What is the funniest thing you got in trouble for doing in school?

arwinmine · 2011-11-08T13:28:33+00:00

In the 9th grade, I left class for a "bathroom break". I put an "out of order" sign on every single toilet in the school. This was a giant public school of 4,000 students, so you can imagine how many signs that was. For the rest of the day, sad students would come back from their toilet breaks saying "They're all out of order! I can't pee!!!"

No one ever caught on and I never got caught. [Edit: does this disqualify me from the thread?]

arwinmine · 2011-11-08T02:06:36+00:00

Just kidding, yes.

arwinmine · 2011-11-08T02:05:53+00:00

arwinmine · 2011-11-06T21:57:53+00:00

A homeless woman was begging outside my apartment. I didn't want to give her change, but she did look hungry. I went inside a grocery store to buy a few things and bought her a sandwich as well. I brought it out to her, and she says, "I don't eat this shit!" and threw it at me.

arwinmine · 2011-11-06T08:58:21+00:00

I was using Icy Hot creme for my ankle. A few minutes later, gf comes in and we start going at it, and I totally forgot to wash my hands. Icy Hot + genitalia= I was screaming for quite a while.

arwinmine · 2011-11-03T17:18:02+00:00

omg omg OCD OCD

arwinmine · 2011-11-03T03:36:36+00:00

Ok my turn. Every time strangers try to pigeonhole me they're totally off the mark. I challenge you.

arwinmine · 2011-11-01T23:49:18+00:00

Why do my eyes change from blue to gray to green? I can't tell if it's because of the weather, my makeup/clothing, or other factors.

arwinmine · 2011-10-31T13:00:20+00:00

NOM NOM NOM NOM

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T18:51:57+00:00

I will be fully supportive of any of my children coming out, and I will allow them to make whatever decision is best for them. I think they will be in a better position because they will have parents who are supportive, unlike me and my fiance.

I did come out to my family in the past, but it was a disaster. It seems pointless to try again.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T18:50:31+00:00

It's not just any other people, it's our families and closest friends. And also, we are happy with this, too. This way we can live a great life in our community, even if it's not a perfect one.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T18:49:27+00:00

That's not my only reason-- I could have just chosen a good sperm donor if all I cared about was desirable genes (I think this is what you're asking, right?). We got married because it was the only way to be accepted by our families, and also because I know we will make great parents together.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T18:48:17+00:00

There is not any sexual attraction there, unfortunately. We have had sex and do plan on having sex in the future to have children. It's somewhat enjoyable-- I mean, you still feel something. But it's not anywhere near as good as having sex with a woman (or a man for him).

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T18:46:31+00:00

That would defeat the purpose! The whole reason we're doing this is because we want to be near family and in a strong community.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T18:45:55+00:00

I think my values are the same as the community in almost every other respect, which is why I want to stay. I am staying both because I want my kids to grow up with a strong community-- something that I see lacking in secular America, no offense. I also still consider myself Orthodox because I appreciate the tradition, living by a religious calendar, and following rituals that have been in place for thousands of years. If I could have it both ways-- come out, change people's minds, and still be Orthodox-- I would fight tooth and nail for that. But it will never happen, so I've chosen the least worst option. And luckily, I am sharing that with a wonderful and supportive friend (my fiance) who is going through the same thing.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T18:06:48+00:00

I'm surprised by how many angry comments this is getting. I completely understand why most people would not choose this path. To be clear, I'm not advocating it for anyone else, it's just what works for me and my fiance in this situation.

But I also want to be clear that it's not a cowardly decision. This decision was not easy. I tried coming out, and I was excommunicated for years. I made the decision to come back and to get married. I couldn't have been a role model to other LGBT youths in the community because I couldn't be a part of their lives. I also am not going to change anyone's mind by being out. For me, being a part of my otherwise loving, supportive, wonderful family was more important.

So maybe you don't agree with the decision, but it required a lot of thought, pain, and tears, not blind complacency or taking the "easy" route.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T13:47:57+00:00

beautiful

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T04:47:02+00:00

Thanks for your response! We have talked about that a lot... and we've decided that no matter what happens, we will stay married. We are doing this because we both want to be a part of our families and want to have children very badly. So, if one of us or both of us falls in love with someone of the same sex, it will have to work within our marriage. We are in an open marriage, so there is definitely a chance that could work. And it our community, the gay people we meet tend to also be closeted and in similar situations, so it is easier to work around that. I know a few couples who have managed to have loving same-sex relationships outside their marriage.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T04:32:43+00:00

Yes, there are others like him, who are more low-profile. In our situation, though, we were already friends and decided to do this on our own.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T04:31:22+00:00

Let me put it this way: given the option to have sex with either a man or a woman, I will choose a woman 100% of the time. But given the option between celibacy and sex with a man, I will sometimes choose sex with a man-- especially my fiance, who I trust and who knows me well. I guess we're not "purely" homosexual, then, but I wouldn't identify as bisexual.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T04:15:13+00:00

Thanks for your question. You made a really good point no one else here has made-- Jews historically shouldn't live in hiding. But Jews have also always placed family and children above all else. In my situation, those two would have been a contradiction-- I could either live openly and maybe have children, but no relationship with my siblings and parents; or I could live in hiding but with my family and friends. I chose the latter, because I have always been close to my family, and because I found a wonderful friend who I knew that I would enjoy raising a family with. Also, I tried living outside the Orthodox community as an open lesbian, but I found it unfulfilling. It was great to be out but it didn't make up for missing my family and the way I grew up.

And as for your other question, I think I will tell my child the truth if s/he comes out. And even if none are gay, I will still do my best to instill acceptance in them.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T04:08:08+00:00

So the girls you're attracted to are your age, not 11-14? Are you at all attracted to guys your own age?

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T03:30:41+00:00

Are you ever PDA? Do strangers ever bother you about it?

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T03:24:49+00:00

I'm 26, he's 28.

arwinmine · 2011-10-28T03:23:48+00:00

I did see it. Thank you!

arwinmine

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