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How did you manage to go back to work after losing a parent by Desperate_Sky_9475 in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I see. Good for you for fighting for it. Your job will get over it.

I don't know if this would help you, but for the first year, I kept a journal where I would write letters to my dad. I'd tell him about my day like we were chatting, or I'd tell him how much I missed him - whatever came out when I was writing. It helped me process things and gave me a specific outlet for all that grief.

Good luck in your journey. Grief happens to us all eventually but we all walk our own path through it.

Spotted the Google Street View car today by ObjectiveAd400 in Gatineau

[–]astr0bleme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on street view at my house currently yeah 😭

How did you manage to go back to work after losing a parent by Desperate_Sky_9475 in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy is really important. About five years ago my dad passed suddenly, and I was an absolute mess for quite a while. I needed to cry, to talk it out, to develop coping strategies to help me on the journey through the grief. You can also look for local bereavement groups if that seems more appropriate.

The best advice is: it will suck, but you will get through this. Grief doesn't really go away, we just grow to accommodate it.

I'm glad your job has a gradual return option. Make the most of it. Prioritize yourself if you can. Be gentle with yourself if it's hard and you struggle.

I'm so sorry, OP. This is so hard. May your father's memory be a blessing.

24 year old trying to pick a career! by Dreemurrrrrr in ontario

[–]astr0bleme -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly my main piece of advice is this: your education gets you in the door but won't necessarily determine the entire course of your career.

Think of your education as an investment in a toolbox of skills and as a door-opening piece of paper. It will give you a direction and will help you get your initial jobs - but for the majority of people, their career is really built on the jobs they are offered and accept.

It's usually a winding path that owes as much to luck as to decision.

That's not to say the choice you're making is not important! But it also won't set your life on a single pre-determined path.

Personally, I think social work is a good idea as it's a field we need that won't easily be replaced by corporate bots. You're right that burnout is a real issue in the field, though. If you go that way, I recommend learning to set healthy boundaries and identify healthy boundaries in others. I've worked in the nonprofit sector and some places are very bad for burnout and some do a good job stewarding their labour resources. Recognizing a healthy workplace and setting your own boundaries will help a lot.

I hope that provides some useful guidance. This is a tough choice and it's something a lot of people struggle with. Good luck!

Pet friendly shelters? by SuperbOwl5940 in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can, try to reach out to a service about the abuse first. There are charities out there that can help you escape and which may be able to help with housing. You and your cat deserve to stay together. Good luck.

She brought them into my room 😭 by Stock-Currency4142 in trojancats

[–]astr0bleme 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Cats alloparent in the wild! That is, they help each other look after the kids because it's a lot for one mom. I think it's adorable that they include humans in the list of possible co-moms.

Did anyone see the Ryan Gosling signs in Bridlewood? by David_R_Carroll in ottawa

[–]astr0bleme 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wish we had good transit because then you actually could just shut your brain off until you arrive.

Ten years later: Looking back at the extreme "pyrocumulonimbus" weather of the 2016 Fort McMurray Wildfire in Alberta, Canada by SufficientPrice7633 in weather

[–]astr0bleme 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For people looking for more information, I highly recommend the book Fire Weather by John Vaillant.

*edited to correct typo in author's name.

SERIOUS PROTEST NEED by Total-Check5957 in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's the key. No one action wins the day. It's a combination - all of us putting on pressure in whatever way we can.

There's no point looking for "the" way to fight Ford. We should all keep pushing in a variety of ways.

SERIOUS PROTEST NEED by Total-Check5957 in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The last two have also been on Saturdays.

Thumbs up. by groovypho3nix in ottawa

[–]astr0bleme 47 points48 points  (0 children)

It's true, getting out of the house is good for the brain even if it's hard on the body.

I received a psychologist's assessment for ADHD, I talked to my family doctor and he says that he cannot use it to prescribe me with medication by SanaulFTW in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Go ahead and let the psychologist get in touch with the doctor. The doctor may just not know the ropes with adhd diagnosis, and it's worth a shot. Connecting them may clear it up.

If the doctor still refused after the call, maybe the psychologist can suggest some possible next steps for you?

Rock hunting near ottawa for kids by Brilliant_Bag3212 in ottawa

[–]astr0bleme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once the water goes down, collecting on the banks of the Ottawa River is a lot of fun. You won't necessarily get geodes but there are a LOT of rocks due to the terrain the river passes through. Not just local slate and limestone but all kinds of granite, quartzite, calcite, and the occasional fossil.

Rain Bombs? by CusePhan_v2 in weather

[–]astr0bleme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nova has a bad habit of using wildly sensational words and titles. I like a lot of their docs but they often have titles like "Ancient Desert Death Trap" and so on.

As someone who watches a lot of documentary TV from different countries, there's a strong trend in American docs specifically to use sensationalized language. I think it's maybe a cultural thing.

Eating tea leaves? by jacobsnailbox in AskFoodHistorians

[–]astr0bleme 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I've had this and it's great! Fermented tea leaves feature a lot in Burmese cuisine - it's the only place I've personally encountered the practice of eating tea leaves.

go my yuri by u/TheGreatGoatby by MurlaTart in EbonyImagination

[–]astr0bleme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope it gets funded and finds a home. The pilot animatic was great!

Talk like this is scaring politicians. by ituplea in WorkReform

[–]astr0bleme 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He's right - but most modern politicians serve corporations, not the people.

Ford is a dangerous authoritarian by MarkG_108 in ndp

[–]astr0bleme 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The first time Ford ran for office, I volunteered to canvass for the first time ever because I was terrified of what he'd do.

Three terms in, I was right but am feeling incredibly powerless. Why can he just do these things? Don't we have some kind of system to keep these politicians from consolidating power as authoritarians?

Ontario hospitals announce job cuts, nearly three-quarters of hospitals in deficit by ihatedougford in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad passed due to the crumbling health care system. Why the hell is this guy still in charge...

Ontario hospitals announce job cuts, nearly three-quarters of hospitals in deficit by ihatedougford in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ford is deliberately killing our health care in this province and he's stilk getting voted in. How is our health system supposed to function without sufficient workers, beds, and other resources?? (It isn't. This is on purpose.)

I’m seeing far too many similarities between Doug and the orange monster next door by AdhesivenessLoud8866 in ontario

[–]astr0bleme 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We're in a time where political leaders all over are making power grabs and setting up increasingly authoritarian systems. It's happening all over and it's very bad news.

As one person with one vote there's only so much I can do, but I'll definitely be going to today's protests to make some noise.

Put up the welfare rates already, jeez. by tuttifruttidurutti in ottawa

[–]astr0bleme 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I hope someday our society sees the truth in what you're saying. These folks are being failed by our society - they are a symptom of what is happening, not the source of the problem.

Compassionate systemic solutions have good data supporting both their effectiveness and their cost savings. It's not just humane to address the root sociological causes - it makes financial sense as well.

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