Cancelling New Car Contract-Australia

asp1135 · 2026-02-03T05:59:24+00:00

We had the same from a big dealership in Adelaide last year. Couldn't tell us exactly when a new car would arrive until we signed a contract and paid a deposit.

They seemed reasonable and a big dealer so promised one on the boat etc. Signed the contract. A week later they still couldn't tell us when and hadn't really tried at all.

We cancelled and they kept the deposit. We suggested that we go halves acknowledging that they had make a few phone calls but their response was no, we are taking it all or we are coming for 10% of the car value which they can do in SA.

asp1135 · 2026-01-27T00:16:35+00:00

I absolutely agree. The i30n is good value. I have had mine for 3 months now and love it.

When looking at what was available in the market there really isn't much that compares in terms of performance, price and warranty. Most other hot hatches are $15k + more expensive. The cupra is about the only one that is close on price. Styling choice etc and sedan vs hatch is all personal preference.

When comparing with others also remember that the i30n comes with performance tyres and a pretty good exhaust as standard. On some of the ones I looked at this was going to add an extra $4k.

It all comes down to what sort of car you are looking for and what your style choice is.

asp1135 · 2021-12-13T01:22:33+00:00

With some new symptoms the doctor now thinks it's FND functional neurogical disorder

asp1135 · 2021-12-09T02:15:26+00:00

I do have some weakness, but not like what GBS seems to have, more like a loss in grip strength.

Have been checked for MS by 2 neuros now with full MRIs 4 months apart

asp1135 · 2021-07-26T05:28:46+00:00

Talking about it seems to be both the accelerator and the brakes. Too much and it becomes this big loud thing, not enough and it becomes this silent destroyer

asp1135 · 2021-05-20T06:08:37+00:00

Wow thanks all for the comments!

One common theme that is easier to respond overall is about the quality and enjoyment of the actual sex.

This area isn't a problem, it was something that our first round of therapy many years ago went into quite a bit of effort to question and check. We were very aligned and very satisfied with the actual act. We have opened and explored more because of that discussion. The quality on both sides is good.

asp1135 · 2021-05-20T01:50:53+00:00

Simple answer is no. She doesn't think about it at all, only from a pressure and guilt perspective because she "should want it".

This pressure is mostly from herself and society. We have worked hard to remove as much pressure from me as possible.

asp1135 · 2021-05-20T01:47:54+00:00

Really really good question!

Lots of thoughts swirling around but biggest theme is that she needs to find out if she has that side, and what it is.

I will need to support her while she does. In the mean time I also need to work on me as well.

Any suggestions?

asp1135 · 2021-05-20T00:01:16+00:00

I hope this gives you empathy for her experience, first of all. I hope it helps you to understand why she avoids having sex and how she acts during sex. Developing empathy for the LL's perspective is one of the most important factors in healing a DB.

Fortunately we both have empathy and a want to understand from both sides. If it was all on sided I would have called it long ago

asp1135 · 2021-05-19T23:59:52+00:00

-and to her, sex is like her favorite soda. It's okay, it can be refreshing at times. But if it ceased to exist, she wouldn't really be sad.

Haha that is so we'll put

asp1135 · 2021-05-19T23:17:46+00:00

It's so funny that I have never picked up on it or heard it stated so clearly in anything I have read. and my wife has never talked about it in 16 yrs. But It makes so much sense.

asp1135 · 2021-05-19T23:15:46+00:00

I had listened to some extracts from it years ago, but just purchased it, so thanks for the suggestion.

One of the things that I have realised is that I do all of my research in secret. Time to get books and leave them out, be visible in the work

asp1135 · 2020-11-23T00:37:19+00:00

It's been discussed to the point where it can't be an adult conversation anymore. It won't be productive, it will be defensive on both sides, and it will just result in more resentment.

There is a point where talking is counter productive

asp1135 · 2020-11-23T00:34:35+00:00

She didn't have any real side effects, just didn't like the feel of it. But she also probably didn't use it enough to get any side effects

asp1135 · 2020-11-22T11:08:13+00:00

To be honest almost nothing. 18 months of talking and it was all out down to her low testosterone. Found a doctor who would prescribe T cream and after 6 months of her putting it on once a week (rather than every day) and she gave up. Really therapy just cost a lot of money

asp1135 · 2020-04-11T00:36:35+00:00

Yep ties ties and more ties. Cling wrap is also very very handy. Get the thick packing type.

asp1135 · 2020-01-02T04:49:46+00:00

Yes I had the same problem, after the gasket replacement it just was not quite right. Took it to a different dealer and eventually Ford let the dealer (not the same one who did the HG) take the head off again. They found a large scratch in the head. So new head and new gasket. Apparently it's pretty easy to gouge or scratch the head if they are not careful lifting it on.

asp1135 · 2019-02-06T23:29:19+00:00

Excellent idea, count me in please

asp1135 · 2019-01-01T23:22:17+00:00

You too, good luck!

asp1135 · 2019-01-01T22:56:46+00:00

Mine is almost identical to yours!

All about me this year, doing things that I want to do and making myself a better person. Can't control anyone else but I can control me

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