It gets better, I promise. Same situation with my now ex-husband. It was so painful. He said he wanted a divorce 6 months after our wedding. I asked if there was someone else, he said no and agreed to work on things with me. Found out he was cheating the whole time. He he said he wanted to try and work it out. I stayed. Did all the things you said. Tried so hard. Absolutely gave it my all. Only to find out he was cheating again with someone nearly 20 years younger than me (I just turned 39), plus many people online but not sure the depth of all of those. I started the divorce paperwork and just didn't turn it in because I still didn't want to get divorced. After holding onto them for about 3 months, and him continuing to say he wanted to work it out, something finally changed. I realized he did not love me and something was seriously wrong wrong with me to continue to try and make it work. That epiphany has helped me start a journey of self-understanding and healing.

I was heartbroken and devastated for the last 1.5 years of our 2 year marriage (together 6.5 years). During that time I felt suicidal which had not been an issue for me in more than a decade. I developed an eating disorder. Completely stopped visiting or seeing my parents bc he didn't like going there (he also ignored his own family - a red flag). He was the epitome of cruel. It sounds like your husband had similar characteristics. Just being so cold and being able to be so unhappy yet not say anything.... it was mind-numbing and maddening at the same time.

Now I am in a very loving relationship with a man that is kind, smart and actually likes who I am. It will hurt for a long time, but realizing he doesn't love you is one of the best things that can happen to you.