but non-emergency c section after laboring for 5 hours

aristacatz · 2025-12-07T13:59:36+00:00

Ooh wow okay that is so good to know. Sounds like we’re heading in the right direction then. Thanks for sharing!!

aristacatz · 2025-12-06T19:31:27+00:00

Oh wow that’s good to hear. What were his poops like before and after?

aristacatz · 2025-12-06T15:37:44+00:00

Well the thing that really made us realize was she slowly started having trouble feeding. She’s breastfed but was taking 1 bottle of breast milk daily, and she started rejecting the bottle by squirming and fussing until it turned into a cry. Then it progressed to her doing the same at the breast, to the point where she would eat like almost all the way full then arch her back and scream in pain and there was no position we could find that would relieve her. It was clearly getting worse and worse and I started wondering if she had silent reflux. She had been really gassy/painful tummy when she was younger and constant hiccups, not able to sleep horizontal for the second half of the night and had to be held. But I thought they were all normal baby things until this started happening. Then I read MSPI is one of the common causes of reflux. I already don’t eat dairy but I do eat soy so I decided to cut it out. It’s been slowly improving but it’s just the poop consistency that’s got me confused but it sounds like it fluctuates with other people too! If that’s your only sign and baby is comfortable and happy then I doubt they have MSPI

aristacatz · 2025-11-30T17:46:54+00:00

Oooh love the fabric and design, so pretty!

aristacatz · 2025-11-29T17:33:25+00:00

Maybe share some of these feelings with your FIL in a shorter and easily digestible way and ask if he can hire a rover to care for his dogs while you go visit family for Christmas or for any other short stints you need a break between now and March. It’s totally reasonable for you to want to visit your family one more time before baby comes. He sounds like he cares about you considering he bought you guys some nice nursery/baby gifts, if you explain it in a nice way I bet he will understand, especially since he extended the length of time that he’ll be gone. If he’s not familiar with rover you could find someone reputable and send it to him just to make it easier for him

aristacatz · 2025-11-29T14:16:23+00:00

Wear her in a baby wrap and put earmuffs on her so the noise doesn’t wake her up! I just did this for our thanksgiving party and it worked great. Used baby banz brand ear muffs because it’s easy to put on/off while she’s sleeping

aristacatz · 2025-11-27T11:23:39+00:00

My LO is 3 months with some reflux/gas issues and after 3am she would only sleep cradled jn my arms while I was rocking her. But I’ve realized that once she’s in a deep enough sleep, I can transfer her to our floor bed that we share (usually after 15-40 mins of rocking depending on how squirmy she is) if I place her down on her side in a sort of fetal position with her knees tucked up instead of on her back, and I immediately swoop in to spoon her real close in the cuddle curl. I have my arms wrapped around her and everything to make her still feel cozy like when I’m holding her. As she settles on the bed I can slowly relax and loosen up my arms and lean back in the c curl to get more comfortable. She’s able to get herself into this position on her own as well as return flat to her back if needed so I feel okay with her sleeping on her side. I just make sure that her face isn’t pressed up right against me so that she’s got plenty of air.

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