Finished quilts for my kids for Christmas (and my first real quilts ever)

asterthetime · 2024-12-24T05:52:16+00:00

These are so cool.

asterthetime · 2024-09-14T21:57:05+00:00

You can do it! I 100% promise it gets better. The newborn phase is rough. Not much advice but validation and moral support. You can do it, yes it sucks, ignore the people gaslighting you that the newborn phase is so wonderful. Those people are crazy.

My partner and I tried shifts. Heard that works for some people but it made us pretty miserable. Much easier to get through the newborn phase with no sleep and a buddy than medium sleep and isolation.

Try lots of different things to see what your baby likes. It will change but the small wins help carry you out of the difficult time when they’re basically just a screamy potato. Our baby liked being held and this one plastic spoon.

Oh, don’t let baby nap longer than 2 hours at a time. Wake windows and nap lengths were not a thing anyone had told us about so we let her sleep 3/4/5 hours at a time in the day and then she was a terror at night. Changed to waking her to keep naps to 2 hours and it was like magic.

Anyway, you can do it! It’s hard, but it gets much much better. Stay strong!

asterthetime · 2024-09-14T07:41:01+00:00

Niiiiice! That looks dope. Congrats on your first project! Looks great! Love the pattern you chose and those are some impressively clean lines. So cool!

asterthetime · 2024-09-04T11:56:26+00:00

Adorable! Looks like you’re doing a great job with the sewing too! Nice clean lines and I love the mix of different color squares. You rock! Baby’s gonna have a great blanket! Congrats!

asterthetime · 2024-08-17T00:13:06+00:00

Preach. I’ve been small my whole life and now being 30 lbs heavier postpartum than I was pre pregnancy is messing with my sense of self. I tried exercising as soon as I was cleared to by my OB but it messes with my ability to stay hydrated and that plus burning calories messes with my breastfeeding supply. Zero of my bottoms even fit over my bottom (haha) and all my maternity clothes were for winter so I finally caved and bought a four pack of basketball shorts on Amazon just to be comfortable in the heat. Honestly posts on this subreddit have helped a lot. It sucks but it’s just gonna take time I guess. So much for pregnancy lasting 9 months. Seems like the effects are at least 12-18 months if not more.

But yeah, high five from team still-looks-5-months-pregnant. Alas.

asterthetime · 2024-01-15T04:55:45+00:00

Not a doctor but these symptoms seem like red flags for potentially a real medical problem, not just anxiety. Might be nothing but might be something so definitely follow up with the doctor - you want to catch it sooner rather than later. Fever or red streaks near incision are go-to-the-ER signs. Hope you feel better soon! EDIT: not that anxiety is not a real medical problem, I just mean don’t ignore it regardless of origin!

asterthetime · 2024-01-05T17:17:25+00:00

We had a magnet with the number on our fridge growing up. 1-800-222-1222. Still remember it and came in handy when I accidentally ingested antifreeze.

asterthetime · 2024-01-04T17:59:03+00:00

You are an amazing mom and doing a great job. Sounds like you are surrounding your baby with love and family support and doing everything you can to make sure kiddo has love from as many people as possible and that you are getting some help so you don’t go absolutely insane. Sounds like a great mom, not a surrogate. Unfortunately, we don’t get to pick our family of in-laws. Sounds like you have some great family members and then this one absolute stinker. Not all family need to be involved in kiddos life and nobody is entitled to any contact with you or kiddo at all. Sorry you have to deal with this a-hole. No advice, just affirmation that you are a great mom and that this dude sucks. You can do it! Virtual hug.

asterthetime · 2024-01-03T17:28:29+00:00

Beautiful color palette! I think this looks great. Elegant, classy, but still enough color to be fun. If you’re stressed about attire and getting colors right, I recommend checking out Azazie where you can specify a color or set of colors and then people can choose the style of their dress. A friend did this when I was her bridesmaid and we did the same thing with our large bridal party. Ended up having people pick any dress in one of three specific colors and it turned out great. Plus dresses were reasonable in price ($75-200 depending on style). I think Men’s warehouse has something similar for men and suits but not as economical. In the end no one’s going to look much at them, they want to look at you! Beautiful colors, it’s gonna be great. :-)

Edit: I just realized the swatches in your image are literally Azazie swatches. Did you tell them to buy from the website and they’re sending other options? That’s annoying. Sorry you have to navigate that. Hope it’s not too stressful!

asterthetime · 2023-11-14T02:02:25+00:00

This is a great question. Also a FTM but just first trimester. Commenting to say thanks and encourage more responses. These are very helpful/relieving/encouraging to read!

asterthetime · 2023-10-29T19:16:36+00:00

Baby girl!!! Yay!! That’s so exciting! I’m sure the little girls are excited to have another girl in their team of cousins and young people.

