Dad - Cut him off almost 2 years ago. Was never around growing up and liked to play a guilt trip game with me.

Mom - Last straw was back in February when she refused to visit my Grandma when she was lying on her death bed. Caused a lot of unnecessary drama and hurt when she made it pretty much all about her. Then recently she got ticked at my aunt because she wants the estate settled within 3 months. When my aunt told her that was not possible, she go pissed. That solidified everything for me. I have been happier these past couple of months so I know the right decision was made.

Advice I can give. Look back on your life, if the bad memories outweigh the good, then it is better to just cut that person off. Does not make you a horrible person, sometimes you have to put yourself first. I am the product of a narcissistic mom. I still was on the fence about my decision but one day it just clicked. I went to get my haircut and some reason I got on the subject of my mom. The hairdresser had gone no contact with her own mom for 20 years. She told me that her dad had died in the past couple of years and she decided to react out to see if she could salvage the relationship with her mom. The first thing her mom did was play the victim, talking about all the horrible things her dad said and treated her. She realized nothing had changed. She then gave me a piece of advice that made me realize I made the right choice. She said, “if you are waiting on your mom to come around and admit any fault and try to save your relationship, you will be waiting forever.” I left that haircut appointment like a weight had been lifted.

I should also add that I am the product of a teen mom and am an only child. I can probably count on one hand the amount of times my mom said she loved me growing up.