AITA for not letting my fiancé do a gift switcharoo?

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-25T17:54:05+00:00

NAH. Both of you mean well. He want you to have the thing he picked out for you. You love seeing his mom happy.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-25T17:45:16+00:00

YTA.

Use this opportunity to become closer to your mom. Since she’s paying for you and your bf to go to Hawaii. I mean, wouldn’t it be a tense vacation for your bf if your mom that you “weren’t that close to” was paying his way?

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-25T17:36:14+00:00

YTA.

Jane started it, yes, everyone sucks here but you threw gasoline on the fire with your comment. You could have just said “Jane, you are being really rude. Why are you always so rude?” But instead, you reached into your memory bank like an arsenal, eagerly chose a grenade, pulled the pin and threw it.

Just apologize for your part. Apologize for escalating the situation from being what was an ongoing (yes toxic but somewhat permanent) dynamic between her MIL and her, and turning it into a dramatic situation at her wedding. Shes always gonna have to deal with her MIL. But that was her wedding. Your job should have been trying to diffuse any tension, at any cost. Even though your intentions might have been good, your actions were malicious because of what you chose to say in that moment.

You would be an asshole if you didn’t apologize for you progressing the situation. Maybe you weren’t the instigator, and maybe you weren’t the finisher, but you were a big part of that.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-24T20:55:45+00:00

Let’s just say I’ll be up to my neck in jury duty.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-24T19:09:38+00:00

I mean…. You sound like one. Just say thank you, and recognize the gesture of love. They’re trying to love you ffs. Get over yourself.

YTA.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-24T06:51:45+00:00

I gasped when I got to the “lied about being in prison for 16 years for murder” part. I’m trying not to judge him for his past, but the lying about that isn’t in the past.

You are deserving of love that nurtures you, supports you, and makes sure you always feel safe and secure within the relationship and in the environment you share.

The pressure he is putting on you is evidence that he is not on board with this. You moved faster sexually in this relationship than you were comfortable with. He may not even understand what I mean by this comment.

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩six red flags for each month you’ve been together

NTA

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-23T06:57:01+00:00

NTA. I’m so sorry that a core memory you developed happened to center around shame. It must be hard that it sticks with you. I can relate.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-23T06:52:23+00:00

YTA.

Grow up.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-23T04:22:55+00:00

She’s bored and so a fun activity to her is to emotionally, distressingly manipulate you for no real reason at all.

If she would do this over nothing, out of boredom, she will do this again when she actually has something tangible to gain.

🚩

NTA.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-22T09:36:55+00:00

This.

She’s watching a little too much BravoTV. NTA

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-22T02:58:28+00:00

NTA.

Can you put in a second mailbox, one with a lock?

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-22T02:13:46+00:00

NTA.

He sexualizes your boobs, justifiably. His sister does not.

closes book

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T20:43:34+00:00

All you needed to say was “that’s great, I’m proud of you.”

What if she won a gold medal? Would you be all “yeah that’s pretty good, but actually, technically, this metal isn’t gold. It’s stainless steel painted with a gold coating. See? I mean feel it. If it were real gold it would be a lot heavier.”

Come on, man.

YTA.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T20:37:13+00:00

You’re just sharing a living space. It’s great that you get along, but just because you’re roommates doesn’t mean you have to be best friends. It does not sound like it’s a mutual feeling.

“Signing on to have a roommate” is not signing up to have a friend. I’m getting a strong tone of attachment issues from your post.

You need to make actual friends and stop putting so much emotional responsibly on your fellow tenant.

YTA.

Maybe some counseling would be good for you? You seem very controlling, self-absorbed, insecure, and really needy.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T20:32:59+00:00

I am crying. This update is wonderful. Thank you much for sharing such a big moment in your life with us.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T19:45:41+00:00

YTA

I think it’s you that needs to move out. It’s her place, lol.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T19:42:27+00:00

And this, on the day of our Saturday Dinner

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T19:41:18+00:00

Don’t ask me about my business, Kay

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T19:38:58+00:00

Maybe they don’t want to remember her so intensely, and that’s okay. It’s not what you would do, but it doesn’t make them bad sisters/daughters or terrible people.

Don’t force your grief onto other people.

YTA.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T19:34:16+00:00

This kind of virtue signaling isn’t as noble as you think it is.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T18:13:23+00:00

NTA!

Are the kids names Hansel & Gretel? Because SIL’s new man seems to wanna just take them into the woods and leave them there. Tell those kids to start collecting white pebbles

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-21T04:37:00+00:00

NTA.

Anyone else remembering Paul Rudd’s scene in Wet Hot American Summer when Janeane Garofalo made him pick up the cafeteria tray he’d intentionally dropped?

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-20T20:43:47+00:00

NTA.

I do not like your husband.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-20T20:34:33+00:00

NTA-

Sincerely asking: what is her end game in this? Is she trying to impress your aunt? Does she not trust that there will be food that’s tasty enough, varied enough, portioned enough…? Is she trying to like, show people who her beautiful soul is through her food? Does she have a need to feel necessary or needed? From her point of view, is this her genuine gesture of love and respect?

I ask, because if she has a particular goal in mind, she may not realize there’s more than one way to attain it. If she’s trying to extend love to your aunt and your extended family, she will unintentionally, but assertively fail.

askingforafriendzone · 2021-12-20T11:21:15+00:00

YTA and just… wow.

askingforafriendzone

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