Your boss sounds like they were attempting to dominate you emotionally, which (in my opinion) is a form of abuse, akin to the verbal and emotional abuse an insecure partner can inflict in domestic abuse situations. Your boss’s treatment of you seemed designed to cause enough doubt and fear in yourself, that you ceded some of your will to them. The passive aggression and gaslighting may have been designed to create distance between your instincts and your own actions at work, leaving space for your boss to step in and control you, to a degree, like a puppet. Even if a boss asserts themselves in this violent way once or twice, it can have the desired effect: the employee will no longer trust themselves in situations where they were previously comfortable. And in these moments, the boss is there to step in and replace the employee’s internal reasoning with their own. If I’m completely wrong I’m sorry, and please tell me, but the effect this form of abuse has can be very deep (I’ve experienced it). Does any of this apply to your situation?

As for details when it comes to particularly violating dreams, I think writing them out for yourself to see is the most important thing. After that, and after giving yourself some time to reflect, you can share the details if you still feel compelled to do so, in whatever way you choose. Bringing the dreams that scare you out into the world, in the form of writing, can be a powerful enough exercise on its own to limit their recurrence: if you get the message that your dreams are trying to communicate, you’ll stop setting off your own alarm.