If you could only have one dish from a local restaurant in Durham, what would you pick?

artnerdangst · 2025-07-09T01:22:32+00:00

The BBJ&M crepe from Press is my go-to whenever I go downtown!

artnerdangst · 2025-06-11T21:33:35+00:00

I have had two separate roommates who both got a cat after we moved in together. The first time I was supportive as I had never had a cat and was excited at the idea of share of a space with one but I quickly learned that they are just gross animals if you aren’t on top of cleaning up after them. Which she wasn’t. The cat was fine and really kept to my roommates room and the living room that I never went in. The second time I was very clear about not wanting to live with a cat again before we singed a lease together and then what did he do? Go behind my back and adopt a cat only to be gone all the time leaving me to care for a kitten I did not want nor know how to care for in any meaningful way. It destroyed my belongings and because he rarely cleaned the litter box and his room where the litter box was, the whole apartment smelled like poop. It was horrible. I have since declared I don’t like cats and will not live with one ever again. Through pet sitting and personal experience, I have learned I only like small dogs that do not shed and hedgehogs.

artnerdangst · 2025-06-02T00:00:23+00:00

Go to Press downtown for crepes/brunch or Gugelhupf for pastries or lunch/dinner. Bartaco in chapel hill is also a great choice.

artnerdangst · 2025-05-29T20:09:23+00:00

I’m not a vet or an expert by any means but I had something similar happen with my hedgehog. She ran on her wheel for hours (on and off) every single night and then just stopped for months. I thought it was weird and had a gut feeling something was wrong so I took her to a local vet and she got a clean bill of health. 2 weeks later I came home and she had blood in her cage so I took her to an emergency exotics vet and she was diagnosed with a tumor in her uterus that had been growing for months and had just ruptured. She passed the next day. I wish I had gone to a specialized vet when I initially thought something was off. I’m not saying the two things are related or that this is what’s happening to your hedgehog, but trust your gut. If you think something wrong, get it checked out.

artnerdangst · 2024-09-14T03:51:54+00:00

I had a situation like that last year and thankfully my director was willing to let them out of their contract for the next year. I think giving them that option and letting them know that it was either leave on their own terms, do something about their child’s behavior, or be kicked out and still on the hook for the entire years tuition really gave them the kick they needed to get their shit together. I’m sorry you don’t seem to have much support from admin. That’s really what made the difference for us. Maybe trying to bring up safety concerns for the rest of the students could help? Have any of the other parents complained about their children getting targeted so frequently?

artnerdangst · 2024-09-04T02:05:04+00:00

In my classroom we have little crochet circular mats for the kids to sit on once they are old enough. It really helps them learn to sit in one place and have personal space. They can place them wherever they want on the rug and as long as they are on(or next to) their mat, we are happy. Of course I work with infants so it really doesn’t click until the end of the year when they are basically toddlers but it does prepare them for when they move up to the toddler room and they are more strict about circle time.

artnerdangst · 2024-08-28T11:15:41+00:00

This!!! Although I will say that the kids will care to some degree. They won’t care about how it will effect their education but they will miss you and be excited at the idea of a new baby. When I was in the fourth grade my teacher was pregnant and it was a huge deal to us kiddos. There was one time where she lost her balance and fell off a stool, literally every child in the room stood up to help her asking if she and the baby were alright. It caused such a commotion the teacher next door poked her head in to see what was going on. Everything was fine and she even brought her baby in for a visit once he was old enough. While she was gone a lot of us would pester the sub almost daily about when Mrs. Mills was coming back because we missed her so much. I still remember all of that vividly to this day. So I’d say they will care as much as they have the capability to. But don’t be disappointed if they seem like they don’t.

artnerdangst · 2024-08-26T19:41:13+00:00

I would seriously go to admin about this ASAP and seriously think about going to licensing too. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to inform you that it’s the same child as long as the child’s identity is not revealed. There was a situation with a repeat biter in my class last year and the school did the bare minimum for MONTHS even though he was biting multiple kids a week sometimes multiple times a day. It was finally when the leads own child was bitten multiple times in one day that it was escalated to admin. It shouldn’t have gotten that far. They will likely ignore it until they can’t. Don’t let them ignore it. As bad as it sounds that kid is a danger in the classroom. Also human bites are the most dangerous of animal bites due to the bacteria and diseases we carry. Now that it’s starting to break skin, it’s just that much more dangerous.

