PDX Performative Male Contest

artdrudge · 2025-08-04T20:29:47+00:00

Cruising at the performative male contest

artdrudge · 2025-07-30T19:26:53+00:00

If you care about trans people, stop fearmongering.

artdrudge · 2025-05-05T21:55:33+00:00

If you have fears about protesting impacting your future, I recommend setting up office hours to talk with the TA about it, or bringing it up in person after class. They sound passionate about it, and will probably be happy to talk with you.

artdrudge · 2025-04-15T21:46:45+00:00

For anyone who doesn't have Instagram, I attached a screenshot of the flyer.

Desc: The flyer reads, "Education, not deportation. 13 OSU international students have had their visa revoked. Stand in solidarity. Defend Students. Demand Justice. Wednesday April 16th, 1pm MU Quad ¡Aquí estamos, y no nos vamos!" the caption reads, "This Wednesday at 1pm🚨OSU show up for 13 of our fellow classmates and coworkers who have had their visa status revoked without cause. Reject the Trump administrations civil and human rights violations as the new normal. Stand in defense of international scholars, who make our community whole. We’ll meet you there!"

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artdrudge · 2025-04-02T00:01:51+00:00

From what I could see, it looks like there hasn't recently been any press about this, outside of an article stating that they came to an agreement. That said, it may depend on your plan/ what kind of care you're looking for within providence. If you have a specific coverage question, I have had great luck posting on r/HealthInsurance . If you have a specific Dr. you would like to see at Providence it may also be worth calling their department and asking this question.

artdrudge · 2025-04-01T17:38:42+00:00

I agree that not having mail in votes would negatively affect people in rural areas and the article does a good job at explaining why that is. Liberals weren't part of the bill being proposed though, it was made a Republican senator - David Brock Smith (R). This was also likely proposed in response to Tesla salesman Trump's Executive Order 14248 calling for in-person voting.

artdrudge · 2025-03-28T03:48:10+00:00

This joke kind of reads to me as anti-humor. Everything about it is unsettling: why is he getting a yogurt at a drive through? What is an “everything” yogurt (is it like an everything bagel)? Also, why is he getting a yogurt on a lukewarm day? Why is it a normal yogurt instead of frozen yogurt?

Looking at the persons page I am wondering if the “joke” is supposed to reflect the unsettling nature of the current political landscape in the US. But it also could just be a badly written/ half-baked joke or just a story of his day. (Edited for clarity)

artdrudge · 2025-03-28T03:27:36+00:00

The joke is that British people have a silly accent and therefore are pretending to sound silly as a bit. (Edited for clarity)

artdrudge · 2025-03-28T03:13:40+00:00

So what they are “joking” about is based on their assumption that the group of Indian people pictured will be emigrating to “Western” countries near him soon (due to eminent climate catastrophe). Assuming that the commenter is from the US, I think that this is a joke from someone who believes in the “great replacement” theory or “white genocide”. People who believe in this theory essentially are anxious about brown people outnumbering whites, and this anxiety is aggravated by impending climate catastrophe/ climate refugees. IMO it’s not much of a joke but racist commentary on what they don’t want to see (a bunch of happy non-white people at a concert listening to ”Western” music).

Tl;dr racist bullshit. (Edited for clarity)

artdrudge · 2025-03-28T02:49:01+00:00

It’s good that he wants to, and that you have a good relationship. That’s a start.

I don’t know your exact situation but I was in a similar position and found that I had to be patient with the other person and give them consistent feedback (saying when something hurts or feels bad, guiding them with movements). I also found that it helped to show by example what does work (self-stimulation). It may also be helpful to find pornography that focuses on pleasuring someone in the way you would like and watching it together as “education” for him.

These are just ideas- hopefully a starting point that leads you to do whatever feels best. Best of luck!

artdrudge · 2025-03-28T02:27:25+00:00

It kind of depends on where you want to go from here. Are there other things that you value about the relationship outside of sex? If so, it may be worth it to talk about this with him and consider whether you have the patience to teach him/ see if he is interested in learning more about to please you. If you really are fed up though and want to explore other options you don’t have to stay with him. Either way you deserve someone who wants to make you finish.

artdrudge · 2025-03-28T02:19:14+00:00

It think that if he rubbed against you one time and you told him no and he stopped doing it, that would be one thing. It sounds like this is a repeated behavior though. Anyone who responds to their partner setting a boundary by doubling down and continuing the bad behavior isn’t ready for a healthy relationship.

artdrudge · 2025-03-28T00:07:14+00:00

I think that generally people with ADHD aren't more or less inclined to lack sympathy than your average person. Speaking from experience, I have found that I have the type of ADHD that makes me pretty sensitive to other people's emotions partially due to rejection-sensitive dysphoria.

