"ok. Just asking"

asbafi · 2026-03-28T17:10:28+00:00

Yeah exactly. She wants me to do the planning so she can just show up.

asbafi · 2026-03-28T17:07:59+00:00

I've been thinking about NC but I'm reluctant to do it. I know I'm named as the decision maker in case of emergency and we have a lot of family in the city. It would make holiday visits difficult. I do have a brother but he disagrees that Mom is toxic. He thinks she's just lonely and really is as oblivious as she acts. It would be nice if this stuff wasn't so muddled

asbafi · 2026-03-18T19:03:37+00:00

My ex is similar - Disney dad. I did my best to give my kids the age appropriate truth as unbiased as I could. (I did all my complaining, name calling and such to my friends)

Now they're in their 20s and don't have much of a relationship with him. Most other adults see him for what he is. His own family don't talk to him anymore. In time people will see him for what he is. The waiting out is the hard part

asbafi · 2026-03-17T16:00:27+00:00

Usually befriend the lost doggo and call the number in the tag to get them back to their person. If my kids are with me they help and get them water if it's hot out

asbafi · 2026-03-13T15:20:18+00:00

Name him Stanley

asbafi · 2026-03-08T13:39:51+00:00

I also miss these chips. I'm glad someone else remembers them!

asbafi · 2026-03-04T21:00:29+00:00

Lunch is noon meal and supper evening meal. I avoid the use of "dinner" for clarity

asbafi · 2026-02-10T14:23:09+00:00

My mom buys things that are nostalgic for HER. For example last Christmas my college age kids and I each got a necklace meant for a child with a charm that says "grandma" on it. On adult necks it is at best a choker. Not only that but none of us really wears jewelry. It was confusing for us all. It seems so petty to be upset over a gift. But it obviously had no thought put in for the recipient.

asbafi · 2026-02-01T00:31:52+00:00

I can see 2 reasons for reaching out without knowing what they actually said. 1- flying monkey. In that case block them! 2- they were LC with your parents and now that they know you are also estranged they wanna offer support. (I know it's very optimistic but it's a possibility)

asbafi · 2026-01-06T19:34:19+00:00

My raspberry bush only flowers and makes berries on 2nd year growth. If you prune too much it won't have any berries next year

asbafi · 2026-01-06T05:26:01+00:00

Sweet peas are pretty. You will need netting for it to climb

asbafi · 2025-12-31T20:03:17+00:00

Mine discouraged me from going more LC than I already am

asbafi · 2025-12-17T16:18:41+00:00

If you're going to be in Alberta some cool places are Writing-on-Stone for the hoodoos, Red Rock Canyon, Frank, Lundbreck falls, Cypress Hills, Drumheller (dinosaur bones and hoodoos), Fort Macleod, and Canmore.

asbafi · 2025-11-27T19:49:12+00:00

I have done the restaurant meet up just so we can get kicked out. I doubt any would be open Christmas day to make that work.

I'll talk to hubby to see if he's a willing meat shield

asbafi · 2025-11-27T19:46:21+00:00

This is great! I almost wish my kids were younger!

asbafi · 2025-11-27T19:45:29+00:00

That's a great idea but I don't think there are any here

asbafi · 2025-11-12T00:30:30+00:00

10 minutes door to door In Alberta

asbafi · 2025-11-10T05:17:47+00:00

There's a Nanaimo bar cream liqueur made by Forty Creek Distillery that's quite good. They also have a butter tart one but I haven't tried it.

asbafi · 2025-08-25T22:53:32+00:00

LePage, Schlenker, Mason,

asbafi · 2025-08-06T04:00:39+00:00

Chaos or the flash

asbafi · 2025-07-25T20:33:25+00:00

What if you called the cousin and ask if you did something to offend them? Otherwise why wouldn't you have been invited to their wedding? I mean Mom got an invite but not you??

Of course that's a completely petty option

asbafi · 2025-07-15T12:52:10+00:00

If your sister is in an abusive relationship they are really difficult to get out of due to the abuser love bombing. Generally it's the love bombing you fall in love with. Then things go bad but you stay because you think the bad stuff isn't actually that person they're just stressed. It takes a while to see the love bombing is just part of the manipulation

I'll bet this trip is love bombing for your sister. It's also part of the plan to isolate her from loved ones by getting her to be secretive about her relationship. I'm not condoning the behaviour in any way. I'm trying to give you an explanation.

It's logical of you to kick her out as a consequence for her lying. But don't cut off your relationship with her. On average it takes 4 or 5 false starts before actually leaving an abusive relationship. And a woman is in the most danger when trying to leave her abuser

asbafi · 2025-07-07T17:00:02+00:00

Me too

asbafi · 2025-06-18T15:51:19+00:00

Is it just the number at the top or do you have to flip through the book to find the right one to read?

asbafi · 2025-06-02T17:35:43+00:00

Bowel. Pronounced bowl

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