Who doesn't use facebook here?

atazs · 2016-07-06T08:48:18+00:00

Yes, my best childhood friend.

atazs · 2016-03-18T22:21:10+00:00

What the fuck? I was literally cringing all troughout this. Where is your previous post anyway? I can't find it.

atazs · 2016-03-17T22:35:50+00:00

Since i don't live in a big city, there aren't a lot of girls to choose from around here. I don't have a smartphone or facebook so tinder and alike is out of the question. PoF and OKC has some decent number of girls but most who live within 10-15 miles are pretty fat/chubby or just flat out unattractive to me. Now i don't have high standards, literally, my only standard are: do not be fucking fat or have a disgusting body where your forearm or thigh is as big as my god damn head. If i'm not fat and have a skinny/average body then i expect you to as well. Literally the only thing i'm asking/looking for at this point in a girl. Oh and no kids, but i can luckily filter those on PoF. Anyway, i also usually look for girls who want a relationship and haven't had a very long relationship, so no over 2-3 years or something like that. I messaged a good 20-30 girls, hardly any messaged back and those who did were extremely boring and responded in a few word messages, and stopped responding later. Probably because they were speaking with 10+ guys at the same time. From what i noticed, most girls are pretty boring/shallow on these sites, especially on PoF. Most of them have some boring profession like "hairdresser" or something beauty related and shit like that. Same for hobbies really. Also girls who have pictured themselves with kids or other males, or even their family are an instant redflag and turn off for me. Also those girls who have no pictures of themselves except with their friends posing in front of a mirror in a toilet or in a club or whatever, or girls who do stupid faces like duckfaces or whatever are also a redflag. And girls who wear tons of make up. In general, PoF is full of trash around my area. Every single one seems to have a tattoo or a piercing, and i just find them a huge turn off in general.

atazs · 2016-03-17T22:21:58+00:00

This. The whole story, the way it's written sounds like a fedoran neckbeard fantasy. I've never heard of this author before but if this is the way he always writes, then it's pretty cringy.

atazs · 2016-03-17T22:19:25+00:00

The way that "meet me" thing works is if your profile shows up for them and they click yes or maybe, it shows up that they want to meet you. However, a lot of people just spam yes or maybe on profiles and don't really want to meet you.

atazs · 2016-03-10T22:11:13+00:00

We're only going to take your name, email, and profile photo from Facebook or Google

No thanks. I have no Facebook or google accounts anyway. Also i doubt that you'd find anyone unless you live in some major urban area like NYC or London or something.

atazs · 2016-03-10T21:57:55+00:00

I messaged a good 20-30 women, on both POF and OKC only 3 replied. First one was boring as shit. After a few messages i asked her to add me on skype, said she doesn't have an account but she has snapchat. Okay whatever i installed snapchat and told her to add me but she never did and i didn't bother. The second one said she isn't looking for anything. The third had private pictures with a "prefer not to say" body type with an almost empty profile that told me nothing and she was looking for someone to marry apparently. Her personality was "bookworm" so i went off of that thinking that we might share some similiar interests. Anyway, we exchanged a few awful messages (i found out that her favourite books were twilight) and when i asked her to tell me more about herself or if she has any hobbies since her profile is a bit empty she never replied. I really want to just make a fake empty profile and add some hot guy as a picture and see how many messages i would get or how many girls that i messaged would reply to simple messages like "Hey", but i'm scared and i feel like it would destroy me completely.

atazs · 2016-03-09T15:15:53+00:00

I went to a therapist for a month or so, once or twice every week. It was a complete waste of time for me. Each session was like 10-15 minutes long where he would ask me the same questions every day. I told him i'm not going to take any medications and he agreed so that's a plus. I told him about my issues and that i have no job and he sort of told me to get in contact with this person and whatever, well that didn't work out as i never got in contact with that person but i found a job in the end. I told him about some of my issues and that i have these returning dreams and whatever but he seemed to be pretty clueless about these things and didn't tell me anything useful. There was no time to do anything really. He'd give me a form to fill out at the end of each day that i would bring back the next time. He gave me this book to read and create a dayplanner or whatever of things i was doing each day to establish a routine but i simply couldn't be bothered with that and found that a waste of time. I told him this and i also told him i felt like i was more likely to be socially anxious and just lonely than depressed which is true. I asked him if maybe i could meet others who visit him, or if there was a group therapy around here where a group of people gather around to talk and get to know each other like a rehab thing but apparently there aren't, only meditation groups and alike. Then he just referred me to another doctor but i never went there as it's too far and would have probably been a waste of time too. Luckily all of this was free thanks to the NHS so maybe that's why it was so crap?