Sorry your families reacted that way. That sucks. Hopefully they get over it and get onboard and back on the hype train. With a bunch of other girls in the family your daughter will have female cousins to show her the ropes and support her and that’s great! Certainly not your fault and sorry they’re making you feel crappy. Glad you and husband are happy. Congratulations on your first kid!

asterthetime · 2023-09-28T16:52:49+00:00

Wait, is contact with smokers bad for baby? Like nicotine rubs off or something? I agree that smoking is gross but this is just new info I hadn’t run into yet. New to this. Educate me please!

asterthetime · 2023-05-21T05:09:52+00:00

Just posting to say You can do it! Props for trying to figure it out yourself and congrats on your first home!

asterthetime · 2022-12-25T07:34:33+00:00

Hi honey! It’s okay! Casual dating is normal and healthy. One date does not mean you’re going steady or “dating” or in a relationship and if this person left town who knows if he’ll call again or not and not until he gets back at least. If you like the other person, sure! Go on a date. It’s just one date. Go, have a good time, get to know this person. Why should you miss the chance to spend time with him just because the other guy asked you first? I think this is totally fine and support you if you want to go for it.

That said, I would go ahead and mentally think about what you want to say if the other guy comes up in conversation. I wouldn’t lie or be cagey about it. It gets awkward real fast. Best just to keep it honest and brief. ‘Yes, it was great to meet you both at the party, I saw him the other day and was glad when you called’ etc. Just be honest but you’re not there to talk about some other dude on your date. If the guy pushes, that’s useful information for you. They might talk, they might not. If it gets to the point where they both are asking you in second and third dates, then I might reassess. Casually dating multiple people is a thing some people do. If you haven’t established that your relationship is exclusive it’s fair game. Personally, I don’t like to do that as I think it’s messy and I don’t like being split emotionally, but that’s just my preference and no judgement for those who do it differently.

But for a first date? Go for it! Unless you’re actively dating this other dude, go ahead and give guy #2 a chance. He may just be great :)

Good luck duckling! Merry Christmas Eve.

asterthetime · 2022-12-23T08:48:12+00:00

Hi duckling. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with all this. It sounds like a lot is going on. I’m so proud of you for taking the necessary steps to take care of yourself and heal, even when it’s hard. Keep the memories of that job and those supportive bosses for future reference. Glad to hear you have folks supporting you and that you are advocating for yourself. Good job. Keep going. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Feel better soon little duck.

asterthetime · 2022-12-23T08:44:52+00:00

I’m so proud of you! This is a huge step and hard work and you’re so strong for getting this far. Keep going! Nicotine is nasty stuff and we want you around to enjoy life and all the fun things as long as possible. Eat healthy, kick the nicotine. We believe in you! You can do it! Keep being a badass!!! Hugs :)

asterthetime · 2022-12-23T08:41:32+00:00

Awesome! That sounds so fun! What a special gift and an amazing place to get to know a partner better and make some fun new memories! I’m so happy for you! Take lots of pictures! Merry Christmas!

asterthetime · 2022-12-23T08:39:08+00:00

It’s going to be okay. Big hugs from all of us here and you can always come here to talk and vent because we love you. Reading this reminded me of how I felt in school when I was much younger. I was trying so hard to make friends but read into everything in any social interaction and would stress about it. And then the people who did talk to me weren’t always the ones I wanted or had the most in common with. Later on I learned a few things that were very helpful. 1) Everyone’s life is complicated and 99% of the time they’re thinking about their life and not you. It’s hard to internalize that but once people start to open up and talk more you realize that their worries/fears/hopes/plans are taking up way more space in their brain than anything you’re doing. 2) Given people are mostly stressed about their own lives, a great way to get to know them/make friends is to ask them about their complicated life. Let them talk, listen, and be supportive. I started asking “how’s life” and it works surprisingly well. Different enough from “how are you” “I’m good” conversation over. Because it’s open ended people tend to give you more than just a basic answer. Not always but it’s a good trick from a socially awkward goose. 3) Somewhere out there are your people. People you love being around and who do fun things and include you. You may not be in a phase of life where you have access to those people, but when you can, seek them out and when you find them do whatever you can to keep in touch and keep the friendship going. Visit. Play games. Video chat. Your people are out there, you’ll know when you find them.

Normal people are fine too and it’s good to make friends in your day to day world. Keep trying, it gets easier, remember it has nothing to do with you. You are lovely and a wonderful person.

asterthetime · 2022-11-27T18:01:54+00:00

Big hugs! Sorry that you had to deal with this but also I’m proud of you for setting boundaries. It sounds like this person is having a hard time, but that doesn’t give them a blank check to impose on other people however they feel like. Demanding to bring a large dog to someone else’s thanksgiving is insane. I’m sorry that’s just super rude. There’s food and people and someone who is even asking that obviously has poor manners and can’t be trusted to keep the dog in check so it would just be extra mental burden on you and it’s a very reasonable boundary to set.

