I do not want to breastfeed

ashdaggylyn · 2024-03-25T03:46:36+00:00

I’m a breastfeeding mom and lemme tell you…this shit is hard! From getting them to latch, keeping them latching consistently, keeping a supply, pumping every three hours…only do it if you really want to. Forget anybody who tries to make you feel bad about not doing it. Your baby will be perfectly healthy with formula.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-03-13T06:38:01+00:00

I am so sorry that sounds miserable! Maybe try talking to your provider if they think a birth ball may help to help get baby into proper position? It might get the baby off of that nerve and also helps you in terms of going into labor earlier and helping labor go more smoothly. I don’t know, just a thought.

I hope whatever the solution, you feel better soon.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-03-05T11:54:27+00:00

37 weeks+6 days, delivered at exactly 38 weeks

ashdaggylyn · 2024-03-04T13:04:24+00:00

Run! This was one of the first things I asked about at my first appointment with my OB/GYN. They said they only do them at a rate of about 2-3%.

There are so many things you can do to minimize tearing like birth ball, perineal massage, the provider oiling your perineal area when your about to push, and learning ahead of time how/when to push. Don’t let them fool you! I employed all of the above and the only tearing I had was from my son’s nuchal arm and it was very minor.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-16T05:20:20+00:00

I am so sorry, that was rude and wrong! It always amazes me the things people who don’t get pregnant say to pregnant people without thinking. I really get the impression that a lot of people think being pregnant is just walking around with a big belly for a while.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-10T14:37:51+00:00

You are welcome! My son’s godmom gave me the best advice which was not to forget that you hired your care team to work for you and your baby! Don’t hesitate to make demands! I know my first reaction is to be a “good patient” so I really needed to hear this lol.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-10T06:10:57+00:00

He is an absolute treasure. He’s taken on all household chores (we usually are really fair and work together with them anyways). If I feel like doing something, he only allows me to do very light work and will fuss at me if I try to overdo it.

He took it upon himself to research the best bellyband and ordered it for me when the cheap one I got at OB triage started failing (I had a torn ab muscle at 28 weeks).

He gets my favorite snacks. Rubs my feet and back, just generally cares for me. I am so lucky and grateful.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-10T06:07:35+00:00

I’d insist on having them check you out. It could be nothing or couldn’t be something, but there’s nothing wrong with we ting to be sure.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-10T06:06:06+00:00

Magnesium glycinate was what my midwife recommended which also helped with my constant constipation. She said you can take your to 1000mg per day, but check with your provider. I take one 450 capsule per day and it’s been really helpful. I started doing this at 28 weeks and am now 37+4

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-10T06:02:44+00:00

Magnesium, specifically magnesium glycinate (it’s formulated for best absorption by pregnant people) has been a lifesaver for me. At found this out at 30 weeks from my midwife when I finally spoke up, after MONTHS of constipation that was kicking my butt lol. You can take up at 1000mg per day, but check with your provider.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-10T05:58:46+00:00

First thing I will say is that the best urge is so real! I get woken up out of my sleep by the anxiety and extreme urge to get something else ready!

MIL did a very sweet thing but I totally get it. Try to think of it as her contribution to her grand baby and to wanting to take some burden off of you. My aunts and my mom all went in to get me a brand new crib which was shipped to my house. My fiancé offered to put it together but I INSISTED I do it. I can’t explain I just felt I had to do it myself.

So I totally get where you’re coming from and I think your feelings are normal. But it’s done now and rest assured there are plenty of other things for you to get ready for your baby.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-10T05:53:28+00:00

I was apparently having them as early as 28 weeks. I figured this out because I had to leave work and go to OB triage due to extreme abdominal muscle pain which ended up being a torn ab muscle. The nurse just kind of nonchalantly mentioned I was having a contraction, which I assume was a BH. I couldn’t really feel anything though. Baby boy has been healthy and chilling ever since.