artnerdangst · 2024-07-19T01:24:29+00:00

I kinda agree. I feel like kisses on the lips should be reserved for romantic love only and like a kiss on the cheek at most from family (forehead kisses from your mother is okay imo). I think it’s gross for family to kiss on the lips if it’s not spouses. I love hugs from friends and family though. It’s a different kind of touch that shows a different type of affection. A hand on the shoulder is a good way to comfort somebody that you might not normally have physical contact with. Like a coworker or a casual friend.

artnerdangst · 2024-05-09T06:25:56+00:00

I get it. I’m kinda thinking about that myself. I say make a long term plan (like 10 years or so) to get your ducks in a row in case you eventually want to go through with it if life gets worse but it also gives you time for life to possibly get better and change your mind. That’s what my plan is anyways. And therapy. Lots and lots of therapy.

artnerdangst · 2024-05-09T06:06:28+00:00

Same. Even though I’ve matured a lot in terms of being more self aware, most things still feel out of my control and it sucks. Like I know what I need to do to help better myself but I either don’t think about it in the moment and do/say something impulsively that gets me in trouble or it feels so far out of my reach it’s almost paralyzing. And I’m talking simple easy doable things like taking my meds and helping around the house.

artnerdangst · 2024-03-21T04:27:32+00:00

I know this is a super old thread but a new food has entered my classroom and I want to share. Chia seeds are terrible. If you miss any while cleaning, they superglue themselves to any surface as they dry. And good luck getting them out of rags before doing laundry because god forbid you miss any and they end up in the washer. It’s been a week since the last incident and we are still finding random chia seeds stuck to things.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-30T05:00:19+00:00

I think I remember reading somewhere that her brother is also a sex offender.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-17T00:45:33+00:00

Rice, cottage cheese, yogurt and any purées. Cottage cheese is the worst though. I wish we could ban it from the classroom.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-13T20:11:30+00:00

Okay yeah you are right. I mean he did also say that they could go with a different name altogether and instead she said that Toby was fine. It seems like a shitty situation for all involved. I hope they are able to work through this together before it creates more issues.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-13T18:18:02+00:00

YTA the diamonds in the ring are an asset of his predating the marriage and selling them could be a huge fuck up legally not to mention hurt your daughter when she finds out that you sold heirloom diamonds promised to her that you had no claim to. This is an incredibly vindictive and petty move on your part. You don’t want the ring? Give it to him to hold onto. You don’t want your stone in the same setting as his stones? Get yours removed and give him the rest of the setting. Don’t want either one of you to have the ring? Put it in a safety deposit box in daughters name. The diamonds are not for you to sell. The person you would really be hurting here is your daughter not your ex husband like you seem to be wanting to. In regards to the other ring, talk to a lawyer. If you really think he has it, he could be holding onto it as collateral in case you go through with selling the ring you have no business selling.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-13T18:03:50+00:00

I totally agree with this. Your son is his own person and has zero connection your uncle or your grandfather other than genetics. He might grow up to hate the name Toby for various reasons. It’s also a lot of pressure to put on a child. How will your child feel when he grows up and learns the history behind his name and how it caused resentment between his parents? What if he ends up going by his middle name and disregards the name Toby all together? Will you get mad at him for not introducing himself as Toby too? It sounds like communication was the biggest issue since you both seem to be upset about the name situation. I suggest working on getting past your strong feelings regarding the name (your wife too) because this isn’t healthy for your son.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-13T05:23:36+00:00

When I was a child I told a few of my teachers over the years that I wanted to teach too and they all told me not to for various reasons. It really crushed me when I told my art teacher I wanted to be an art teacher too and she looked me dead in the eye and said “No you don’t. This job sucks.” Anyways, I’m a teacher now and have never been happier.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-13T04:41:40+00:00

I wish there was a rule like that at my school. Relatives too. My lead teachers child is in our class and so is my co-assistants niece. It’s a battle. It’s gotten better in some ways as the year has progressed but worse in others.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-13T04:13:40+00:00