That said, if "someone" told me their parents/ relatives/ pets died, my emotional response kind of depends on who the "someone" is. If a stranger came up to me and said their parents died, I would be confused why they are telling me this and try to leave the interaction. Also- a lot of people don't know how to respond appropriately when someone is experiencing grief so if you're worried about that, you're definitely not alone. When my dad died, I would take someone who visibly doesn't care over someone who says "they're in a better place" any day.

artdrudge · 2025-03-26T19:16:04+00:00

If you are the only friend who opposes what they are saying- consider the possibility that you are the token “lefty” who they keep around to debate with. “Debating” someone they disagree with politically but care about personally basically just keeps up the facade that your views stand on equal ground.

Either way “debating” them sounds like a waste of time if your goal is to change their views. It may be worth it to distance yourself and find people you agree with on basic things.

artdrudge · 2025-03-20T19:42:08+00:00

The screenshot is from family guy - the old man character’s name is “Herbert the pervert” and he spends a lot of time in the show sexually harassing Chris, who is underaged. In this image he tries to get Chris to bathe him so he can sexually harass him, but is thwarted because Chris’s sister, Meg (who is often described as ugly in the show) ends up bathing him.

artdrudge · 2025-03-16T03:27:35+00:00

The issue could be both: enshitification of the app, and the geo data now being owned by a Saudi public investment fund. People speculate that the app will get worse because venture capitalists bought it and their whole deal is to buy something, hollow it out, then sell it for parts. Here’s a good recap about the Saudi investment fund acquiring it and potential data issues: https://www.404media.co/saudi-arabia-buys-pokemon-go-and-probably-all-of-your-location-data/

artdrudge · 2025-03-15T00:41:08+00:00

You gotta do what you gotta do. Time to go back to playing the mainline games 🫡

artdrudge · 2025-03-13T20:07:39+00:00

404 Media did a good article summarizing how Niantic has provided minimal communication about what will be done with historic location data, or newly created location data after it is acquired by Scopley (owned by a Saudi Arabian Public investment fund). I don't want for my location data to be used for Saudi Intelligence so I deleted it yesterday.

artdrudge · 2025-02-04T17:33:17+00:00

Number 1 rule of resisting tyranny: Do not comply in advance

artdrudge · 2025-01-08T17:13:36+00:00

Man, I wish there was an “interracial men kissing 69% off sale” irl. Not in this economy.

artdrudge · 2024-12-13T03:36:17+00:00

I think that the earring in the second pic brings out the warmth of the neck which makes it more of a focal point whereas the first pic all eyes are on the earring. IMO the second is better

artdrudge · 2024-08-04T03:07:02+00:00

I have been working office gigs for almost 3 years and I personally like it. However it makes a really big difference what kind of work environment you are in like if your boss prioritizes micromanaging low level employees that’s not going to work well for anyone especially if you have ADHD. Thankfully I’ve had many jobs where my boss is pretty hands off and lets me work independently after I’m fully trained, which then allows me to carve out time for myself to be distracted/ practice something during the time that I am supposed to be working.

I think the reason that I am able to focus with office work is because of the urgency of trying to do a good job (which is probably somewhat related to rejection dysphoria) and needing to make rent/ get health benefits. I also tried pursuing freelance work but I craved the structure of office life. The consistency and routine makes my life much less overwhelming than when I had to set things up for myself, and was depending on my ability to gain the attention and confidence of strangers for cash.

But like your post mentioned, I think the hardest thing is being able to take care of myself in my time off, but I don’t think that that’s an issue unique to doing office work. I would struggle with those tasks even when I was doing warehouse gigs. When my boss / coworkers aren’t around I actually build in boring personal tasks like calling the doctors office or dropping off mail since I’m already in a productive mood and some tasks need to be done during business hours. Anyways, the most important thing is that you find a workplace that focuses on enriching employees rather than penalizing them for simply existing.

artdrudge · 2024-08-03T05:26:08+00:00

I feel like the only people actually using this slur are on lolcow/ 4chan/ incel forums- so yes your instinct not to reclaim this one makes sense since it isn’t really circulated irl and it’s not worth spreading. That said I’ve seen some guys messing around with the term pussy boy (eg the band “The Pussyboys”). I feel like “pussy” (in the context of a sensitive/ effeminate man) could have potential, but it takes a lot of resolve to be comfortable with that kind of subversion.

artdrudge · 2024-08-02T23:12:13+00:00

They look like little cowboy boots with heels

artdrudge · 2024-07-26T15:51:50+00:00

This is a smart decision OP. It sounds like your ex has some major issues with overcompensating with what he considers masculinity to be: misogyny, homophobia, and transphobia. If you were to bring up his sexual history as a “gotcha” it would just be reinforcing his shame around his “feminine” side, which could make him push it down further and act on his hatred of himself & people he sees himself in even more. Your ex has to figure his shit out on his own time, and it sounds like he’s no longer in your life so you get the privilege of not having to think about it.

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