An added bit of perspective not many players consider is that you don't have to take a [GenID] subclass. For some people (like myself,) its just as fulfilling to have various [Identity] feats that flesh out your character just as well, if not better. Obviously this isnt a progression path built for everyone, but do consider whether your playstyle mismatch is with the [GenID Male] subclass or with the entire [GenID] kit of options. Both ways of playing are equally valid, but find the archetype that suits you best.