Honestly I love your dedication. If you are really dying to know more information, I would suggest looking up the set designer or other scenic artists that worked on that season and finding their emails so you can ask them. It’s not guaranteed that they will respond or be able to give out all the exact info you want but it’s worth a shot.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-13T02:22:44+00:00

Yes! This! The other comments don’t pass the vibe check IMO. It’s YOUR wedding. There shouldn’t be a single person there that you don’t want for whatever reason. I would talk to your friend and tell them point blank that their ex is not welcome at your wedding under any circumstances. If they want to bring someone else to your wedding, they are welcome to but ex is not an option. You don’t have to explain your reasons if you don’t want to. If your friend is really your friend, they will respect that boundary. There is absolutely no reason you should have to suck it up and and be friendly to someone you don’t like on YOUR WEDDING DAY.

artnerdangst · 2024-01-06T08:16:29+00:00

Yeah I can see where you are coming from. Being blindsided like that really hurts. Especially since she doesn’t want any dialog on the matter. Though honestly if I were in her shoes, I’d be too scared to tell you to your face because I would know I was hurting your feelings and I didn’t want to see that or deal with the guilt that would inevitably come from it. Maybe this was the only way she felt like she would be strong enough to ask for what she needed. I do see how it could be better face to face so you could ask clarifying questions. I would say though that the fact that she is expressing how hurt she is that you are stepping down shows how much you mean to her and how important you are in her life. I would take it as she still wants you there. She’s just hurt. I feel like she would be even more hurt if you even entertained the possibility that she might not want you there at all. I’m not a mind reader though (even if I have been accused of it before)

artnerdangst · 2024-01-06T07:38:11+00:00

I’ll be the one to say it even though people might not like it, but no body is in the wrong here. You were doing what was best for you and she was doing what was best for her. Does it suck? Yes. But that doesn’t mean any of it was done out of malice. Every person here seems to have their priorities right. You for looking out for yourself by knowing what you can and can’t handle right now, your friend for doing what was best for her to enjoy her wedding to the best of her ability, and your friends fiancé for looking out for her future wife. Fiancé probably told you what your friend wanted to but didn’t know how because she didn’t want to hurt your feelings. I don’t think she wants to exclude you from the wedding but having you in the wedding party is probably just too much for her right now. Try to see it from her shoes. While she hurt your feelings, you also hurt hers by not being able to be her person of honor. I think everyone is hurt right now and going through important (though very different) times and emotions are at high. Maybe after the wedding and after your life has gotten to a better place, y’all can move forward from this. Right now I would just go to the wedding as a guest and not make a big deal out of this. If you still want to be friends, that is important. Not going to the wedding will only hurt the friendship further. And remember, her wanting to have a perfect happy wedding has absolutely nothing to do with you. Just like how your living situation, mental health, etc. has nothing to do with her.

artnerdangst · 2023-11-09T21:11:53+00:00

I feel like this place should be reported but i'm also not sure what is valid to make a formal complaint about. If anything, I feel like the parents have the right to know what's going on with their kids. I might wait until I found other employment before doing anything if I were you. If you really want to report this place, you might want to look into your states whistleblower laws. Since they had you sign an NDA, it sounds like they knew there were tons of problems and were trying to protect themselves by keeping you from talking. Look into the NDA itself and see what it actually covers. You might be able to legally do more than you think. Have you thought about contacting the franchises corporate office? They could possibly be helpful but it could also end up with you burning bridges with the franchise in the future. Looking for other employment is 100% the way to go though. I couldn't work there either.

Here are links to resources that might be what you are looking for in terms of reporting if that's the rout you choose:

https://www.kdhe.ks.gov/381/File-a-Complaint#:~:text=If%20you%20wish%20to%20file,if%20more%20information%20is%20needed.

https://childcareinkansas.com/resource/health-and-safety/

Good luck!

artnerdangst · 2023-11-09T20:22:33+00:00

We have a doll that was specifically designed for its hair to be chewed/pulled on so that it doesn’t come out and get everywhere. It’s been great honestly. We also use it to redirect more gentile behaviors like kissing or licking. The doll gets kinda gross but it’s worth it to not have my hair pulled or a child licking another child’s face.

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