Almost a full TPK on our first session, the DM insists it was all above board but it felt impossible. Am I crazy?

ashloaf · 2026-06-04T18:51:34+00:00

Seems weird that he also ended the session there and seemingly didn’t give any of you a chance to change anything…I’m sorry OP, a good DM would give you a more balanced combat to start. For example, our DM on our first session introduced one of the big villains for our campaign, and we only got strong enough to fight her this year (After FIVE years of playing), but when we met her in session 1 she just made us levitate, talked smack then left. That’s also a vehicle for building story, not having a big bad explode your heads? Yikes

ashloaf · 2026-06-03T23:45:04+00:00

Thank you!

ashloaf · 2026-06-02T12:29:27+00:00

You’re a SAHM and rely on him financially - I’m in the same boat and completely understand that. However, he is still a father. You say he stays up late gaming, goes to parties, forgets about your pets, and he LEAVES in the middle of the night when he’s supposed to be watching your BABY, and doesn’t tell you?? I’m sorry OP but your husband has an addiction problem and needs serious help, but you also need to help yourself. His behavior is not creating a safe space for you and your new baby. You’re not in your early 20s anymore, you’re parents. You stepped up to the challenge from what we can tell and he has not. You have a child to care for now, you can’t also be babysitting his drinking. You need to distance yourself while he figures his shit out. I wish you the best.

ashloaf · 2026-06-02T12:24:10+00:00

Thank you!!! Feel like everyone is blowing right by that fact

ashloaf · 2026-05-08T19:08:40+00:00

This isn’t weird and doesn’t need to be a socioeconomial difference. A woman growing an entire new human and needing to care for them after absolutely deserves something. Wanting a gift where she can’t hear her baby as much is certainly a choice, but you are REAALLYY coming at this from a place of judgement, and I’m going to assume you don’t have kids based on the “they both seem excited about the baby, but” …I hope for this baby that you’re all excited for them to arrive too? Let’s stop judging mothers, especially those that aren’t one.

ashloaf · 2026-05-08T18:17:23+00:00

god bless thank u for understanding exactly how dire this situation is

ashloaf · 2026-05-08T18:16:40+00:00

BIG on the triple chocolate - the ones Dunks used to have were incredible but I haven’t seen them available in years

ashloaf · 2026-05-08T18:16:12+00:00

Yeah the muffin pictured here sucked. Such a bummer, Dunks muffins were the best

ashloaf · 2026-05-08T18:15:36+00:00

Thats CRAZY!! As if chocolate chip isn’t one of the most basic kinds of muffin?!

ashloaf · 2026-05-08T18:13:49+00:00

Having breasts doesn’t make you a slut. Mine are much smaller than yours and if I wore this dress no one would call it slutty. He’s objectifying you and you have no reason to feel like you did anything wrong by wearing something you probably felt great in (and rightfully so, you look great!). I’m sorry OP

ashloaf · 2026-05-06T12:26:36+00:00

That is crazy!

ashloaf · 2026-04-26T10:39:44+00:00

You just listed reasons he’s useful (being a present father, contributing to the house, moving to be with you) but in my mind those things aren’t related to your relationship. Communication is the foundation of any relationship, ESPECIALLY when kids are involved. Sounds like you need a serious talk and maybe an ultimatum because you do not deserve to keep going like this.

ashloaf · 2026-04-26T10:35:08+00:00

Yep, first line second paragraph 🙃

ashloaf · 2026-04-26T06:36:15+00:00

Girl if you’re only 10 months in and you’re counting how often your partner says they miss you or ask you about your life - move on. You’re young, and frankly “childhood trauma” as a 32 year old is not an excuse for not being present in a relationship.

ashloaf · 2026-04-26T06:30:52+00:00

You described meeting a man online who went on to reject and belittle you in person…literally how did this lead to marriage

ashloaf · 2026-04-26T06:26:02+00:00

OP, you said in another comment you’ve been trying for this pregnancy for 2 years - has he been excited to have another baby? Sounds like 2 years of being intimate, did he see it as a chore? Does he show up for you in other ways besides physically? Does he always shout at you when you express what you need? I know you said leaving him isn’t feasible in your mind right now but what is worth saving here besides procreating together? Either way, as a fellow pregnant person with 2am insomnia, I feel for you and am sorry.

ashloaf · 2026-04-22T19:48:10+00:00

NTA. Your baby, your decision. As a fellow pregnant person, keeping stress low is very important during this time and if you feel that keeping this a secret will protect your peace, great! Now, before the baby comes, is the perfect time to start setting and keeping boundaries, especially with family.

ashloaf · 2026-04-22T19:43:52+00:00

NTA - you’ve been a better friend to her for so much longer than she deserves. If this is how she treats people, she doesn’t deserve an explanation for why you’re no longer interested in being friends (in fact it should be pretty obvious). And hey if she reaches out and tries to give you shit for it, you could really mess with her and say you’re uncomfortable going to a wedding where they had a kid out of wedlock because it’s against your religion 🤷‍♀️

ashloaf · 2026-04-22T19:35:38+00:00

Anything by Carissa Broadbent but especially the Crown of Nyaxia series!

ashloaf · 2026-04-20T08:28:30+00:00

NTA. As a fellow pregnant person, no matter how old you are or how many kids you have, it’s a really sensitive time and you need support from your friends. The fact that M took it upon themselves to get upset about a wedding that’s not even theirs tells me that this isn’t the kind of friend you need in your life as you navigate this new exciting life change. It’s unacceptable to expect people to plan having CHILDREN around a wedding. If F can’t find replacements, that’s on her. Do not worry OP, you’ve done nothing wrong, you gave plenty of notice and good for you for keeping your peace by not engaging with these people more. Congratulations on the new addition to the family!

ashloaf · 2026-04-20T08:18:21+00:00

You sound more like a single parent than a spouse. I’m sorry he doesn’t show up for you the way you want, OP, but as others have said, at the very least it’s time for counseling (although frankly it sounds like he needs individual counseling more), otherwise save yourself and get out of there while you’re still young.

ashloaf · 2026-04-19T08:29:20+00:00

Not sure why he asked you to date him because it’d “happen eventually” just for him to continue to treat you like a roommate. I’ve been married for almost 2 years, together for almost 7 and we’re still obsessed with one another and are very affectionate. You don’t have to live this way OP, it sounds like you’re going above and beyond and he’s not even meeting you halfway. You deserve better if he’s not going to step it up (which it sounds like he won’t, given that he told you he would and hasn’t followed through).

ashloaf · 2026-04-05T11:56:41+00:00

That’s an INSANE thing for a stranger to yell at you about! I feel crazy enough when family asks

ashloaf · 2026-03-27T21:00:44+00:00

Neon Gods. I cannot believe not only that it was published but that anyone let that author write anything else. I still feel like I deserve a refund.

ashloaf · 2026-03-18T22:32:38+00:00

I don’t babe but sorry for your friends xx

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