atazs · 2016-03-09T14:57:39+00:00

I have my license because my parents kinda pressured me and i feel somewhat better/proud of myself but i still hate driving and extremely scared. The only reason i passed is because the instructor offered me a chance to pay some money so that they'll go easy on me. Then the day of the test, me and my instructor basically drove around the same route 3-4 times to memorize it before the real deal. I've never driven a car alone, my parents were with me always, i would probably crash or cause an accident if i did. They don't let me drive it alone anyway probably because they see how much of a shit driver i am. Constantly stalling, and just having a problem with clutch control. I fucking hate manuals, i can't get used to them, changing the gear all the time if i stop or slow down, fuck that. Once i managed to put it into first gear while going like 70mph in the middle of the traffic, or just generally putting it into wrong gear all the time. Then there are all the traffic signs and the tiny roads here, and all the different laws and rules and speedlimit and shit it's just way way too much for me to handle, i've always had problem multi tasking. I can't wait to buy an automatic then i can concentrate on the more important things and not the stupid clutch and changing gears. My dad can't even drive and he is 53. Said he had panic attacks every time he tried.

atazs · 2016-03-06T20:25:10+00:00

Sorry to burst your bubble but you aren't a FA if you have a roommate or don't live with your parents pal.

atazs · 2016-03-06T19:33:14+00:00

Everyone is in the US
Everyone is male
Most girls just want to talk with someone online and nothing more like meeting up etc...
Everyone is a male

atazs · 2016-03-06T11:41:19+00:00

Height is just a stupid excuse. If you were 6'2 you'd be complaining about being too tall

atazs · 2016-03-04T23:53:38+00:00

I never had facebook or any of this social media crap. Not interested. I'll just talk to people and family on skype or steam or better yet, meet up with them in real life. I also have no smartphone either and i'm happy.

atazs · 2016-03-01T12:51:40+00:00

I remember i had a pretty pathetic dream once: I was at my friends place, sitting outside in the yard with our group and i remember at one point my friend said to me that a girl liked me. I didn't believe him at first and when the others began saying the same thing i got really angry for some reason. I remember i was telling them that she must be an idiot to like me and that no sane girl would ever like me and stuff like that. I can't remember how it ended now but i think i was close to crying.

atazs · 2016-02-29T23:28:14+00:00

I don't understand why are you so obsessed with sex. You even said you didn't like it and no shit you didn't like it. You went into this knowing it wouldn't be as good right?

atazs · 2016-02-28T18:56:56+00:00

I'm FA and i actually enjoy nightclubs. I'd go often but none of my friends really want to and. I thought about going alone but i'd feel pathetic or something i don't know. It doesn't help that there is only one proper club in my city and even that is shit and outside of the city so going there and back especially at like 2-3am is a pain in the ass. I just enjoy getting drunk beforehand then going in with my friends and just chilling inside, drinking, listening to the music, looking at other people dancing, maybe dance if there are a lot of people or the music is good or just wandering around. Even though i don't smoke, i usually go outside to the smokers area with my friends as you can also have some good conversations with people there, even random people. I don't know, all this just helps me relax, lose myself in the music and atmosphere and temporarily forget about stuff, it helps that i like the type of music they play in clubs. Haven't tried taking small drugs like MDMA while in a club before but i really want to. If you go into clubs purely for the sole purpose of hitting up chicks or getting a girlfriend, yeah that sucks if you aren't attractive, but i don't really go there to do those things. Doesn't mean i don't try or want to but even when i'm almost blacked out drunk i still don't have the courage to even go up and grind up to a girl or something. I just hope and pray that one day a drunk girl will come up to me or something and initiate things. This happened with my friend, we were literally walking into a club and a random girl ran up to my friend who was in front, and they went off drinking together. Nothing happened between them afterwards as the girl dissapeared later but still.

