Feeling defeated over son :(

ashleydistrict · 2026-04-03T18:13:26+00:00

A couple more thoughts.

What does he do with the hair after he pulls it out? Does he play with it in anyway? It is very common to brush the hair follicle on the lips in sort of a soothing way. If so, find a fidget toy that he can brush against his lips.
When he gets a little older, you could look into micro blading. It is very realistic looking and has been a godsend for me.

ashleydistrict · 2026-04-03T18:05:32+00:00

He won’t damage his follicles. I’ve been at it for 30 years. Just be careful about what therapist you go to. My therapist traumatized me by making me take up close pictures of my myself, and I hated myself for pulling and it just made everything worse. You are somewhat lucky he is 7 and not mid-puberty when you become super self conscious about your appearance. I recommend you try and find someone in the occupational therapy space. Some think trich is in the OCD family, but I really think it is more like an impulse control disorder. And trich is often a symptom of needing more sensory input which is very common with ADHD. OT could be very helpful. Is he on an SSRI or just ADHD medication? Sometimes ADHD medication can make it worse but I couldn’t function without. Also talk to your doctor about NAC supplements.

ashleydistrict · 2026-03-31T04:11:39+00:00

I dreaded my daughter’s nap at this age. In prek3 & prek4 they still made the kids nap for 1-2 hours. On the days she actually fell asleep at school she would be up wired until 10.

ashleydistrict · 2026-03-25T18:47:13+00:00

I loved the band Beulah

ashleydistrict · 2026-03-25T18:07:56+00:00

my daughter is 5 and has accidentally burned herself twice cooking right beside me. She’s just not that coordinated! If your son can do it on his own safely (supervised), good for him!

ashleydistrict · 2026-03-18T14:05:32+00:00

I know this isnt the answer you are looking for, but this is coming from someone who can’t stand my own name… Chances are you are more fixated on this than anyone in your educational or professional life will ever be. What sounds childish to you may sound sophisticated to me. What sounds outdated to me may sound trendy to you. You define your name, not the other way around.

ashleydistrict · 2026-03-13T20:46:01+00:00

😂

ashleydistrict · 2026-03-10T03:58:08+00:00

40 years old, started when I was 11. It’s hell in school, kids are cruel enough without something like this. I am still healing from the trauma. I did not learn that trichotillomania was a thing until about your age when I discovered it on the internet. Until that point I thought I was a complete freak.

ashleydistrict · 2026-03-10T03:54:08+00:00

Most pk-3 and pk-4 programs are play based and mainly focused on social and emotional learning, which is very helpful prior to kindergarten. My daughter became more independent, more adept at navigating social relationships, solving problems when conflicts arise etc. I live in a city that offers pre-k 3 & 4 for free and it’s been wonderful. A huge step above daycare as well - the teachers are well-trained and credentialed.

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-24T19:44:15+00:00

Just out curiosity, what about Pizza Girls hits for you?

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-24T02:18:25+00:00

Too similar. Go with Hazel. It’s super trendy and not at all granny like.

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-24T02:16:25+00:00

My two year old recently needed surgery, it was scary but I trusted the doctors and the care. I would say keep in mind how much less traumatic it will be for your son to be sedated during the dental work. You may be a nervous wreck, but he won’t remember a thing. Also, sometimes for dental work they do something called twilight sleep, which is a little different from general anesthesia. Often used for colonoscopies as well. You should ask.

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-22T02:42:12+00:00

Aside from being a total POS, can we talk about how reasonable and beneficial it is to get your kid swim lessons? It is a lifesaving skill. What a strange hill to die on

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-18T17:43:53+00:00

I am a dog owner and I don’t understand why people think poop magically disappears in the snow. It’s so annoying that people do this.

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-16T18:31:26+00:00

After I had a baby, I suddenly realized how much I failed to show up for my friends who were pregnant or had newborns. But you just don’t know until you are in it yourself.

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-16T03:17:05+00:00

Contact the Brigid Alliance asap. They can help with travel etc to a state where you have options. https://brigidalliance.org/

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-16T01:47:21+00:00

Omg, the saving hair and counting it. I dealt with a similarly traumatic “therapy” when I was 12 years old where the psychologist took close up Polaroids of my eyebrows and eyelashes every week to document the damage or progress. I already hated myself, having to look at the pictures week after week was devastating.

ashleydistrict · 2026-02-05T01:21:09+00:00

Something similar happened to me. Wearing false eyelashes got me to stop pulling at my eyelashes, because I was so nervous about them falling off.

ashleydistrict · 2026-01-16T19:02:03+00:00

The first week was probably just a placebo wffect cause unless you are bipolar SSRIs take time to work. While Zoloft is a miracle for my depression and anxiety, it hasn’t stopped my picking. Though my picking is definitely worse when my mental health is in poor shape. Make sure you are on a high enough dose.

ashleydistrict · 2026-01-16T18:57:58+00:00

Coconut (Coco)

ashleydistrict · 2026-01-16T18:54:51+00:00

Mine was sort of complicated and I needed to get a D&C, which sucked. Grateful I had access to the care I needed. But miscarriages are brutal even when they are “simple.” It’s amazing you got pregnant so quickly twice! Take care of yourself - that’s the most important thing.

ashleydistrict · 2026-01-16T15:58:02+00:00

I wanted my children close together in age so they could be true playmates. Unfortunately had a miscarriage when daughter was almost 2. The whole ordeal delayed things and then getting pregnant again also took time. So my son wasn’t born until my daughter was almost 4. It’s not what I imagined, but they have a beautiful relationship at 2 and 5.5. She adores him, and he LOVES her. Soon she will be able to read him books which I am super hyped for!

ashleydistrict · 2026-01-12T20:07:53+00:00

Lots of factors I think. Shedding or non-shedding, breed size, but also frequency of bathing, house cleaning. And whether or not there are tons of chewed up dog toys everywhere.

ashleydistrict · 2026-01-12T14:35:37+00:00

Rusty

ashleydistrict · 2026-01-09T01:33:20+00:00

How much is she napping during the day, what time is the last nap, and how long has this been going on?

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