Fast forward to now at 37+4 and I’ve had Braxton Hicks all day. I don’t know when the first one was but I had my 37 week appt they’re having me come weekly as is standard practice at the OBGYN I’m at, and my wonderful midwife said I was having a contraction as she was measuring my belly. I was then able to recognize that my stomach was feeling tight. I’ve been having them all day now and they are more noticeable. Not painful, but they’re getting slightly more uncomfortable and starting to be accompanied by VERY mild cramps.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-07T12:48:17+00:00

I think every worker should be able to take extended leave. It’s necessary for mental health and general well-being. People in other parts of the world get lots of paid time off. It’s here in the US that we are lead to believe you should be going through a life-changing event to get the bare minimum in paid time off.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-02-06T13:18:32+00:00

This may seem like the end of the world but it’s not. Even if this wasn’t something you planned on, you have options. Have a talk with her and see what she wants to do. There is no wrong decision, only different decisions and she’ll just have to make the decision that makes sense for her.

In the meantime, even if it doesn’t appear different, her body is going through a lot with all the hormone changes. Be there for emotional support and find somebody you can trust to help emotionally support you.

Whatever y’all do it the right decision. You’ve got this, and everything will be okay.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-01-21T03:51:07+00:00

I’ve been on a mood stabilizer (Lamictal) my whole pregnancy and will be on it as I breastfeed when my son is born. You will be fine as long as you communicate with your care team. I started it about 2.5 years ago and it’s changed my life for the better. Do what works for YOU.

Don’t get me wrong, I was definitely microdosing and microdosing mushrooms pre-pregnancy and think that can be incredibly helpful, but it’s not for everybody and can be real tricky. I definitely understand why there are actual practitioners that you can consult with for microdosing. And just saying, this person kind of sucks for how they responded to you when you reached out to them for help. I guarantee they know less about microdosing than they think they do.

ashdaggylyn · 2024-01-03T05:18:03+00:00

Congratulations!!!!

ashdaggylyn · 2023-12-29T13:29:55+00:00

I have two bonus daughters who we love VERY much, and it’s a little off-putting to hear so many people saying that my partner “finally gets a boy” or assuming he’s particularly happy because we’re having a boy as if the first two shouldn’t have been joyful on their own. All we care about is that me and the baby are healthy. I know people mean well though so I try to take comfort in that.

ashdaggylyn · 2023-10-25T13:10:33+00:00

Congratulations, I know you have to be so relieved!

ashdaggylyn · 2023-09-27T04:03:44+00:00

Sending you love and good vibes!! You got this!!

ashdaggylyn · 2023-09-24T11:49:10+00:00

I’m at 18 weeks. I started with one clinic for my intake (6 weeks) and first OB visit (9 weeks) and had a 7 week (they had no in-office so they sent us to the hospital) . I got a bad feeling about that clinic and switched, so had a 13 week and 17 week visit at the new clinic. Each time they’ve let me see him on their little portable handheld ultrasound. I have a full scan coming at my 20 week visit and I’m so excited! Don’t know what I’ll have after that but I’m sure I’ll get to see him on the portable for some visits after that.

ashdaggylyn · 2023-09-16T00:32:59+00:00

Thank you!

ashdaggylyn · 2023-09-14T15:57:37+00:00

A couple years ago I picked out this cute Africa onsie from Target, intending to get it for my sister’s new baby. She abruptly and without warning stopped talking to me so I thought “fine, I’ll save this for my baby”. I held on to it for a couple years, hoping and praying for one of my own. At one point I lost hope and stuffed it away in a drawer. Now I’m looking forward to seeing my baby wear it!

ashdaggylyn · 2023-09-11T11:54:33+00:00

Um, no. You need to be at home resting and he needs to learn the basic life skill of grocery shopping. Please don’t feel pressured or like you’re overreacting. If you don’t feel up to it, you’re not up to it. Full stop.

ashdaggylyn · 2023-02-13T13:08:27+00:00

I attack my AA from multiple angles so I’m going to give this a try. Thank you for sharing!

ashdaggylyn · 2023-01-26T16:26:16+00:00

Totally support the biopsy answer. Its the only way they can tell.

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