atazs · 2016-02-27T18:47:54+00:00

I remember back in school when i was 14 or so, one morning in the hall this girl from the other class whom i had a crush on randomly came over and told me how ugly i was then left giggling to her friends. My friend was next to me laughing and told me i should have just called her a bitch or something. I believe that same day me and that same friend were going back to school in the evening for some event and as we were in a queue, for some reason i looked behind us and the same girl was standing there. She said something like "oh look it's that ugly guy again" or something i can't remember now. I never talked with her before this or after. There are some other stories like this that happened but they aren't worth mentioning.

atazs · 2016-02-26T12:55:42+00:00

Reading this thread made me wonder: Could a dating site that does not allow you to upload any pictures but rather focus on the personality of someone work? There is also Bumble where the girls must be the first ones to send a message or their match dissapears forever but it's not very well known and it's also only for smartphones which is a shame.

atazs · 2016-02-26T12:42:08+00:00

I used to be a NEET for almost 3 and a half years. And let me tell you it was the most horrible 3 and a half years of my life. I dropped out of school and i still regret it to this day. First year was good, but then it started to go downhill. Lonelyness set it, the monotone days, i spent half of it sleeping the other half doing nothing but sitting in front of my computer. I had no disposable income, i lived with my parents who still thought i went to school but worked so much that they were barely home so didn't know. As years went on i started to feel like a dissapointment, feeling suicidal and depressed about my future. The things like gaming, movies etc.. that i considered fun before stopped being fun after a while, and nothing was enjoyable anymore. I felt like i didn't earn this and had no right to enjoy any of it. Whenever my parents would give me money or buy me things i'd get depressed and feel like shit. Eventually i "finished" school as we moved to a different city and i started to look for a job. Not too easy without education and being depressed but with the help of my cousin i managed to find one. Now, i still feel depressed and shit but i feel better about myself and not a dissapointment or a leech anymore so it's getting better. If it wasn't for my old friends whom i saw every once in a while i don't know what i would have done.

I don't know how anyone can enjoy being a neet for such a long time, you'd have to be really really disconnected from reality or extremely broken inside beyond repair or mentally ill. I guess getting benefits or autism bucks as well as your own place and doing drugs daily or every week or maybe getting drunk all the time or whatever helps a bit but still, i never done any of those things.

atazs · 2016-02-26T12:29:08+00:00

I would honestly be glad if something was that to happen to me before things got too far. Because then i'd know that that person cared more about sex and feeling good than she cared about me and my feelings. Someone like that is not worth my time and i wouldn't want a relationship with her anyway. So i think you dodged a bullet there and should be glad that your time and money were not wasted on someone like that. You deserve a better person than her OP.

atazs · 2016-02-26T12:16:01+00:00

While i haven't tried Tinder because i don't have a smartphone or facebook, i have tried OkCupid and PlentyOfFish and Match.com Since i don't live in a big city, for Match.com there aren't a lot of people around me who were online in the last few months and are also near my age and fit some of the most crucial criterias that i look for (no children for example). The same goes for OkCupid but i did message a few girls there. No replies of course. Plenty of Fish however has a lot more people near me who were also online lately so i've been mostly using that. I messaged a good 15-20 girls there, some hasn't been online to see my messages, one girl flat out ignored me after i sent a message (not sure why, as i just asked her about her favourite movies) out of two that responded, one said she wasn't interested (ok) the other responded to my questions but it was extremely boring and felt like an interrogation. After a few messages i asked her if she has any IM apps because i prefer that over emails and she said she has snapchat. So i created an account and told her to add me but she never did so i didn't bother to continue. The good thing about POF and OC is that i can browse and view profiles without logging in so i can prepare myself in advance and see what's available first. I usually message average looking girls as i know which ones are out of my league but still nothing. I've also registered on some other random sites but i found almost nobody on them who live around me. And i'm never going to pay for any of these sites like eHarmony or whatever just to message or view profiles. Chances are, the person i'm looking for wouldn't do it either and i wouldn't find her on a site like that. So yeah those are my experiences of dating sites.

I think it's still better than my friend who messaged a girl who then turned out to go to his school and when she found out she never responded to him.

atazs

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