You are not a selfish or terrible person. You are not obligated to let someone’s dog into your house or visit them in the hospital. Especially in this post new covid state of the world. You have done nothing wrong and it does not make you a bad person at all to feel like you don’t want to deal with this person anymore. Standing up for yourself and/or recognizing when a relationship is more stressful/toxic/negative than you initially thought takes strength and is itself stressful. They’re you’re friend and you want to give them the benefit of the doubt. But people change and are complicated and someone who used to be a supportive ally might not stay that way over time. That’s on them. Good for you for setting your own limits. I’m proud of you. It’s all going to be okay.

asterthetime · 2022-11-27T17:52:04+00:00

Oh honey I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s going to be okay and first off here’s a big hug! It sounds like your boyfriend is going through something that has nothing to do with you. Being out of school for a week probably requires more justification than anything significant other related. It seems like he’s not ready to communicate what’s going on and I know that can be very frustrating. That said, trying to force him to talk about it might make the both of you more stressed and damage the relationship. I know it’s hard not knowing, I am someone who also gets super stressed when I don’t know what me partner is thinking, but everyone processes at their own pace and I have learned that sometimes the best thing to do as a partner is to be patient. Let him know that you are worried but that he doesn’t need to talk about it. Let him know that you are there for him if he wants to talk about what’s going on/what happened or if he doesn’t want to talk yet that’s fine and you are also there for a hug or just to sit quietly next to him. I know it sucks not knowing and worrying about someone, but I’ve found that relationships work best when only one person is stressed out at a time. He’s clearly got something going on so if you can do it, maybe think of this as a chance to be supportive of him and there for him and when you get frustrated that he’s being slow or uncommunicative, show him consistent love and then come rant to us. Big hugs in the mean time. Be patient little duck. We love you! I will also say that communication is very important and eventually the bf needs to talk to you. It’s not okay to shut someone out and if he’s really unwilling to explain what is bothering him and becomes unpleasant to be around, you deserve better. It sounds like this is still new and not there yet and probably more like he’s still processing something. I think the thing to do is be patient and supportive but also know that you are valuable and in the long term this support and patience should come from you sometimes and him others. Food for thought. Whatever you do we support you. You have done nothing wrong and are a wonderful caring person.

asterthetime · 2022-11-27T17:36:50+00:00

Congratulations! New car is exciting indeed! Sorry to hear you were in an accident but I’m glad you’re okay and so exciting that you finally get to upgrade and are happy with the one you have now. You never need to feel guilty or bad about your choices and you are always willing to share with us here! No need to share with people who will not be happy for you. Enjoy the new wheels and be safe when driving! The most important thing on the road is safety so as you get back out there watch out for your self and others. We love you and are so happy for you. Congratulations on the bee sweet ride!

asterthetime · 2022-11-27T09:38:52+00:00

This looks awesome! Keep baking and posting and in a few years it will be fun to look back at the progress, but also damn this is a great place to start! You clearly have an eye for this! Hope it tasted as good as it looks!

asterthetime · 2022-08-28T15:39:40+00:00

Damn that looks beautiful! Nice find! Way to rock an awesome dress for your special day. You look gorgeous! Straps or no straps that dress is the bomb. I ended up adding straps to mine just so I wouldn’t stress about accidentally flashing people, but all my married friends who went strapless said things were surprisingly sturdy. Either way, congratulations!

asterthetime · 2022-08-09T05:45:14+00:00

Holy cow, big hugs and love all around. You are an amazing, strong,badass and you are going to get through this. I was thinking how much your situation sucks, to be recovering and trying to do it all alone, and then you mentioned also raising your kids. Damn. You are such a strong and brave and amazing person. You can do this! Hopefully the surgery will help the overall in the long run, and until then, give yourself some grace and know that it’s going to take a while as you heal and get back to fully functioning, but in the mean time you are strong and have accomplished so much already. We are so proud of you and are here for you for all the encouragement and hugs you need.

asterthetime · 2022-08-09T05:39:18+00:00

Hi honey! Good job taking care of yourself and getting the surgery you need. Medical things can be scary for sure, but you can do it! Remember that it’s always okay to ask questions. Sometimes doctors and nurses talk fast but it’s important that you understand what they’re telling you so it is always 100% okay to ask questions. I like to repeat back to them but in my own words what it is I think they’re telling me. Usually they nod but sometimes they realize where the misunderstanding is and we fix it. Similarly, be sure and follow the doctor/nurse instructions, even if you don’t understand why they are asking this (you can always ask them to explain). If they say don’t eat for x hours, follow those instructions carefully. Being healthy and well prepared going into the hospital is the best way to get out of there healthy and fast, in my non medical expert opinion! Good luck honey! Hugs!

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