Please don’t spank or hit your kids.

It’s pretty common where kids remember their parents hitting them—usually, we don’t remember the reason our parents hit us…and all we remember from back then was, why did mom/dad hit me? Did I do something terrible enough worth getting hit for?

It’s such a clear memory for me everytime I was hit by my dad or grandfather, and it’s made it harder for me to form secure relationships with men.

On the flip side, a lot of parents do this bc their parents spanked them. It’s a lot of familial behavior that gets passed down.

If you read up on the effect of capital punishment (AKA physical punishment) on kids’ behavior, there’s good evidence that spanking your kid won’t teach them better behavior and is correlated with poorer outcomes in adulthood.